Pug's 100 approach journal

[Ever onward]

Every one who keeps on saying the redundant " your being too direct" or "your doing this wrong" or " you need to do this instead" You all need to read Mailittojune's post above, once again "NUMBERS ARE THE ICING ON THE CAKE, I DON'T CARE REALLY ABOUT THE INCOME, IM JUST OVERCOMING MY FEARS APPROACHING LIKE THIS" I know exactly once all my fear is gone what type of approach im going to switch to and the results are gonna go thru the roof....BUT NOT RIGHT NOW. The next person who says something like above, is going to get a personalized, dignified, autographed electronic foot up their web as*es...OK?

Okay okay not another word about being too direct. I was just trying to give you some feedback, isn't that why you post here for feedback from other members? I'm on your side here.

For the record all the approaches I have ever done were direct meaning I didn't try to build rapport but just went for the number. Anyways great job sticking with the approaches. You got balls dude.

As for getting rid of your ex, I have no clue, I'm always the one getting dumped.

friendliest thing since Charmin TP.

lmao that is some funny sh1t

 

[bonethugmug]

Originally posted by Pugsley_f5
DO IT NOW ARE YOU STILL JERKING AROUND IN FRONT OF THE PC!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!???????????????

Sup Pugs, man your stuff is so inspiring like you would NOT believe bro. I've been reading all this **** around here, and I feel like I know it like the back of my hand, but the problem was and is, that I never actually USE it! Well, today was my last day of school and there is this cute Asian chick in my class that is easily an 8 because she has the look that I like. Well, I was about to leave and I saw her walking towards me. I was just gonna say bye to her but then I seriously thought... Well, if that Pugs guy on SoSuave can do it, why can't I?

Well as I walked past her I asked her how she did on her test and got into a pretty good conversation with her. Problem was, it was POURING rain outside but the convo was great anyway. Well, I walked her out to her car and said "Oh yeah, I never got your name by the way" Lol, can you believe that ****, 10 weeks of class, never even got her name!!! So she told me her name and she told me that she wishes she could've gotten to know me earlier instead of on the last day of class. I should've went for the number but lol, wussed out on that too. It's all good though, I learned that the worst thing you can do, is not even try at all. So Pugs man, I've gotta do this. I want 100 approaches, I might not be able to do it in 40 days, but I will get it. NO MATTER WHAT!!!

 

[Mr. Delicious]

I had this long post and then when i was about to post it my computer froze up

Anyway, good job today man. When are you going to call up the chick you got the number from?

I forgot what else i was going to say argh

 

[Dj Tiesto]

Hey Pugs.

I'll just reaffirm what others said..
Mad props to ya for continuing and not giving up.
Sound slike you are on a mission and I'm 100% sure that you will accomplish the 100 approaches and will beat your fears. You are one determined mothafuka.
Good luck man and keep up the good work, u r truly an inspiration for the rest of the board and many of us still won't realize that life is short and that things won't happen by themselves.

Well fellas 11 approaches made, 89 to go and 36 days left, and you know what I felt last night for the first time in my life!!!, almost no fear, just fun, I was appraoching with comfort and relative ease, but still not gone, but alot more at ease...and alot faster, 20 secs is a record for me to see and approach, but I had nothing but fun last night, guys if anything go out and approach 10 girls and your fears will be mostly gone...you may not believe but believe it in terms of female fear I was just about as bad as they get.... I predict that tonight is going to be even better, and I am going to have an absolute blast talking to women tonight!!!!

That should be a lesson for the rest of the board as to what happens once u get consistent. You are overcoming your fears and every approach will get easier and easier till it will be automatic and 2nd nature. You will recondition your brain and we can only achieve it by going out of our comfort zone, like Pugsley did.

Again, a shutout to Pugsley.

 

[cannibustacap]

Re: Re: Pug's 100 approach journal

Originally posted by SuperGigaloDJ
Aight Pugsley_f5 I'll give you credit for actually grabbin your b@lls and goin out for pickups. It's a great thing that your confidence has increased.

Let's take a look at your opening lines. There is a problem with it. Can you spot it?

Here it is: "Are you single?"

