Suave1's Approach/Dating Journal

[Suave1]

Day 21
0 approaches.
I walked around for about an hour trying to approach. I don't know if it was because my sex drive was 0 after the day before, or what, but I did not approach at all. I had a couple opportunities too... it was mostly due to anxiety. Since I've been approaching for awhile now, I'm starting to see the girls I've approached around campus. I usually get smiles from them, but man, it's tough on me. I don't know why - I think because they judge me. Does anyone have advice on this? I think I just have to man up and admit like previously mentioned on this log, I am manning up and taking control of my destiny, which should be respected by people. As long as I'm doing it in a smooth and respectful way, I should have no shame approaching girls.

Also another thought: There is something to be said about not resting on your laurels. Essentially, don't look back and what was accomplished. Instead, look at what needs to be accomplished. For me, with game, that's not looking back at the success this week and instead thinking I need to bang 9s and 10s now(as opposed to 7s), do 3somes, and much more. That's going to be my approach now...

 

[powersize]

OP how many girls do you have in your rotation now after you started cold approaching?

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Day 20
I had sex with 2 girls in one day today, wow. On the other hand, I did one approach.
Approach 1: 8/10. Not my best approach, was feeling pretty tired. She was walking and I said my opener. I don't think it was delivered with quite enough conviction. However, the girl said she had a boyfriend. Not a big deal. The real problem is I only did one approach yesterday. Mostly because I didn't have the time.

At noon, I met up with the girl from last week that I made out with in my car. We planned on going to my place to cook food together. She was super down from the beginning, as we started making out almost immediately. We actually did not make any food, lol. I started kissing her body and taking her clothes off, and within about 20 minutes of us meeting up, we were having sex! This lay represents yet another one in the book for cold approaching. More than that, my process is getting more refined and I'm getting better. The biggest thing I had to learn was escalating and planning proper dates that allow for escalation.

Then, when she left my house, my FWB came over 1.5 hours later. We had sex and spent a few hours together. I made sure to change the sheets first.

All in all, really happy with the result. It almost doesn't feel real. However, the pain point is, I have only done 1 approach this week. In business terms, my leading indicator is in the dumpster right now. I need to pick it up!

Btw - sorry for posting this day a little late.
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You're absolutely right like always. I especially agree about discarding things that hinder you. I feel like as of late I've been an emotional tampon to a few people and I can tell my emotional energy is down because of it. Thanks for this advice. I'm also working on removing porn completely. It's *really* hard but also really worth it.

Meditation is huge. Sounds lame. Feminine even. The pursuit of women who are hyper emo and typically a slave to their feelers. Men mistakenly associated their value based on the girls ****ty behavior. Chalk up this time with recovery. Active recovery is key. Cultivate being. This is man's primal state. Sadly modern man is effeminate. Chucks fight club portrayed this decades ago and it's far worse.

Caution with the fwb. It's great that you can pull. You git steady poon. Make sure plan Z isn't hindering the process. At least do your road work. Minimum 3 approaches. Crush fwb after. When was the last Dr Dre Album? Guy is getting divorce raped. Look at where and when McGregor and Tyson fell off? It's chasing women.

I don't chase. I replace. Take your shot ALWAYS but, be about your biz. Get your money right. Be custodian of your fortune. Everything is reps in lifetime. World class is deemed 10000 hrs. I don't know. I just know greatness in any endeavor follows reps. Your energy and time is finite. Use it wisely.

 

[corrector]

Also another thought: There is something to be said about not resting on your laurels. Essentially, don't look back and what was accomplished. Instead, look at what needs to be accomplished. For me, with game, that's not looking back at the success this week and instead thinking I need to bang 9s and 10s now(as opposed to 7s), do 3somes, and much more. That's going to be my approach now...

Then what?

