There are various public people-searching websites where even if you search by a maiden name, it will likely pull up the woman (and show you her AKAs). That's one way to find the married name of your former classmates.
I would have to remember some hottie's maiden name from 20 years ago. That's not always easy. That has helped me with some in the past but I can't get every female that way.
Some people also manage to get their names removed from those too.
Also, some of those websites are a bit shady.
I go to an expensive gym and the older women there do turn eyes.
True. Equinox is a good gym like that.
I highly doubt the women at the Equinox location in Dallas are as attractive on average as the women at my "Hot Girl U" college gym.
I can't speak for everyone else's experiences but I think most adult men would struggle to match the opportunities afforded to them in college. I lived in a co-ed dorm for two years and there were young, hot, eager to have fun girls everywhere. In the lobby, roaming the floors, in the men's rooms, you name it. Not really an adult equivalent to any of that unless you're a mogul of some sort who can create that environment on your own. Of course that doesn't mean it has to be all downhill as an adult but let's not get carried away about college being overrated compared to the lives most 50 year old men are living, especially with regards to proximity to attractive young women.
The college campus experience does offer some solid opportunities for proximity to attractive young women. The typical 30s/40s guy living in a bigger city doesn't have the same proximity as someone at a large public university that I would deem as "Hot Girl U".
It is true that there is better proximity but college girls are often in a relationship at any given moment. The same is true about post-college females in bigger cities too. While almost no one is married in the central city neighborhoods in Dallas where I spend most of my time (allowing me to write the "Observations on Dallas' Scene thread), most of them also are in committed relationships at any time.
The typical 30s/40s man ends up as a pussie beggar for women near his own age.
Op has a point, but the majority of men will not get the opportunity to experience this post college boom. Most men are just better off capitalizing in college or pre 25 years then expecting another wave after their twenties.
Men in the 21-25 range are most attractive to prime age females, not older men. Older men need a lot of income/net worth to offset that difference or be in ridiculous shape for a 30s/40s guy. Most men use the income/net worth strategy to date early 20s women when much older.
Men as a whole are most attractive to the widest swath of women between 25-30. After early 30s, the typical man only dates women near his own age. That's why I say "pussie beggar for women near his own age".
Too many older men try to bet on being one of those older outlier or near outlier type men.