Picking up girls in bookstores

[Cod3r]

Try libraries... I met a hottie in college library, opening was too easy

"So you're a little study nerd eh ?"


-Cod3r

 

[kidkoala]

its really a question of inner game and ideologies. I'm not advanced. I'm still learning how to "approach" despite "AA". But I can tell you that any man can approach any woman anywhere and be successful if he is congruent. I suggest Delta that you read read some Zan and get higher concepts because you seem to have a lot of self limiting beliefs. I do too, but I work on it. Just do a couple approaches a week and work your way to who you want to become.

 

[rsxtreme]

bookstores=chicks, but again like everyone mentioned they have there blinders on.

 

[Brak86]

bookstores=chicks, but again like everyone mentioned they have there blinders on.

which i think is a great advantage

 

[Delta]

hey brak,

thanks for the detailed response.

no offense taken but i actually am not "condemning" them in any real way. but we were talking about using "commonality" to gain rapport or even facilitate the approach. i'm pointing out that i find very little commonality from what they end up reading.

i have no problem with people or the daily enquirer or whatever... but i have precious little to say about it. "so you're reading people eh? ... ummm. ok then. see you around...."

kidk,

i hear ya. but i'm actually operating from first hand experience and observation. i will indeed continue with approaches (i think of it as just MEETING them.... it helps me in my head). but ultimately, the fact of it is, i approach, i open them. if they don't want to keep it going, i'm done.

so far, it seems to me like they are not open and their responses conform to that observation.

delta

 

[JPFromTally]

Never start a coversation with the word "so...."

I've had some success in bookstores... 3 girls who actually worked there so it was easy to start a conversation. One girl who was really pretty kept walking around and passed me a couple of times so I said, "You must be procastinating your studying." She laughed and we started talking.

The best line I ever came up with that I should try again is when I saw a cutie sitting in B&N on one of those benches by the magazines. I grabbed a Maxim and sat down and non-chalantly said "Watchoo reading.. Time?" She goes no "Vogue" (or one of those stupid chick rags). So I said, "well don't feel bad I'm reading the male version of Cosmo." And then we got into some stupid conversation about her and her dumb interests.

Anyway, the trick is to just say something to her that you would say to anybody else.

 

[mrRuckus]

If you were hunting for walleye are you going to go into the forest with a 12 gauge Mossberg?

uhhhhhh maybe?

what are those things?

Never start a coversation with the word "so...."

So why not?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

uhhhhhh maybe?

what are those things?




So why not?

A walleye is a fish, a Mossberg is a brand of shotgun. If you want to catch a fish, you wouldn't be in a forest with a gun. You're either hunting for the wrong thing, you're probably in the wrong place and using the wrong tools and the wrong bait.

When sarging you need to understand where you are and the type of women who usually frequent that place. You need to figure out what interest those women (the bait) and approach them effectively. It takes a bit more than just walking up and making a general comment.

 

[Delta]

that's what i mean though-

what kind of girl do you find at a book store?

i would say that the fact that they are in a book store actually says precious little about them.

i guess they're not illiterate or blind. but that's about it. not necessarily intellectual, not necessarily into reading as a hobby per se (seriously).

so my analogy would be trying to determine the nature of the prey from the environment when the environment is a zoo.

delta

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

that's what i mean though-

what kind of girl do you find at a book store?

i would say that the fact that they are in a book store actually says precious little about them.

i guess they're not illiterate or blind. but that's about it. not necessarily intellectual, not necessarily into reading as a hobby per se (seriously).

so my analogy would be trying to determine the nature of the prey from the environment when the environment is a zoo.

delta

Dude, in what section of store is she? What is she reading? Is she reading the newspaper? Cosmopolitan? Better Homes and Garden? Fortune Magazine? The latest Dr. Phil book? C'mon, doesn't any of those things give you some insight about the woman???

 

[Brak86]

that's what i mean though-

what kind of girl do you find at a book store?

i would say that the fact that they are in a book store actually says precious little about them.

i guess they're not illiterate or blind. but that's about it. not necessarily intellectual, not necessarily into reading as a hobby per se (seriously).

so my analogy would be trying to determine the nature of the prey from the environment when the environment is a zoo.

delta

either way, it doesnt really matter what kind of girl they are, whether intelligent and intellectual or a teenage girl looking at magazines. They all respond to humor, congruence, and confidence. Yes, you may have to alter you're openers a bit, but you're are making this too complex.

