First off, regarding the "11-16-2009 05:42 PM" post, you should have absolutely gone in for the kiss in her basement. You gotta have some more confidence, stop thinking a million thoughts at once, and just kiss the girl. Stop going through a whole process in your head like "ohh should I kiss her now? ehh idk her parents are upstairs". DONT make excuses for yourself. Theres NO excuses when it comes to a situation like that (heck theres no excuses for any situation when it comes to the decision of to kiss or not kiss a girl. Theres ALWAYS an easy opportunity for you to kiss her; you just have to realize it and take that opportunity).
SageProduct said:
A Dilemna
Basically, a question of if I should try to do stuff with this other girl and how I should handle it. I think Binny K (first kiss) wants to be my gf (she's initiated text with me every day for the last week and a half and invites me to hang out on weekdays) but we haven't done that much really physically (first kiss was a peck, two slightly deeper kisses) and aren't going out yet. She is going to be out of town this whole weekend.Wayyy too early to make this chick your gf. You should know that by now. You two have barely kissed/done anything sexually. Just cuz a girl texts you alot doesnt mean you have to make her your gf. Shes just really into you thats all. Take advantage of it, hook up with her more, see how far you can go sexually, get to know her better, then make your decision.
Betty L
Blah blah blah, I got mad at herYou got mad? Lol just let it go dude who gives a sh*t if she ditched you. Grind other girls., she apologized perfusely, over the summer we saw each other a couple times maybe alone. At this point I have a sexual interest in her because of how good grinding with her felt. I was way too AFC to get anywhere though. Didn't see her for a really long time and barely talked.Was he ex bf at the dance? She couldve just grinded you and all just to get him jealous.
Her personality-honestly, she's pretty psycho. She's like really smart but kinda slutty (not that she goes real far, but she's rather liberal sexually for our school's standards and has had 1109587158 different bf's). She's had like a thousand different bf's in high school, and almost all of them were ***** b!tches who were whipped by her and she knew it. Power *****. When we were friends she always flaked out and everything. Attention ***** too.
The important thing is though, I wanna do stuff with her. But not go out with her. This is a problem because I could be going out with Binny K pretty soon.
Situation
Haven't talked to her in forever. Couple days ago she came up to me randomly at school and said, "I was looking at pics of us together and...I miss you! We're gonna hang out, I don't care what any of your friends say we'll hang out just us". I grinned and said something like "alright, make it happen."
Texted me yesterday but stopped cuz I took an hour to respond. Tonight she fb chatted me. She was asking me about what colleges I wanna go to and stuff and I wouldn't tell her unless we saw each other. I played C & F by saying I hadn't time to sort through allllll the applications when she asked me about girls. She loved it.
Nitty gritty details
Then we basically started planning a hang out, just the two of us. She made most of the moves. She asked me when, I said Friday, she said how about 830. I said "ya better not be late" and she replied "ok how about 845 so i can look sharp" and i said something about looking even better than her.
She asked me what we were gonna do, I gave a fluff answer and was gonna follow up but she suggested a few things (hookah bar, drive around, watch a movie) and I flat out said "I don't smoke" (even though it's not that adamantly true) and invited her over for a movie.
She asked me what movie and I said we'll go to blockbuster together to pick one out. It sounded more and more like a date to me. End of convo.
My Concerns
That's the situation, so now what should I do? I wanna make a move on her just for plain sex reasons. However, this is a HUGE risk for my reputation, even if I didn't have something going with Binny K. My social life could well be over. And even concerning Binny K, I know we're not dating but there is some unspoken level of exclusitivity due to 1 the culture of our school and 2 we're already starting to do some couple-ish things.
How should I handle myself after whatever happens happens? Should I tell Betty L that this is our "secret" or something? Or pretend like I didn't mean to the whole time, then say that I'm almost going out with someone else and thought we were just hanging out as "friends"lol no dont say that (since that's all we've been forever)? From personal experience, Betty L is very very loose-lipped and dramatic but admires me as a person. I could get away with this due to the fact that her closest friends that she would tell have a good chance of not leaking to people that affect my reputation?Once she tells her friends, its pretty much guaranteed that Binny will find out. Trust me. This is juicy stuff for girls, theyre gonna spread it around.
Hmm ok I see. You have to weigh out your options and the pros/cons of each girl.
Betty:
Pros: You get to have some guaranteed ass from this chick; and if not when you hang out with her, you could possibly get a BJ or more.
Cons: Shes pretty slvtty, but that is irrelavant cuz your not plannin on goin out with her. Its only important if you make it important. If your the kind of guy that cares about his reputation,(which I really hope your not; you shouldnt care about what others think, let alone what your reputation is the LAST year of HS, when you wont see anyone ever again a year later) then obviously this isnt going to help if word gets out that your hookin up with this slvt.
Binny:
Pros: Possible girlfriend material, but like I said, its still WAY too early to make this chick your gf.
Cons: She could possibly be needy, and it may be tough to advance sexually with this girl. Again though, thats also tough to tell cuz you havent even really tried to advance with her that much yet.
The decision is yours, you can either:
A-Hang out with Betty and risk having Binny find out, which if you say she has loose lips, then Binny probably will find out. This is tough cuz were not sure what Binny's reaction will be. She'll either get really pissed and your chances with her will be over, or, she'll be cool about it and not really care cuz the two of you arent technically going out. I would definitely try to at least make an effort to put across to Betty that she has to keep quiet...I mean its better than not saying anything at all (in which that case she would definitely run her mouth). Might as well give it a shot and see how long Betty can keep her mouth shut for.
B-Deny Betty, and stick with Binny.
Its a tough decision, no doubt about that, but ask yourself this: Your a senior in highschool.
What do you TRULY want? Do you want to be tied down to one girl in a possible relationship with Binny? (And we're not even sure how far Betty would go sexually/how long it would take to get laid from her)
OR
Do you want to stick with Betty, get as much sexual practice as possible, and simply continue to try to get with as many other girls as possible (including still trying to get with Betty. Why pick one when you can spin plates and get both)?
What I would do: I personally would take advantage of the easy ass from Betty. I mean, unless shes like an ugly freakin slvt, then I wouldnt do anything with her, but if shes pretty decent looking, I would definitely go with her.
Your a senior in highschool man; you should be trying to get as much ass as possible and as much practice as possible before you get to college. I would try to get as far sexually as possible with Betty, while telling her to keep things quiet about the two of you, and you will do the same. If she asks why, just say something like "ohh cuz its my policy of not kissing and telling" or sum sh*t like that. Dont let her know you have Binny on the side. And regarding that, obviously you should still try to get with Binny and hookup with her while your getting ass from Betty.
Its called spinning plates my friend. 
If Binny somehow does find out, just tell her that the two of you arent even officially going out, and that your still a free man and can do what you want. And honestly dude realize this:
Binny's reaction when she finds out about you and Betty will tell alot about what kind of girl she is. If Binny still freaks out at you explain that the two of you arent even freakin going out, then that makes Binny come across as a needy and bossy girl, one who wants control over her guy (a guy that shes not even official with yet!). If she was truly a "loose", not so needy, chill girl, she would
understand that the two of you are not dating, and that the both of you still have freedom to do what you want, thus making it okay if one or both of you is hooking up with different people.
Not only that, but its still way too early to consider making Binny your gf. Like I said, you have to give it more time, try to advance sexually with her more, and get to know her better. In that period of time, you have a great opportunity to get a lot of practice and ass from Betty.