You are now probably asking yourself "what's wrong with that?" I will tell you.

1. It's not good to start out a conversation like that because you are a stranger. It's not good to ask strangers personal questions right away because they will get uncomfortable.

2. Even if she IS single she will probably say she has a boyfriend. This is because, again, she will be uncomfortable with a stranger walking up to her asking her personal questions.

Listen, if you want to pick up a girl you first have to make her FEEL comfortable with you.

Anyways you're doing great with your confidence. Now work on your conversation!

I dont' mean to speak for Pugs... but I think he's getting pissed at these comments.

He doesn't care about these bytches. He just wants to get over his phobias.

 

[MRomeo99]

First off Pugs, mad props to you again. You're kicking ass.

I guess my problem with your approach(and I actually like that approach), is that you're ejecting too soon. Here is the way I have used that approach.

Me: Hi, can I ask you a question?

Her: Ummmm.... sure.

Me: Are you single?

Her: <blushing> Ummm.... not really.

Me: Hey girl, don't be embarassed. I wasn't asking if you had robbed a bank this week. I was going out with some friends this weekend, and I have a friend that I thought might like you.

Her: Oh, well sorry about that.

Me: Ok girl, if we're going to be friends you're not allowed to apologize for at least another 10 minutes.

Her: <laughing> Ok, I think I can handle that.

Me: My name is Romeo, what's yours?

Her: Sandy, so do you.......

10 minutes later we're getting in my car to go have a drink.


I like to have fun, I like to meet new people. I like to talk to interesting people. I mean I like what you're doing, going out and doing approaches, but realize that's only part of the game. Have fun. Engage them. Make some friends. I'd rather go out with a really cool girl that I met, regardless of whether or not she is single, and her friends than go to a store and do 5 more approaches.

I mean the best part of that approach is that it shows brass balls. However, sometimes she may say no when she really means yes, or sort of. Her definition of single is probably different than yours. You've already elevated yourself way above most guys just by the ballsy approach, now have fun. You can even use the approach to bust on her. "You didn't think I was asking you out did you? C'mon girl, I need someone a lot taller, like at least 6'6"", or whatever.

For those guys who say this approach doesn't work, it does, just needs a little bit of work. It's a classic David DeAngelo approach, it has worked for me, and for others.

HTH,

Romeo

 

[Pugsley_f5]

Day 5 Approach 12, 13, and 14

No probs Gigalo, don't worry about me I'll be fine I just realize ur trying to help..


Mromeo really hit on a good point that I can use, and I thank you for that, I am going to have to implement that into my convo...and try using it, but sometimes its just soo hard to focus on implementing something new and focusing on walking up to her and talking to her....... The hard part isn't walking up to her and talking to her the hard part is adjusting ur game each time so that it's like something totally new.....

Well Last night I did 3 Approaches, once again it was kinda slim pickings out and about ......heres what happened,

I was In Barnes and Nobles for 1 Mins when I spotted a Hot brunette 8 in the aisle and I was looking down into the aisle 15 secs or less later I was walking past her heres how the convo went:

Me: As I walk past her I say "Hey how are you doing tonight"
Her: Good and you? (she was all smiles and kinda one of those "giggly and bouncey" type girls.
Me: Good, You mind if I ask you a question?
Her: Sure
Me: Are you single?
Her: Yes , I am actually
Me: Really, well I was about to head out of here why don't you give me your number and I'll give you a call sometime?
Her: Well I don't do that type of thing? (rather ambiguous) I actually came into here tonight to study for finals"
Me: Oh really, so what exams do you have left?
Her: Psychology and nutrition
Me:Really, whats your major?
Her: Nursing
Me: Really, I actually used to be an Exercise and Sports Science Major over at UNCG.

Her: Really?
Me: Yeh, You ready for this semester to be over?
Her: Yeh, im gonna be so relieved
Me: I know exactly what you mean...
Me: Well it was good meeting you, my name is Chris
Her: My name is Sara
Me: you have a good evening Sara
Her: you too!