 

[Suave1]

Day 22
3 approaches
Approach 1: 7/10. Tall, straight hair, dark eyes. I was walking the opposite way of her. She gave me heavy IOIs so I had to approach, I turned around and went to say hi. Good one, went super well. She was into me but I was really nervous. She could feel that, I know. So it didn’t really go perfect because of that reason. Nothing I can do really now, just a commitment to do better. I think one reason why a-holes(I mean hardcore ones, not just self assured people) find it easy to get women is because they don’t care about what others think of them. For me, I care what people think of me, especially when I approach, so it’s hard for me to be present and masculine in the conversation. A-holes on the other hand don’t have this disadvantage, and can focus 100% on the girl because they don’t care about those around them. That’s just my early hypothesis, more testing and data is needed.
Approach 2: 9/10. Looked short, straight hair, tan skin. She was sitting down, I was pretty nervous but I went over and did it anyways. She said she had a boyfriend, but towards the end, was asking me questions. All in all, good approach, but not a great outcome. That can’t be control - which means it’s ok.
Approach 3: 8.5/10. Average height, curly-ish hair, white skin, big eyes, thic. I approached this girl before… that was awkward. She was kinda annoyed I could tell. That was my fault, I think I need to take a “mental snapshots of every quick interaction I have with the girls who reject me. Because obviously I remember the faces of the girls who give me their number, but not some of the quick rejections I experience. So from now on, I’m going to try to mentally remember every girl’s face a little better. It sucks because that’s yet another thing I have to do, but the upside is I’m on a college campus so there’s a lot of girls to approach.

With approaching girls that I’ve approached before, it’s like, what are my choices? I either don’t approach and avoid that problem, or approach and risk it. Honestly it’s not that big of a deal, but my only fear is the girl would report me to the university. What I’m doing is fine and legal, but I could see how I would be an easy target. So my only option is to get better. Which means committing to memory the faces of the girls I’ve approached.

From now on, as a system, I will remember the faces of the girls I’ve approached for the past 3 days. Before posting the log for the day, I will think about each of their faces and commit it to memory.

I’m also going to add a new identifier to every report, which is a few basic details of what they look like, so I can jog my memory easier.

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OP how many girls do you have in your rotation now after you started cold approaching?

2. One of which I see 2-3 times a week

Meditation is huge. Sounds lame. Feminine even. The pursuit of women who are hyper emo and typically a slave to their feelers. Men mistakenly associated their value based on the girls ****ty behavior. Chalk up this time with recovery. Active recovery is key. Cultivate being. This is man's primal state. Sadly modern man is effeminate. Chucks fight club portrayed this decades ago and it's far worse.

Caution with the fwb. It's great that you can pull. You git steady poon. Make sure plan Z isn't hindering the process. At least do your road work. Minimum 3 approaches. Crush fwb after. When was the last Dr Dre Album? Guy is getting divorce raped. Look at where and when McGregor and Tyson fell off? It's chasing women.

I don't chase. I replace. Take your shot ALWAYS but, be about your biz. Get your money right. Be custodian of your fortune. Everything is reps in lifetime. World class is deemed 10000 hrs. I don't know. I just know greatness in any endeavor follows reps. Your energy and time is finite. Use it wisely.

Thank you for your advice. You are right about the active recovery. To stay in my peak state, recovery is needed. You're right about letting the FWBs get in the way of approaches. Getting FWBs isn't the prize, getting better at pickup is the prize actually.

I like what you said about time and effort. I feel like if there's any overarching point to all self-improvement, it's that time is your most precious resource. I'm aiming to cut more and more bull**** out of my life. I don't have time... we all don't have time. In 10 years, we will all be 10 years closer to dying. Time is of the essence in all pursuits. I hope I am making those that read this now and in the future proud. What I'm doing everyday is ****ing hard, but worth it when I look back and see the success I've cultivated for myself.

 

[flipflip]

I never went to college but I'd love to meet some college girls. There's a college not too far from my house. What time of day should I go to meet women?

 

[Grounded eagle]

Huge fan of this thread.

 

[Suave1]

Day 23
0 approaches
Let my emotions get the best of me today. I was feeling pretty bad after a long night of work the day before, so I didn't approach when I was on campus. The campus was pretty dead anyways(Fridays always are it seems). I hate how my emotions can be so up and down sometimes. I know a big part of success is just doing it even when you don't feel like it, but on a day like today where I was literally exhausted, I don't feel like my approaches would go great. I need to work on my mindset routine and work to remove more stress from my life. I think I'm going to prioritize approaching on Tuesday and Wednesday, with the intention of going for more Thursday and Friday coffee dates. I know I talked about this before, I need to do it.

