Hey fellas, Just got back to work (thats where I have the Internet at and type to you all......hence no response on sundays)
Well I have to say the Date went AWESOME!........ Man guys she was about a 7.5 dressed down at borders when I met her....well i saw her when she got out of her car for the date she looked totally different dressed up, an immediate 8.5!!! I was like WHOA! Hello!! If you have ever seen one of those dark haired israeli beauties fair skin dark hair shes just like that Gorgeous face, Her body is about a 7.5 there but not shapely.....but her faces is drop dead gorgeous......the first thing I said to her, was "whoa you look totally different from when I met you" She took it as a negative at first then I joked with her about it......
Needless to say we had a blast, went bowling and then for a cup of coffee.....I had her laughing the whole night literally she was always laughing and smiling the whole time.....she has a Naive excitement about life and everything she does that I love.....shes gets excited about everything......we had tons of kino, No innappropriate though...I did most of it though a few times she iniatied it without me doing it.....She insisted on paying for the both of us for bowling and I pay for the coffee, I said no, she insisted, I let her do it, Heck I wasn't gonna argue about it.....
I was definatley funny the whole night, though when the pure ****y stuff came out her reaction wasn't as desired(not bad just different from her playfullness with the funny) Like I said "You know your lucky..." Her: Why? Me: "Cause you get to have a cup of coffee with a handsome bloke like myself"....................Her reaction wasn't negative or bad just got me insecure about saying anymore ****y one liners like that.......we had awesome convo over coffee, I did mostly listening and several times she said something to the effect of "So tell me about something about....? (yourself , your family) I see this as a good thing cause I was remaining mysterious as well as being a good listener...... but I need you all's input to tell me if this is good or not......
One thing that turned me on more than anything is the fact that she can bellydance (arabic ritual not wave) I find that INCREDIBLY sexy.......and that is something that I would want to have an a lifelong mate to be able to do can we say "Pug's on switch!!!"
Most of the Kino was subtle initiated by me.....one was outright after we were bowling........ as we were walking out I put my arm around her shoulder for a few secs and she reciprocated by putting her arm around my side..... I geuss you could say thats a good sign couldn't you?
Another cool thing about her was that she has a really positive outlook on life and is a very positive person.....I geuss another thing that could be good sign is when I was bowling she would always be clapping or cheering for me to get a strike and stuff (I kinda liked it) I liked her positivity and upbeatness, kinda like my personal cheerleader......she also made several future referenced statments (I can't remeber examples you know though stuff indicating something going past the first date.....)
I am still kicking myself though.....I kinda went AFC a little more than I realised and should have on the trip back to her car from the coffee house.....We had a VERY deep conversation on spirituality and God which went a little longer than I should have, needless to say we had pretty much the same views on God and life and she is a Christian....but we continued on the convo a little longer than I should have let it go, I just get fired up talking about God what can I say.....also part of this convo was talking about the things that were wrong with the world today spiritually and the date kinda ended talking about these topics, although we agreed, I shouldnt have let the date end talking on negative notes, and I think I opened up to her a little too much at the end of the date then I should have....although we didnt even talk about past relationships or anything we want in a man or a woman, and after the date I learned by reading the Bootcamp Papers that I should have elicited values to bring a stronger bond between me and her.....I geuss second date stuff (if there is one)
I got alot of positive buying signs from her, but me being an AFC at the end has REALLY put a hole in my self esteem armor and now Im worried that I will be put in the "Friends" catagory and I don't want that......I acted like an idiot, I should have gotten onto another topic and not exposed myself to such a deep convo on the first date.....also when we went back to her car in the lot.....I think I should have just said I need to go home and get some sleep, but we were in the middle of the deep convo and I didnt want it to end so I parked my car and turned it off and we talked for another 40 mins or so about spiritual values and such, I thne said I had to wake up early the next day and i walked her to her car and She initiated the hug and the night kinda ended we me saying have a good night, give me a call sometime...........
I got tons of buy signals from her in the beginning of the date and middle of it, at the end it was just deep deep spiritaul talk....Im just worried, cause I really like her now lol....I know I sound like an AFC, but I need the witch doctor to cure my case of oneitis......Heres my dilemma, if you all remember she was the first one to call me and ask for the date....and I let her make all the moves in setting up the date, I called her ONCE left a message and she had to call back twice to get ahold of me, I restrained myself from the temptation of wanting to call her before the date, heres the million dollar question, I showed some really ambiguous interest signals to her (kino, making her laugh) that could have told her I put her in the friends catagory depending on how she interpreted it.....considering the way she acted before the date, now should I call her and setup the next date or should I just wait for her to call me and setup the next one (my only fear is that, ill wait and she wont call (put me into the LJBF catagory) so I need your guys help with this what should I do, keep playing the waiting game, or make my interests known and go for another date....
The last convo was definatly an "as friends" type of talk and got off of the date mentality atmosphere and thats where the date left off at when she left so it has got me insecure and scared (I KNOW, AFC!!!)
I just need help, dissect what I have told you all soo far and tell me where changes need to be made on my dating game and as well what I should do about the next date arrangements......
As far as approaching I went out last night, picking were kinda scarce.....I approached one chick who unbeknownest to me was there with her BF, I find that after a few days out that fear starts to creep back out and rear its head.....and I start to really have doubts about approaching chicks , by just walking up to them without any context, like situational, or them walking near me....thats why I liked the "are you single approach" cause its an approach that needs to be done without context, and since I have started doing others my fear of that type of approach has crept back.....and im thinking about going back and doing the old approach to kill off that fear again.......The longer I got away from that approach the more that type of fear crept in.....
I am not sure what to do with the approach situation any advice welcome on how to handle this........
Heres how the approach went.....
She walks past me at the headphones station and I took of the headphones
Looked at her and said
Me: hey how are you?
Her: Fine (in a soft voice)
Me: You look familiar to me did we go to different schools together?
Her: I don't know.....sensing the different wording but couldnt put a finger on it...
Me: We didn't go to different schools together?
Her: No I dont think so....with a puzzled face
Me: I started smiling and laughinga and so did she I said I was just joking she smiled....and laughed went to another topic like the weather she seemed unwilling to talk so I just introduced myself and said bye.....................
Day 16
Approaches 24
Numbers 3
Dates 1
any advice welcome on the approaches or the date........
Pugs