Well guys heres where I need help, I need help with what to say after they say they are single....where to go thats where im screwing up at....dangit...oh well


The second approach of the evening I saw a shy cutie blonde HB 7.5 sitting in a sofa chair in the bookstore working on studying for exams, I walked up to the sofa chair next to her and asked if annyone was sitting there, she said no so I sat down, she was kinda shy and blushed from the moment I asked her if anyone was sitting there and had a smile about her while she was blushing. I think she was kinda nervous about talking to me, heres how the convo went:

Me: Studying for exams?
Her: Yeh, They are stressing me out?
Me: Oh yeah why is that?
Her: Cause they always save the hardest ones for last?
Me: Yeh I know what you mean.....you go to UNCG?
Her: Yeh
Me: How do you like it?
Her: it's pretty good..
Me: yeh the only bad part about it is on the weekend everyone leaves and goes home...
Her: Yeh i know!

(Then my mind went blank and I started reading my magazine for the next 15 mins)

Then looking over at her looking upset... I said

Me: You look like your having a tough time there.....
Her: This stuff is soo hard!!
Me: What exams you have left?
Her: Statistics and Sign Language, I like Sign Language but Stats Sucks!
Me: Laughing at her

(I go back to reading and I spot what looks like a HB 8 in the walkway so I figure I need to wrap it up with this chick and go out to talk to this HB 8)

I get up and say "it was good meeting you, BTW my name is Chris"

Her: Hi Im Coley
Me: Well it was good meeting you Coley, you mind if I ask you a question...she was blushing and smiling the whole time....and said "Sure"

Me:Are you single?
Her: No...sorry
Me: Well anyways it was good meeting you.....
Her: U too



I walk up to the HB 8 at the stand alone table (VICTORY # 2 BABY!) and I walk right up to her confidently, I didn't even think to stop and think about before I approached.

I walked up to her and stopped and said "Hi" to her. She said "Hi"back and then immediately went back to reading her book, very rude, I said, you mind if I ask you a question? She said go ahead....


Me: Are you single? (she was still looking at her book), she smiled a teensy bit, and I saw her butt ugly teeth that were all brown and crooked, I didn't know whether to smile at her or kick a field goal....she had a hardcore ***** shield up but she looked like a elephants butthole after it crapped when she smiled......needless to say I still asked her the question, you know the answer and I walked away and quit wasting time with that ugly Biatch....



Heres where I need help guys..... I need some help with what to say when they say Yes they are single and also any other ideas on how to rebound when they say they aren't...



Keep the hammer down guys, you all who are doing this with me are doing awesome proud of you......

86 more to go!!!

Also I have not called that first chick yet, I plan to but havent been in a hurry to call her cause my funds have been running kinda low lately......

any ideas on what to say when I call her?


Pugs

 

[Trance]

[Hi pugs! I have done something similar to you a year ago, and i've done about 50 aproaches in 1 month or so. From those 50 i got like 5 dates, made out with 2 chicks and only 1 sex!

Was it worthy? I think it was good so that i could practice my cold aproach, and dont get in a nerve in any situation, but in terms of getting success its not that good.

For having success, the best thing is having a context to aproach, or if she checks you out too, smiles, is doing something you can coment about, etc..


And then, after my experience of a lot of aproaches, asking the # and ejecting too soon, i finally came to the conclusion that you have to play the game right that moment you meet her. You have to leave your mark, and evaluate her interest level RIGHT THAT MOMENT! If not, it will be just another dateless #.

Would you bother to go out with a chick that you only know her name and you're not particularly atracted if you have at least a couple of girls interested? Its obvious that no. And if you aproach a HB7++, they always have someone interested, so you gotta leave your mark!

 

[bonethugmug]

Originally posted by Trance
[Hi pugs! I have done something similar to you a year ago, and i've done about 50 aproaches in 1 month or so. From those 50 i got like 5 dates, made out with 2 chicks and only 1 sex!

Was it worthy? I think it was good so that i could practice my cold aproach, and dont get in a nerve in any situation, but in terms of getting success its not that good.

For having success, the best thing is having a context to aproach, or if she checks you out too, smiles, is doing something you can coment about, etc..


