Hey guys,
I just wanted to give you all an update on what is going on....
Things between us having been plugging along quite nicely, we went out again last night and had a blast.....
She told me some things that she really admired about me, she still can't believe how big my heart is for people in general and slowly she is opening her heart to me (cause she has been hurt in the past), each time we go out I can see a layer of her come off like peeling an onion.
She told me alot of things that she really admired about me and she also said something to the effect of " I'd be lying if I told you that I haven't missed in the past three days"
I was like thats definatly a good sign that she misses me when Im gone and on the flipside I think it would be safe to say that if she misses me when Im gone then that means that she has a blast when she's with me.
She also says you know soo much about me but to me you are still a bit of a mystery to me......IDK why
I just said "Im not trying to be a mystery but I just don't talk about myself unless you get my gears turning by asking me questions"
She is still a bit confused cause shes trying to analyse how shes feeling on a psychological level when some things aren't meant to be understood at any level....I mean try and explain and understand love from a psychological level, it's not something that is meant to be understood it's just meant to be felt....I think she is being bitten by the love bug a bit more each time were together when her heart opens up a bit each time......which is a good thing.....
She will sort her thoughts and feelings out eventually.....I just know that she makes me feel awesome when im with her and I enjoy every second and wish that she didn't have to go home that night.....
So things are getting better and better each time were together....and plugging along.....I told her that I was gonna be gone all next weekend in SC and she was like "awww man so i won't get to see you that whole weekend?"
LOL the love bug does weird things
I also have figured out what her love language are (Read the "Five love languages" By Gary Chapman)
Love Languages are basically a dialect that we express affection with and a type of dialect that we feel loved when we are expressed it by another person.
Like for instance my love language is Physical Touch and I feel most loved when Im physicall touched by someone I care for without me initiating it......
Her love language is Gifts I believe and it makes her feel loved when she recieves gifts.....
The other love languages are acts of service, words of affirmation, and quality time
For instance this is how it works......She could do all my laundry for me and clean the entire house, gift me a brand new bottle of cologne, spend time talking with me on the couch, and tell me how much she appreciates me, but if she didn't.....say walk up to me out of the blue and give me a big hug without asking for it, I would not feel loved by her doing all of those things for me, only when unselfish physical touch is expressed to me of free will (she trys to hold my hand, she hugs me, she initiates a kiss to me out of the blue) do I feel loved or affection coming from her.....
It's really neat cause 95% of marriage problems in the US stem from this, youeve all seen it, the husband will work his butt off around the house and do everything for her, but she will still say "I don't feel like you love me", if her love language is Quality time she will not feel loved until he sits down with her and focuses his attn on her and has 15 mins of uninteruppted listening to her day, cause that makes her feel loved........and you all have also seen it before......The wife talks the love language of gifts to her husband by giving him special little things of meaning, but he will still go and cheat on his wife, just cause he doesnt feel loved, because his love language could be Words of affirmation.....and until she tells him how much she appreciates him and how much she loves him and respects him for everything he does for her he won't feel loved by anything but those words of affirmation...
It's amazing and I have seen peoples marriages do a complete 180 after reading this book, going from on the edge of divorce to being like newly weds again....just cause they learned how to speak each others love languages......
Well I figured out what her's was by hearing how she has reacted to things I have done for her (ive expressed all 5 to her to figure out which love language she is)
and she told me that twice she has been on cloud nine since we have been going out......I have told her that I have a blast being with her and that i find her to be a captivating person to be with, Ive done things for her, Ive held hands and hugged and kissed, Ive spent quality time listening and having intellectual conversation with her
But she said these two things stood out to her that I have done
One the other night when I dropped her off at her car in a parking lot and she was sleepy and I told her I was going to follow her home to make sure she got home safely (also cause it was 3am and she doesnt live in a safe neighborhood)
Well I followed her home (about 3 miles from the lot) and made sure she got in and then left....she said that it made her feel soo special and soo loved that she was beaming the whole next day.....(thats the power of speaking the correct love language) even though this was technically an act of service it was more like a special gift, since it wasn't a normal occurence....
The Second time was when she was at work I left a note on her car window (thanks david D)
and it said this
Hey girl,
I hope you are having fun at work right now.....I was just driving past your work and it made me think of you and so I wanted to drop you a note to tell you that I had a blast last night with you.......
Your awesome
Chris
She said she couldn't sleep that night and was up all night thinking about that note...and it made her feel soo special and made her day, she said that note was just what she needed after working a 12 hr shift and it made her day soo much she was up all night thinking about it and about me......(her love language is gifts cause thats the type of response u will get when you find their love language and express it)
Very Intriguing
I think after writing this post Im gonna make a post specifically talking about love languages on here cause it's something every guy should know whether hes single or not, but it's something that every guys needs to know eventually if he plans on getting married sometime in his life.......
Pugs