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I never went to college but I'd love to meet some college girls. There's a college not too far from my house. What time of day should I go to meet women?

10am-3pm. Only go if you're actually around college age. I would say 26-27 is the limit. I'm 23(I know my profile is wrong, I can't change it). Good luck!

 

[flipflip]

Day 23
0 approaches
Let my emotions get the best of me today. I was feeling pretty bad after a long night of work the day before, so I didn't approach when I was on campus. The campus was pretty dead anyways(Fridays always are it seems). I hate how my emotions can be so up and down sometimes. I know a big part of success is just doing it even when you don't feel like it, but on a day like today where I was literally exhausted, I don't feel like my approaches would go great. I need to work on my mindset routine and work to remove more stress from my life. I think I'm going to prioritize approaching on Tuesday and Wednesday, with the intention of going for more Thursday and Friday coffee dates. I know I talked about this before, I need to do it.

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10am-3pm. Only go if you're actually around college age. I would say 26-27 is the limit. I'm 23(I know my profile is wrong, I can't change it). Good luck!

Thanks! Do you think going to sporting events at the college would be a good place to meet them too?

 

[CollegeMan22]

Thanks! Do you think going to sporting events at the college would be a good place to meet them too?

Any event works good for meeting women at college if you can’t work up the courage to simply approach them. The event gives you an easy conversation starter and then you just go from there and get her number. I personally like dances, just because I have a lot of fun and can be ****y & funny easier, but any event can work. The main thing is to come across as confident and to think of yourself as the prize.

 

[Suave1]

Thanks! Do you think going to sporting events at the college would be a good place to meet them too?

Like a football game? People go there to watch the game. I would say you have a chance of hitting on a girl if she is sitting next to you at the game(high five her on big plays, etc). Besides that, no. You could talk to a girl in line at the concession stands but your game has to be on point because most likely she's with friends.

Going to parties surrounding the event is definitely a good idea.

 

[flipflip]

Like a football game? People go there to watch the game. I would say you have a chance of hitting on a girl if she is sitting next to you at the game(high five her on big plays, etc). Besides that, no. You could talk to a girl in line at the concession stands but your game has to be on point because most likely she's with friends.

Going to parties surrounding the event is definitely a good idea.

I'd like to just go and approach them during school hours, I just cant think of an idea yet as to why I'm there if they ask lol

 

[powersize]

I'd like to just go and approach them during school hours, I just cant think of an idea yet as to why I'm there if they ask lol

If they ask just go with “looking for some asses”

 

[Suave1]

Day 24
2 approaches
Approach 1: 8.5/10. Brown hair straight, glasses, beautiful face. I previously walked around for 45 minutes before talking to her. It's crazy how approach anxiety stops us sometimes, even though we are pretty proficient at game and have gotten success from it. That's still something I have to master. This was an easy approach because she was sitting down, and I was walking past. I delivered my opener and she was kind of caught off guard. I was a bit nervous and I think my volume was 20% higher than it should have been. She said she had a boyfriend(that actually made me less nervous a little) and then we talked for a minute after.

Approach 2: 6.5/10. Very curvy, chubby-ish face. Curly hair. She was sitting down. This time I didn't have as much anxiety. The line came out great. I think it came out too smooth actually, I didn't put enough energy behind it(I was tired - just got out of class). She said she had a boyfriend but she said thank you.

I feel like both girls today I approached were a bit nervous. I think that the reason is I was nervous, which then transfers over to them through my microexpressions. I have to work on removing the fear I have around approaching. I'm not weird for it, I'm just confident and go after what I want. This isn't an overnight fix I don't think, unfortunately.

