Day 22
3 approaches
Approach 1: 7/10. Tall, straight hair, dark eyes. I was walking the opposite way of her. She gave me heavy IOIs so I had to approach, I turned around and went to say hi. Good one, went super well. She was into me but I was really nervous. She could feel that, I know. So it didn’t really go perfect because of that reason. Nothing I can do really now, just a commitment to do better. I think one reason why a-holes(I mean hardcore ones, not just self assured people) find it easy to get women is because they don’t care about what others think of them. For me, I care what people think of me, especially when I approach, so it’s hard for me to be present and masculine in the conversation. A-holes on the other hand don’t have this disadvantage, and can focus 100% on the girl because they don’t care about those around them. That’s just my early hypothesis, more testing and data is needed.
Approach 2: 9/10. Looked short, straight hair, tan skin. She was sitting down, I was pretty nervous but I went over and did it anyways. She said she had a boyfriend, but towards the end, was asking me questions. All in all, good approach, but not a great outcome. That can’t be control - which means it’s ok.
Approach 3: 8.5/10. Average height, curly-ish hair, white skin, big eyes, thic. I approached this girl before… that was awkward. She was kinda annoyed I could tell. That was my fault, I think I need to take a “mental snapshots of every quick interaction I have with the girls who reject me. Because obviously I remember the faces of the girls who give me their number, but not some of the quick rejections I experience. So from now on, I’m going to try to mentally remember every girl’s face a little better. It sucks because that’s yet another thing I have to do, but the upside is I’m on a college campus so there’s a lot of girls to approach.
With approaching girls that I’ve approached before, it’s like, what are my choices? I either don’t approach and avoid that problem, or approach and risk it. Honestly it’s not that big of a deal, but my only fear is the girl would report me to the university. What I’m doing is fine and legal, but I could see how I would be an easy target. So my only option is to get better. Which means committing to memory the faces of the girls I’ve approached.
From now on, as a system, I will remember the faces of the girls I’ve approached for the past 3 days. Before posting the log for the day, I will think about each of their faces and commit it to memory.
I’m also going to add a new identifier to every report, which is a few basic details of what they look like, so I can jog my memory easier.
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OP how many girls do you have in your rotation now after you started cold approaching?
2. One of which I see 2-3 times a week
Meditation is huge. Sounds lame. Feminine even. The pursuit of women who are hyper emo and typically a slave to their feelers. Men mistakenly associated their value based on the girls ****ty behavior. Chalk up this time with recovery. Active recovery is key. Cultivate being. This is man's primal state. Sadly modern man is effeminate. Chucks fight club portrayed this decades ago and it's far worse.
Caution with the fwb. It's great that you can pull. You git steady poon. Make sure plan Z isn't hindering the process. At least do your road work. Minimum 3 approaches. Crush fwb after. When was the last Dr Dre Album? Guy is getting divorce raped. Look at where and when McGregor and Tyson fell off? It's chasing women.
I don't chase. I replace. Take your shot ALWAYS but, be about your biz. Get your money right. Be custodian of your fortune. Everything is reps in lifetime. World class is deemed 10000 hrs. I don't know. I just know greatness in any endeavor follows reps. Your energy and time is finite. Use it wisely.
Thank you for your advice. You are right about the active recovery. To stay in my peak state, recovery is needed. You're right about letting the FWBs get in the way of approaches. Getting FWBs isn't the prize, getting better at pickup is the prize actually.
I like what you said about time and effort. I feel like if there's any overarching point to all self-improvement, it's that time is your most precious resource. I'm aiming to cut more and more bull**** out of my life. I don't have time... we all don't have time. In 10 years, we will all be 10 years closer to dying. Time is of the essence in all pursuits. I hope I am making those that read this now and in the future proud. What I'm doing everyday is ****ing hard, but worth it when I look back and see the success I've cultivated for myself.
