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Single men just don’t care about sex anymore, study says

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You can read the full report cited in the New York Post article here....


One amazing quote...

"Despite local restrictions and worldwide uncertainty, 74% of singles say the pandemic hasn’t negatively affected their dating life."

Translation: Most were not getting laid before the pandemic started and most aren't getting laid after.

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Single men care about sex. Why is male thirst at pandemic like levels? Why did OnlyFans have a huge rise in popularity?

Single men want to bang average (not fat) women, cute (slightly better than average) women, and the top tier most attractive women.

Same as always.
I would not cite anything from match LLC. Notice they push video and virtual dating hard in the article as well. Basically goes against the advice on here.
 

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That's weird. I never felt in any danger at all in either Colombia or Mexico.

I've never been to any of the tourist resort places like Cancun or Tulum, and I have no desire to. Next time I go back to Mexico, I want to see Guadalajara and Oaxaca. These 2 places I didn't go to last time because someone suggested Puerto Vallarta, which totally sucked just like any tourist trap.

I always use Ubers.

Its just quite simply being at the wrong place at the wrong time. You feel safe until it happens. Mexican police are plenty good enough reason to never go there though. A lot of them work with the cartels some are even cartel. Columbian police are corrupt as well...but Mexican police are on a different level. I dont trust ANY of them.

Tell yourself it is just the tourist trap cities all you want. But everywhere in Mexico is dangerous. As long as cartel and their crooked police exist it always will be. It would take interference by the US military to change anything and we all know that would never happen.

Columbia is also dangerous but the tourist zones in Cartegena are the safest in the country based on my research. The city government actually keeps their police here in check somewhat because it depends so much on tourism.

In mexico they just cover everything up as much as possible and say oh well. And yeah the tourist traps are still very dangerous there as well.

I still avoid columbian police like the plague though. Am not taking any chances with any latin america police after my experiences in Mexico.

Snowflakes in the US who complain about our police really have no idea lol.
 
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The interesting thing is the study reflects the saying "10/10 females are only interested in 2/10 males". I don't think it's that 81% of single men don't care about sex as much, but are starting to give up.
It is more complex.
I base a lot off of personal observation. I am potentially exposed to a very wide variety of people in my social life that runs the gammit from the worst betas to the best alphas and on the woman's side from the wall flowers to the party chicks to the religious women. I see a ton of guys who can get about any woman they want (and have done so) but they have just stopped. In fact most of the guys I would call alpha in my social circles have just stopped, and don't even have GFs. They just don't see it as much of a goal anymore. It is like the carnival game where you spend a bunch of money playing it to win a piece of crap you could have bought at Wal-Mart for $5. Like one phrase that Rich Cooper is famous for saying, "...juice ain't worth he squeeze". Another factor is that if you can get it about anytime you want,...then it doesn't seem very valuable or important.

Now that doesn't jive with all of that article,...but it is the NY Post after all, and I have little respect or confidence in them. The article is a mix of conflicting "what ifs" and "maybes". In the later part of it, it sounds like they are unknowingly saying that red pill awareness is actually making headway and winning a little bit. At least men are putting more thought into the situation they are in.
 
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There's quite a few places you can fly to in a few hours.

In Mexico, I'd recommend Monterrey. And of course there's Colombia.

Peru, Chile, and Brazil if you don't mind going that far.
Wow. Now a black sexpat. Looks like everyone into this now. Equal opportunity vice. You would not visit Argintina though?
 

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This is BS.

Sex really is one if those things in life that if you feel like you are in a big slump or just cant get it then you would do anything for it in those moments however if you have it in abundance or are used to having it in abundance, then you really can just take it or leave it.

Sometimes you might even try to avoid it out if laziness or pressure to perform. It is a great trick of the mind imo. The guys this article is referring to do not fall into that latter group.
Bet they’d care if they could get laid.
Too much soy in their diet. No father figure. No goals but video games and porn hub.
 

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Wow. Now a black sexpat. Looks like everyone into this now. Equal opportunity vice. You would not visit Argintina though?
Buenos Aires is #1 on my bucket list. Have always wanted to go.
 

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Cant have it both ways. A culture full of simps and a bunch of men not wanting sex.
I dont see this at all. I bet it is a chic
Seems this is becoming standard. Funny, through genetic testing, female testosterone rates are rising, yet for dudes, they are falling.. Wonder why? Perhaps diet and less masculine activities/roll models?
 

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I think it's a combination of both men that have become so inadequate that can't find lays and men that are genuinely interested in the pursuit of something higher than sex.

Do I think the vast majority of this data is compromised of inadequate men? Yes.

But I can't generalize every man on that statistic to be them. There are men that are in the pursuit of self-control, meaning, purpose, and being free from any type of "lust". Basically, what you think when you see a Buddhist monk. Obviously, they are not monks but those men see the power in self-restraint and control. Aka mind over body.

Bottom line is that overall that statistic is quite accurate and probably will only become more pronounced as the intergender dynamics get more skewed.

Modern Man Advice
 

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Maybe because of this? It was linked on Yahoo today. Disgusting and it's not a safe video to view, so be for warned.

 

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Maybe because of this? It was linked on Yahoo today. Disgusting and it's not a safe video to view, so be for warned.

