Well Fellas I must say I have come down with a pretty common sickness called oneitis, although I am not particularly upset about it and am actually enjoying it,(I just keep this fact from her and not seem needy)
Seeing that I am in it for a LTR and even more, In september I made a list of everything I want my future wife to be, (whether she is now or will become)
Needless to say within one hour of our first date starting I went over my list last night and she already has 16 of the 32 things, roughly half, she has no negatives yet meaning something I marked on the list that I wanted; that she wasnt, ie what I wanted was someone who has strong family ties, and she comes from a broken home and was a runaway rebellious chick, that would be a mark off and a sign for me to move on......that explained she doesnt have any markoffs as of now, all the rest of the things will take time to tell or I haven't figured out one way or the other if she fits that particular area I want/require. I will figure out somemore things tonight on the second date!!!! Yes There is a second one!!! I called her back once and she called me late last night and we both said we had fun the last time and we wanted to get together before I went homf for 5 days for xmas......she invited me to her salsa class, I dont consider myself a good dancer and declined and came back with a C+F recovery:
"Nah, Im sorry my agent would have my head on a plate if I was out dancing, I signed a contract with him that the only place I could dance was on MTV or wherever I was paid to...."
She started laughing alot over the phone, then I said "Yeh I don't just dance for anyone, you want to see my skills you have to pay to play"
Then I said "Man Ive been on one date with you and you are already trying to get frisky with me to go to salsa classes with you, this relationship is gonna have to progress a little further before I show you what they pay me to do on MTV"
she started laughing harder.....Looking back salsa class was a rather good idea, ie lots of kino and physical contact.....but at the risk of making an a*s out of myself I declined for a later date. Did I mention that this girl knows the Traditional style belly dance too, which is like top 3 things that would get me hornier than a male dog in a butt sniffing contest, if youeve seen the traditional belly dance with traditional garments guys you know what I'm talking about....you guys think strippers are hot when they dance, you haven't been turned on till youeve seen this stuff man!!
I know she is into me from the getgo, but she holds it back very well in a passive way so the first kiss is going to be nerveracking.........Im going to up the kino, Im gonna take her ice skating I think (tons of kino possibilities with holding hands etc) then maybe dinner or coffee or something and then for the closer, I was thinking at night going for a stroll through an arboretum park in Greensboro under the stars where we can have private time alone walking talking and then go for the kiss close......I am going to up the kino to hands holding tonight and on her waist and shoulder and then go for the "Do you like suprises"? kiss close tonight whats you alls reactions you have gotten on this close is it too forward and spontaneous?
Shes def into me though, she jumped through a hoop when she offered to skip her dance classes to go out with me.....good sign, I like her alot, but I am going to play the girl body langauge game, Ie where most guys let there mouth do the talking im gonna let my actions do the talking and be indifferent in my talking to her.....
I am also need to and going to elicit values on the talk part (read the dj boot camp book) and get some major connections going between us....its looksing good shes hot, she attractive, she has a coy shy side I love, and I positive supportive side of ehr that I love, so if things get better and better no use calling the doctor cause this oneitis feels good.
So thats a good sign soo far......I am still going to continue to focus on approaches as much as I can but oneitis can kinda snuff this motivation out, but if its all for the better I doesnt matter to me.....
I went out last night, and all I can say is I was scared using all these new approaches the first new approach is always the hardest.......it took me all the night to do it 4 hrs of lost oppurtunities, i finally went up to some blonde chick in walmart
Me: Hey, I just noticed you when you came in, and I had to take a second to see what you were like.......
Her: ok..... (made me really uneasy)
Me: My name is Chris
Her: Im blah blah
Me: you have a confused look on your face why?
Her: I was just waiting for a friend....
Me: Your Boyfriend?
Her: Yeh
Me: Ok cool, well it was good meeting you then adios
Her: Bye
I saw her with her Bf so she was telling the truth, wish me luck tonight any suggestions about the date hurry up im leaving soon!!!!
Pugs