Hey... what´s the name of your sister and is she free at friday? [...] Aha, and what about you?Originally posted by Bile
how's it going with the aproaches....???
really nice work...
I was kinda thinkin about somethin like this to try out,
but my aproach would sound somethin more like this:
me: hi!!
her:hi!
me: mind if i ask you two things???
her: no, what??
mene, whats your name, and second, are u free at friday??
Im oughta try this out at a really nice hottie(maybe even a 10, but thats just self judged)
I have seen at the bus.
what are u thinkin about this one...??
btw to those who read my other post. yes Im kinda cross-workin
this one...second I need somethin to do if it turns out the girl i wanna dated dont wanna date me
thanks for a gr8 post...
>> Try your idea out and see if it works for you. As we all know it is not as much what we say, but HOW we say it. If she is like "wow, he´s it. Never thought I would meet JamesBond real live" you´ll be in the game.
But anyway: I see some problems by asking your two questions, because she knows nothing about you and has already to decide, if she should give you the promise for a date. From her view it would be like "Ah okay, don´t know your name stranger, but anyway, I am hb10 and of course I have time at friday. It´s up to you what we´ll do".
Do you see the point: Chances are good, the girl would feel kind of sleazy like she is easy to get, let´s say maybe she would feel like a b*tch as to exaggerate, even if she would like to date you.
And to the "are you free question": Under circumstances, it is better to offer her an idea and give her the chance to join you, instead of simple asking if she has time. The latter sounds a bit needy like "I have of course time and it would be soo great if you would give me some of your valuable time..." (to exagerate again, of course the line is not that bad...
). Also it sounds too much like a realy serious date offer (like some nearly officially). If you want to initiate a date with a girl after she has seen you for 5 seconds, it is a good idea to make it kind of playful and not binding.Alternative:
you: [walking over to her, kind of slight smile and look like you are already familiar with her, like you already would know her and want to say hallo] >>> "Hey" <<<
she: <<< "Hi" >>> [pobably insecure and a bit reserved, because she don´t know what´s going on and maybe she is thinking if it´s an approach or if she already should know you or what the hell otherwise is going on]
you: >>> "I have seen you from over there (point to a place), so I came over to you." <<<
[go half of a step backwards or to the side, change your position a little bit and then look at her like you would examine her (you can do that for real), but don´t look like a freaky psycho. By this you will create some mystery (she will become curious about what will happen).]
After this little break say: >>> "I want to introduce myself" <<< [little pause], I am [firstname +(!) surname] >> [saying your whole name in a way like you give her a very important information (and indeed that´s exactly what you do, maybe she is talking with the future father of her children and she should absolutely know his name) is a good way to establish trust early on. Be serious by saying it.] >>> Offer her your hand and hold her hand a tick longer as usual.
she: <<< [her name] >>>
you: >>> "[her name] I am on my way, but on Friday I´ll be at [a place of your choice]. Why don´t you join me for a cup of coffee? <<<
[wait how she reacts.}
If she says "okay": exchange numbers but give her a call one day later, that you cannot go for a drink that day because you have to do... , but offer her an interesting opportunity. Maybe tell her you will do something interesting or extraordinary whereto she will ask you some questions but answer her questions short and don´t try to impress her, no way!
if she says "no time" or she gives you another excuse (maybe she has realy no time, that´s the problem by mention a special date): "Okay, maybe we can talk anytime else. So [her name], give me your numer [and give her something to write by saying this.]