That is a good point that I missed making. If we are being honest, we are seeing various trends in women for the last couple of decades and especially in the last few years that deters men from being interested (or genuinely interested for that matter) in engaging with women romantically/sexually:

1. Female empowerment: Strong independent women that don't need a man. They can do it all, including having a family and children I guess. This is not a feminine trait. It has masculine energy all over it. No real man is attracted to a masculine energy woman.
2. Perception of beauty: While I agree the media has falsely implanted a distorted image of beauty, there is a trend in women to let themselves go. One thing is if you are natural, another completely different animal (no pun intended) is to simply look obese and unhealthy. No man is going to be attracted to a female that looks on the verge of dying of diabetes or heart attack in the next few months. I, personally, prefer my woman fit/healthy.
3. Mentality/Mindset: Most (not all modern women have a rather toxic or nasty mentality. We see this often in tik-tok (I don't have it but from what I've seen from other members and Youtube) which has become a candid and public diary for women. They expose their nasty mentality/mindset about dating, men, themselves, etc, etc for the world to see. No real man will be attracted to that. In fact, most men will be repelled and disgusted by that.

I'm sure there are way more trends that come into play.


Modern Man Advice
 

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Tom Leykis says (and I dont quote this man often), "ejaculation is like urination." And then goes on to create a metaphor about using a bathroom that is not clean, or in a nice part of town etc, so you can go on and go about your day without thinking about the need to urinate.
You aren't going to hold it to wait for the Ritz Carlton....Do it and move on. And don't judge yourself from where you get your release...
 

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That is a good point that I missed making. If we are being honest, we are seeing various trends in women for the last couple of decades and especially in the last few years that deters men from being interested (or genuinely interested for that matter) in engaging with women romantically/sexually:

1. Female empowerment: Strong independent women that don't need a man. They can do it all, including having a family and children I guess. This is not a feminine trait. It has masculine energy all over it. No real man is attracted to a masculine energy woman.
2. Perception of beauty: While I agree the media has falsely implanted a distorted image of beauty, there is a trend in women to let themselves go. One thing is if you are natural, another completely different animal (no pun intended) is to simply look obese and unhealthy. No man is going to be attracted to a female that looks on the verge of dying of diabetes or heart attack in the next few months. I, personally, prefer my woman fit/healthy.
3. Mentality/Mindset: Most (not all modern women have a rather toxic or nasty mentality. We see this often in tik-tok (I don't have it but from what I've seen from other members and Youtube) which has become a candid and public diary for women. They expose their nasty mentality/mindset about dating, men, themselves, etc, etc for the world to see. No real man will be attracted to that. In fact, most men will be repelled and disgusted by that.

I'm sure there are way more trends that come into play.


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Used to work with a guy who actually took his wife's last name when they married.

The guy was a total pvssy, even before the marriage.

Like, I imagined him home cooking dinner while his wife worked late.
 

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Tom Leykis says (and I dont quote this man often), "ejaculation is like urination." And then goes on to create a metaphor about using a bathroom that is not clean, or in a nice part of town etc, so you can go on and go about your day without thinking about the need to urinate.
You aren't going to hold it to wait for the Ritz Carlton....Do it and move on. And don't judge yourself from where you get your release...
Elliot Hulse mentioned in one of his YT videos that a man should only ejaculate so often. He cited some doctor/scientist, but I forget the guy's name.

Said everytime a man ejaculates, he gives a little bit of his power away.
 

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Cant have it both ways. A culture full of simps and a bunch of men not wanting sex.
I dont see this at all. I bet it is a chic
Chad doesn’t want sex with her anymore, that’s the true reason behind this woe is me article. She must have really smashed into a wall for Chad to not want to sex her up anymore.
 

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bull****.....Men today do less physical labor than previous generations. Don't confuse 6 hours at the gym with 40 hours a week of sustained physical work.


Low testosterone can affect a man’s sex drive, muscle mass, energy, mental health and more. If you are low in testosterone, exercise may help.

“Exercise will boost testosterone, though certain types of exercise increase testosterone more than others,” says Richard Jadick, D.O., a Piedmont urologist.

Exercise can raise testosterone because it promotes:

  • Muscle building. The more muscle you have, the higher your testosterone levels.
  • Weight maintenance. Research has found a link between obesity and low testosterone.

 

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bull****.....Men today do less physical labor than previous generations. Don't confuse 6 hours at the gym with 40 hours a week of sustained physical work.


Low testosterone can affect a man’s sex drive, muscle mass, energy, mental health and more. If you are low in testosterone, exercise may help.

“Exercise will boost testosterone, though certain types of exercise increase testosterone more than others,” says Richard Jadick, D.O., a Piedmont urologist.

Exercise can raise testosterone because it promotes:


  • Muscle building. The more muscle you have, the higher your testosterone levels.
  • Weight maintenance. Research has found a link between obesity and low testosterone.
Explains why less fat people years ago even though gyms were not as widely avaliable and less advanced equipment.

But that's not the case for everyone. I don't have low t. I want to bang, but it's a problem when about 85 percent of the girls under 50 are not attractive. I'm not lower man standards for a fattie and I can't pass the boner test with ugly women.
 
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