I also met up with the chick I had sex with from last week again! We had sex, it was pretty good. She texted me at midnight "I can't stop thinking about our time together today"... that was a good feeling! Honestly, moments like those make dealing with the approach anxiety and fear worth it.
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I'd like to just go and approach them during school hours, I just cant think of an idea yet as to why I'm there if they ask lol

This may be counter to what some may say on this forum, but I would actually recommend taking classes. There are easy certificate programs offered by most colleges if you don't want to do degree seeking classes. Why? You'll have similarities between the girls, you will have a student ID to swipe into buildings, and you'll also probably gain career resume points as well. There are programs that are 1-2 classes a semester and a walk in the park. You could decide not to do that, but I've never had success gaming at a college I didn't go to. I've actually tried *a lot*, over 50 approaches at this college 45 mins away from me. I feel like college is an insulated community, and girls are hesitant to go out with a guy they just met on campus, outside of campus. Coffee dates on campus work best for 1st dates. That's my opinion based on my experience, don't let me tell you what to do.

 

[SW15]

Keep going with this @Suave1. Approaching in this environment is a challenge.

 

[Suave1]

Day 25
2 approaches
Approach 1: 7.5/10. Average height, curly black hair. Curvy. I'm really proud of myself for this one, actually. I wasn't even in my approaching "mindset" yet and I went up to her and said my line. She hooked pretty fast and we had nice rapport. She went for the handshake at the end. One area for improvement is to go for the insta date for 20 minutes or so, she had class in half an hour.

Approach 2: 6/10. Blonde hair, green eyes, weirdish shaped face. This was an easy one. She was very attractive from afar, but up close her face wasn't that cute. The approach actually went really well, but she said she had a boyfriend. I was a little bit nervous after she said she had a boyfriend for some reason.

All in all, good day. Met with my FWB for sex as well.

I need to prioritize school and my business for the next couple days... I'm falling behind I feel like. Tomorrow I have a date at 2pm with the girl I made out with from last Monday.

Areas for improvement: I need to find a place where I can camp and do work, while seeing girls walk past me. I also need to schedule my days better so I can take more girls on insta dates.
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Keep going with this @Suave1. Approaching in this environment is a challenge.

Thanks bro. But, why do you think it's more challenging?

 

[SW15]

Thanks bro. But, why do you think it's more challenging?

Pandemic. Indoor masking.

 

[CollegeMan22]

Pandemic. Indoor masking.

60% are still outdoor masked at my college. They have a hard time with the massive fear-mongering made to make up sheep.

 

[Suave1]

Pandemic. Indoor masking.

Oh, I think that's overblown now. It wasn't in the summer of last year, but I don't think many people(outside 10% or so of the population that has an autoimmune disease or they're just crazy) care that much. Think about it this way - if they were *that* afraid of covid they'd just be staying home. My university offers fully online classes still. Also, anyone can get groceries and stuff delivered now too. So, besides going to work, you could effectively never leave your house.

I approach only the girls without masks as of now, but I'm most likely going to be approaching girls with masks soon. I look at it the opposite way - people are starved for genuine social interaction.

 

[Suave1]

Day 26
2 approaches
Approach 1: 9/10. Gorgeous, big eyes brownish-black hair. Pretty thic and muscular. This was a fun one. I could tell just from my interaction she was a very high value girl, not just from her looks, but also her mindset. She wasn’t bitchy and asked me a lot of questions, but she seemed to be reserved slightly. Went for the close and said she had a boyfriend. Fun approach though! Need more like those

Approach 2: 7/10. Short, curly gold hair, skinny. She hooked instantly. She seemed very chill too. One thing I’m getting internalized is looking at girls like you want to **** them. Basically imagine in your head you ****ing them, which comes across in the way you look and talk to them. I did it here and it went well I think! Got her number. One area for improvement would be ask for insta-date, unfortunately I had a commitment right after so I couldn’t go for it. (Note for future readers - Only use the eye **** technique on girls that have hooked and are into you. Can come across creepy otherwise)

On another note, I saw one of the girls I cold approached a couple days ago. This time, I knew for certain I approached her because I'm doing the facial recall system I previously talked about. So the system is working, which is great.

Day 30 is coming up! To celebrate, I'm doing a forum post called something along the lines of "Things I've learned from 30 days of approaching"(really like 45 days bc I don't count weekends). Does anyone have any questions or things you want me to emphasize more?

Also: I am going to start to post my text threads for feedback. I made a separate thread(see here), but I'll also post the link to the screenshots here for cohesion. I'd love feedback!

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