Here's how what you said felt to me Eddie:
It sounds to me like your mistress is testing you with the claim that she's leaving her husband, the claim to cut off the physical, and pretty much all of the other drama/back-and-forth you're seeing now. My guess would be that she has decided she wants to swap her husband for you, and that she'd like to see you leave your wife for her.
Sex is usually a means to an end for a woman. They really want a relationship, and if need be, they'll use sex to get it. I'm guessing she wants you 24/7 now, so she's going through emotional and manipulative loops to try to make that happen. That's why she balled like crazy after you "sent her packing" so to speak, despite saying she didn't want to have sex with you (you should have read; she didn't want to give you sex anymore without her getting what she wanted in return (you 24/7).
This all being said, you cannot go back to her not wanting all of you and just wanting the weekly sex. Once they flip that switch in their mind, you cannot go back. If you want to add an affair again, it needs to be with another woman. If you continue to play with fire with her, she will eventually just give up and possibly lash out at you, such as by telling on you to your wife. Yes, I'm sure you are aware as am I that your marriage could probably survive it, but still it would be a pain in the ass to have to deal with all the emotional issues your wife would have to go through.
So, the affair might have been fun, but they always have an ending. Your mistress' emotional change ended it. Try to drop out smoothly and not piss her off in the process. Remember, indifference is the most powerful hating weapon, and it should kill even her wanting you anymore. Use indifference to end the affair.
It sounds to me like your mistress is testing you with the claim that she's leaving her husband, the claim to cut off the physical, and pretty much all of the other drama/back-and-forth you're seeing now. My guess would be that she has decided she wants to swap her husband for you, and that she'd like to see you leave your wife for her.
Sex is usually a means to an end for a woman. They really want a relationship, and if need be, they'll use sex to get it. I'm guessing she wants you 24/7 now, so she's going through emotional and manipulative loops to try to make that happen. That's why she balled like crazy after you "sent her packing" so to speak, despite saying she didn't want to have sex with you (you should have read; she didn't want to give you sex anymore without her getting what she wanted in return (you 24/7).
This all being said, you cannot go back to her not wanting all of you and just wanting the weekly sex. Once they flip that switch in their mind, you cannot go back. If you want to add an affair again, it needs to be with another woman. If you continue to play with fire with her, she will eventually just give up and possibly lash out at you, such as by telling on you to your wife. Yes, I'm sure you are aware as am I that your marriage could probably survive it, but still it would be a pain in the ass to have to deal with all the emotional issues your wife would have to go through.
So, the affair might have been fun, but they always have an ending. Your mistress' emotional change ended it. Try to drop out smoothly and not piss her off in the process. Remember, indifference is the most powerful hating weapon, and it should kill even her wanting you anymore. Use indifference to end the affair.