MikeYikes122
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Alright Luke, I've been reading your threads for a while now and I feel like I can help you as well.
I was baptized Catholic and went to Catholic school for 13 years. Anytime a Bible or religious category comes up on Jeopardy I dominate it. My past is probably similar to yours - minus the overbearing/overprotective parents. I'm a decent person. I go to church almost every Sunday. I try not to sin. I don't lie, cheat, steal or make fun of anyone. I have pre-marital sex and drink way too much. I think those are the biggest strikes I have against me.
Anyway, my point is that I'm like Bible Belt in that I'm probably in a similar disposition where I can help you. Bible Belt seems like he is doing a good job of pointing you in the right direction, so I'm going to try to add some advice.
I'm sure you're realizing you have to ditch the online dating services, and if you haven't come to that conclusion yet Bible Belt will force you to have that epiphany soon. I'll give you a good alternative to help you get on the right path.
Find a church where younger people go, people your age, not elderly people and start attending it. You'll find these churches are often vehicles for younger people to socialize and make new friends. If you live in a city with a big college, find the church nearest to the campus (hopefully it's your denomination). Start going there on Sunday afternoons/evenings or Saturday evenings. Whatever you do don't go in the mornings because only older people will be there. Usually churches for younger people will have a meet-and-greet before mass starts where everyone is called upon to introduce themselves to the people sitting around them before services get underway. All you have to do is go to church at the same time/day every weekend and sit in the same spot, and you will start recognizing and introducing yourself to the same people each Sunday because I'm sure you know how church is: Everyone sits in the same spot every Sunday unless they're late or something. Find some girls who are sitting alone and not with guys, for obvious reasons. Sit by them, and you will be forced to introduce yourself. It won't be awkward because everyone is doing it. Keep sitting in that same spot, and I guarantee you the same girls sit there every weekend. Eventually, you're going to build an acquaintance with them because you'll keep introducing yourselves to one another.
This is a no-brainer Luke, and it's infinitely easier than toggling with an online dating profile to reinvent yourself.
If you can't find a particular church that does the meet-and-greet (believe me you can), simply find a church that has a lot of young people in its congregation. These types of churches always have social events for their younger members to get to know each other. This past weekend, I played a flag football game in the grassy knoll in my church's lot. It was really easy to get to know some new people, even though I wasn't there to make new friends. I just like flag football and I'm overly competitive. Churches that have young people make up its congregation will always have events like these. Some of them even have singles nights (I'm dead serious) where they invite the single members of the church to a mixer where they do some unimportant activity to get to know each other. This is the one venue where your virgin status will actually work in your favor.
What you're going to find is, young people at church are very open to meeting new people and socializing. Especially single women and men - both of whom are looking for potential mates at church at all times because there is a stereotype that exists among a lot of religious people that the rest of the world is Godless. You and I probably don't believe that, but it is a widely-held theory nonetheless. Heck, my mom and dad met at church, and it's because of this exact reason. Both of them are religious and only felt comfortable with like-minded people. Church was the natural place for them to start mate selections.
I almost posted this a couple of months ago but figured I would get flamed back to the stone age for a religious post. You have to believe me when I say this: Church is an excellent venue for meeting women. Their guard will be down completely because they are at church, and it will be literally impossible for you not to meet a girl or two. If you fail at this, it will be because you are ignoring the opportunities.
Currently, I'm talking to the girl who canters at our church. She is 20 and is cute, but I think my partying is probably a definite deal-breaker.
Meeting girls at church is twenty times easier than on a dating Web site. I really, really want you to give this a try. You have absolutely nothing to lose. Girls there are going to accept you for who you are and the best part is your dad will not disapprove of any girl you met at church.
I was baptized Catholic and went to Catholic school for 13 years. Anytime a Bible or religious category comes up on Jeopardy I dominate it. My past is probably similar to yours - minus the overbearing/overprotective parents. I'm a decent person. I go to church almost every Sunday. I try not to sin. I don't lie, cheat, steal or make fun of anyone. I have pre-marital sex and drink way too much. I think those are the biggest strikes I have against me.
Anyway, my point is that I'm like Bible Belt in that I'm probably in a similar disposition where I can help you. Bible Belt seems like he is doing a good job of pointing you in the right direction, so I'm going to try to add some advice.
I'm sure you're realizing you have to ditch the online dating services, and if you haven't come to that conclusion yet Bible Belt will force you to have that epiphany soon. I'll give you a good alternative to help you get on the right path.
Find a church where younger people go, people your age, not elderly people and start attending it. You'll find these churches are often vehicles for younger people to socialize and make new friends. If you live in a city with a big college, find the church nearest to the campus (hopefully it's your denomination). Start going there on Sunday afternoons/evenings or Saturday evenings. Whatever you do don't go in the mornings because only older people will be there. Usually churches for younger people will have a meet-and-greet before mass starts where everyone is called upon to introduce themselves to the people sitting around them before services get underway. All you have to do is go to church at the same time/day every weekend and sit in the same spot, and you will start recognizing and introducing yourself to the same people each Sunday because I'm sure you know how church is: Everyone sits in the same spot every Sunday unless they're late or something. Find some girls who are sitting alone and not with guys, for obvious reasons. Sit by them, and you will be forced to introduce yourself. It won't be awkward because everyone is doing it. Keep sitting in that same spot, and I guarantee you the same girls sit there every weekend. Eventually, you're going to build an acquaintance with them because you'll keep introducing yourselves to one another.
This is a no-brainer Luke, and it's infinitely easier than toggling with an online dating profile to reinvent yourself.
If you can't find a particular church that does the meet-and-greet (believe me you can), simply find a church that has a lot of young people in its congregation. These types of churches always have social events for their younger members to get to know each other. This past weekend, I played a flag football game in the grassy knoll in my church's lot. It was really easy to get to know some new people, even though I wasn't there to make new friends. I just like flag football and I'm overly competitive. Churches that have young people make up its congregation will always have events like these. Some of them even have singles nights (I'm dead serious) where they invite the single members of the church to a mixer where they do some unimportant activity to get to know each other. This is the one venue where your virgin status will actually work in your favor.
What you're going to find is, young people at church are very open to meeting new people and socializing. Especially single women and men - both of whom are looking for potential mates at church at all times because there is a stereotype that exists among a lot of religious people that the rest of the world is Godless. You and I probably don't believe that, but it is a widely-held theory nonetheless. Heck, my mom and dad met at church, and it's because of this exact reason. Both of them are religious and only felt comfortable with like-minded people. Church was the natural place for them to start mate selections.
I almost posted this a couple of months ago but figured I would get flamed back to the stone age for a religious post. You have to believe me when I say this: Church is an excellent venue for meeting women. Their guard will be down completely because they are at church, and it will be literally impossible for you not to meet a girl or two. If you fail at this, it will be because you are ignoring the opportunities.
Currently, I'm talking to the girl who canters at our church. She is 20 and is cute, but I think my partying is probably a definite deal-breaker.
Meeting girls at church is twenty times easier than on a dating Web site. I really, really want you to give this a try. You have absolutely nothing to lose. Girls there are going to accept you for who you are and the best part is your dad will not disapprove of any girl you met at church.
) ......nothing, or at least nothing tangible. It's all in your head. Either you can embrace risk and have a fun life, or you can worry yourself to death about everything and watch life go by from your quiet safety, as other people live it up and enjoy themselves.
