Hey guys
Just your friendly neighborhood Slick back with some more food for thought.
I'm sorry that I've let this thread die somewhat but as you know I've been extremely busy with renos at my place.
Once again I'd like to thank all those who took the time to respond and give advice thru a somewhat stressfull time for me. Looking back at it all now it doesn't seem as big of a deal but believe me it was sure tough at the time.
Anyhow I've had some time today to re-read much of this thread and it has me thinking about a few things that I'd like to discuss and throw out there for thought.
1. Take the advice and criticism you recieve from this forum with a grain of salt. Absolutely no offence to any who gave advice or criticism to me on this thread. However re-reading this post has made me realize how difficult it is to give good advice based on a few paragraphs someone has written. Real life isn't like that and there are WAY too many variables in every situation which makes it impossible to give the best advice for a person. I know alot of you thought I was crazy getting too involved with Rebecca and figured I should just keep banging Corrine. Well that remains to be seen
but what I'm trying to say is that I had to go with my gut instincts and do what felt right to me.
Once again no offence to anyone however, I know from now on I'm going to be very careful about the advice/criticism I give to others.
2. There is no end to the possibilities with women when you are a DJ. I know I read posts on this forum everyday where guys are complaining about their failures and lack of success and I just can't understand it anymore. If you are one of these people then I suggest you re-read this thread. I'm just decent looking 33 yr old guy. I'm not rich or powerful. I don't drive an expensive car. I don't dress overly fancy. I really think the only "special" thing I have going for me is my attitude. I got out of a LTR and set out looking to meet women with a big smile on my face and not a care in the world to the outcome. This past summer was a great success for me. If I hadn't met Rebecca then I'm sure I'd still be meeting and dating tons of different women. There just seems to be an infinite number of women out there and if you have been keeping up with your DJ readings and have the right attitude then there is no end to what you can accomplish.
3. Love your job. At least tell the women you meet that you do. I'm lucky that I actually DO love my job. I tell all the women I meet that I love my job. It goes a long way in impressing women and many of them have told me so.
4. Become a handyman. Not only will you be a better person for it, this is another thing that really impresses women. There are endless number of books, TV shows, etc that you can learn from. Almost all the women I met this summer made a comment on how attractive it is when a guy actually knows how to do "something".
"All the guys I know from the city are useless." is another comment I've heard more than once. Whether it be changing your oil, building a fence, or fixing a leaky faucet, women are very impressed by guys who know how to do shyt. It makes them feel like they are secure and taken care of. Think about it. If you are the type of guy has to call the repair guy or hire help to get "everyday" things done all the time you are kind of showing your weakness. Learn how to do some shyt. Its the difference between being a man or just an ordinary Joe.
5. In regards to sex. Stop lusting over the pvssy. Her pvssy ISN'T the prize. Your d!ck IS. Just like desperation and neediness kills attraction on the street, and in the bar, or in the classroom. Being in too much of a hurry to bust a nut or get in her panties has the same effect. I know alot of you guys who aren't getting laid might have a hell of a time with this when you get close to scoring with some chick but trust me. The more you can show that screwing her doesn't really mean that much to you then the more she is going to try impress you in the bedroom. She NEEDS the validation that you desire her. They will literally scream, beg, and humiliate themselves to get it.
6. When things go sour with a woman always do your best to smooth things over. It may take awhile for emotions to calm down before you can do this but always make that effort. Wouldn't you rather have your ex's pining over you and wishing you were still with them and telling all her friends how great you were. Rather than have her bad mouthing you for being some player that did her wrong. Down the road and years later this really pays off.
7. Almost all women have the same Hollywood dream of meeting Prince Charming and being swept off their feet. If you are careful and choose the right moment to talk about "fate" and "chance" and "amazing connections" early on in a seduction you can really have her crazy about you. ***Use with caution.
Lastly the nature of this forum tends to attract heart broken, bitter, negative guys who have been done wrong by some woman along the way. Don't get me wrong but there are alot of great guys here who give great advice too. However I see so many posts where some guy tells the story about how he met this great girl who he is really excited about only to be bombarded by other DJ's telling him that he's an AFC with oneitis and he should Next her before its too late.
Sure there are alot of guys here who need their heads screwed on straight and need a kick in the arse sometimes. However many, if not most people come here to learn to be prepared for when they do meet Mrs. Right. And there's nothing wrong with that or getting stoked about some great girl. Falling in love is real and its not something you can really choose how or when it should happen. It just does. Trust me I've been the bitter twisted player who didn't believe in any of that shyt too.
I just sometimes feel that this forum breeds insecurity and its sad to see guys getting negative advice from bitter people.
If you only follow your heart its true - you can get yourself hurt and in trouble. However if you educate yourself about dealing with women. Listen to your mind, then your gut, and finally your heart, you'll be okay.
It is a harsh game sometimes but if you don't open your heart or yourself to the possibilities that are out there - then why play?
Now for a few updates or should I call them epilogues....
Renee (chick I met on the private island) I heard that a few mutual friends were pressing her and asking her "Why didn't you and Slick hit it off?" To which she responded "He just wasn't my type." Oh well Renee you're probably right.
Chatty Kathy (girl who shot me down when I asked for her number. Told me she was moving.) Turns out she's still around town. I've seen her around and she actually remembered me and enthusiastically came to talk. Seemed really awkward and quickly left when she saw Rebecca approach.
Rianna (ex gf who recently split with her husband) We were meeting for no strings sex every week. She's back with her husband. Haven't heard from her since.
Erin Still see her all the time. Flirts like crazy even though she has a boyfriend.
Jennifer (hot Latina chick) Found out she has a husband. I guess that's explains the continous cold shoulder.
Karen (temporary summer employee at my place of work. Went on a good date that went bad.) I ended up ignoring her for the remainder of the summer. When she left at the end of the summer came to apologize for the way she acted and said she had a really good time. Hugs.
Corrine (hot waitress) Man I really ended up liking this one. I felt just awful about the way things went down and how I broke her heart. I've seen her around town while I've been with Rebecca and she just looked SO heartbroken. She has a new boyfriend now and they look happy. She actually called me to wish me happy B-day last month. We smoothed things over and both agreed that we still have feelings for one another but can't pursue them right now. I'm sure the door is still open if we cross paths in the future. She's alot cooler than I initially gave her credit for. Who knows what would've happened if my first impression was different. She's gotten out of that sh*tty waitress job and has plans to go to school. I hope we can be friends in the future.
Rebecca Crazy as it seems we're both in love and loving every minute of it! I know talking like that is almost blasphemy around this place but I don't give a f*ck. Things are going SO great and I'm doing my best to keep her Interest Level thru the roof and right to the stars. So far its working. If things go sour I'm a better person for the experience.
So there you have it. I know this thread started on a different note but maybe I'll keep it going from time to time and keep you all updated on how the relationship with Rebecca is going. I'm sure there will be ups and downs as there always are and maybe some other guys in relationships would like to hear how I'm dealing with the pitfalls. Let me know if you want to hear more.
Who knows what the future holds for me. I may find myself single once again. If so there will always be more Slick Tales.
Thanks for reading.
Slick