And then, after my experience of a lot of aproaches, asking the # and ejecting too soon, i finally came to the conclusion that you have to play the game right that moment you meet her. You have to leave your mark, and evaluate her interest level RIGHT THAT MOMENT! If not, it will be just another dateless #.

Would you bother to go out with a chick that you only know her name and you're not particularly atracted if you have at least a couple of girls interested? Its obvious that no. And if you aproach a HB7++, they always have someone interested, so you gotta leave your mark!

Sounds good. Got any examples or suggestions to elaborate on what your talking about?

 

[hsm978]

100 approaches?

It's not about quantity it's about quality.

Your approaches are weak and it doesn't seem you're making an effort to improve.

 

[Mr. Delicious]

Originally posted by hsm978
100 approaches?

It's not about quantity it's about quality.

Your approaches are weak and it doesn't seem you're making an effort to improve.

Where in Oklahoma are you from?

 

[seize_the_pattern]

Originally posted by hsm978
100 approaches?

It's not about quantity it's about quality.

Your approaches are weak and it doesn't seem you're making an effort to improve.

He's just over ten appraoches doing the courage with a canned opener that he repeats. So what? He only got started. Thats NOT weak, it is already more done than 90% of the people here on this forum.
If you do 100 approaches without changing the approach and trying something different, thats another thing.

constructive critiscism is golden

 

[hsm978]

Originally posted by Mr. Delicious
Where in Oklahoma are you from?

Norman

 

[Ever onward]

Pugs,

I think the only way to learn how to be "social" is to just do it. Hopefully you will learn more as you go. Just make an effort to have actual conversations with the girls you approach so you can learn the social skills.

From what I have seen you are improving. You're still being direct, which is good, but you are also starting to make actual conversation. You're getting better.

 

[Pugsley_f5]

Some people are just too damn dumb to read the rest of the posts or just too stupid to understand anything......how many F8cking times have I said the reason I am doing this.....if you don't have anything even remotely constructive to say then STFU.......god you have a new SOB every day come on and tell me the same fricking things and you can tell they didn't read the other posts cause if they did they knew they would be getting flamed like they are right now........heres the verdict guys, don't come on here and tell me how bad my approach is, I don't care how bad it is, it's not going to stay that way forever......wait a second, how bad were your first ten approaches you ever made?

Secondly, if your not going out right now and doing 2-3 approaches a night, then I don't want to hear your Keyboard jockey sh*t running your mouth, ok?

Romeos post was good, he told me what I could add to what I'm doing to improve, im not going to change my approach until I get really comfortable approaching women with it. Case Closed.

Pugs

 

[Pugsley_f5]

That post wasn't directed towards you ever onward just so you know, you posted right before I did....

 

[Ever onward]

Cool Pugs, but I'm not making 2 - 3 approaches a night like you said so maybe you don't want my feedback?

I respect what your doing and your thread is one of the only threads I read on here.

 

[SageOFAllenAge]

Yes he does ..

My conscience has been hounding me to do cold approaches recently

ive never done a cold approach & Im finding it difficult to find a HB that is by herself where should i look?

Also If i see a HB by herself she is on the move (the streets or the college hallway) I find it weird stopping her

Any input

 

[Pugsley_f5]

I'll give you a hint, the hint is in my journal

 

[smooth666]

Re: Day 5 Approach 12, 13, and 14

Originally posted by Pugsley_f5

Me: Are you single?
Her: Yes , I am actually
Me: Really, well I was about to head out of here why don't you give me your number and I'll give you a call sometime?
Her: Well I don't do that type of thing? (rather ambiguous) I actually came into here tonight to study for finals"

Heres where I need help guys..... I need some help with what to say when they say Yes they are single and also any other ideas on how to rebound when they say they aren't...

You approach a complete stranger out of the blue,ask if she is single and the very next question is (indirectly): do you want to go on a date with me ? ("gimme your number..."). Just put yourself in her position....

I said before that I do not like this approach, but I respect your testing this approach anyway. I would at least go for some fluff talk (5 min) before you ask for the number or even some fluff talk before you ask if she was single. I think it might help to get some rapport esp. because YOU want to check her out (imagine wasting your time on a date with a boring chick or a psycho).