By the way, just out of curiosity, have you even approached at a bookstore yet? And if so, then how often. If you havent approached many girls in the bookstores, then I would avoid asking questions, because they will answer themsleves when you are in the field. You will start truly realizing the game only when you get out into the field.

 

[greenlake]

Too often guys project themselves to the outcome, typically them walking away with a telephone number or being rejected. For me I'm in the moment. I'm focused on where I am and what I am doing. Those are the things that I use when engaging women, I don't let the outcome cloud the moment. Attention is given to the environment, the woman and conversation. If it progresses to something more, great. Until then I am in the moment.

not thinking of the outcome is a good advice, that's what i always do and it need to stop.

okay, i'm going to the bookstore tomorrow. got any more good advice guys?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

not thinking of the outcome is a good advice, that's what i always do and it need to stop.

okay, i'm going to the bookstore tomorrow. got any more good advice guys?

Smile and don't forget to say things that that the woman can easily respond to. Nothing esoteric, keep it light and fun.

 

[greenlake]

hahah, thanks, don't worry tho, i don't usually talk about something that a girl would have a hard time responding to. to tell u the truth, i don't even know the word esoteric until i look at the dictionary. so i wasn't esoteric to that word. hahah. once again thanks. so what to keep in mind is.......observe carefully especially the book they are reading or the genre aisle where they stand and "nothing esoteric". got it.

 

[Delta]

yup, i've done about half a dozen approaches in bookstores.

one of the biggest things that lead me to think they have blinders on is the look of SURPRISE that anyone has actually invaded their personal space. i'm not sneaking up on them, they see me, i see them, i go over and open my mouth and it's like deer in headlights - "what's going on? what's happening here?"

so no, questions are not really resolved.

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as for what section they are found at, usually the attractive one aren't actually hanging out in sections. i find them seated, in the cafe or in the magazine racks.

that's what i mean. doesn't give you much to work with.

delta

 

[Brak86]

yup, i've done about half a dozen approaches in bookstores.

one of the biggest things that lead me to think they have blinders on is the look of SURPRISE that anyone has actually invaded their personal space. i'm not sneaking up on them, they see me, i see them, i go over and open my mouth and it's like deer in headlights - "what's going on? what's happening here?"

That happened to me twice last night. I approached girls from the side, they saw me coming, yet they STILL jumpeda little bit. This isn't necessarily bad. Actually, it is somewhat good because it jsut gioes to show that girls are not expecting to be approached during the day. It takes alcohol for most guys to have the balls to talk to a woman, so the worst that can happen is the woman rejhects you, but she still sees something unique and different about you.

as for what section they are found at, usually the attractive one aren't actually hanging out in sections. i find them seated, in the cafe or in the magazine racks.

that's what i mean. doesn't give you much to work with.

delta

There are thousands of things to work with, you are just not seeing them. You can literally just go up and tell the girl you wanted to meet her and then fluff talk about stuff that does not have anything to do with the bookstore you are in. Half a dozen approaches is nothing. I'm not claiming that I've done more, but you need to be relentless. It might take a hundred approaches before you are somewhat comfortable with this. You will start becoming successful when you begin to stop living in your head when you approach and talk to the woman.

 

[~attrACTION~]

You know what's funny, I've heard so many times from different girls who I've talked to, that they (girls) go to libraries and bookstores to get picked up! So, I find it interesting that there's a sort of enthusiasm about picking up chicks in these places, and on the other hand the women go there because they know what we are up to. Seriously, I've heard this A LOT.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

hahah, thanks, don't worry tho, i don't usually talk about something that a girl would have a hard time responding to. to tell u the truth, i don't even know the word esoteric until i look at the dictionary. so i wasn't esoteric to that word. hahah. once again thanks. so what to keep in mind is.......observe carefully especially the book they are reading or the genre aisle where they stand and "nothing esoteric". got it.

You got it. I'll add something else which seems obvious but it goes along with being in the moment and not projecting to the end. When you see her don't just take note of what she's reading, notice her. Notice what she's wearing, what she's carrying. You may be able to figure out if she is a student or a working girl. Whether she is she trendy or more eclectic. Is she sitting or standing? It'll tell you whether she is available to chat for a while.

Where is she in the store? Is she in a place where she can be seen and watch other people or is she in a secluded corner behind the stacks of self help books. You're on an intelligence mission, the things that you find out will give you some idea as to how to approach her and what to talk about. Better still, she may catch you studying her and thus notice you too!

 

[Brak86]

You got it. I'll add something else which seems obvious but it goes along with being in the moment and not projecting to the end. When you see her don't just take note of what she's reading, notice her. Notice what she's wearing, what she's carrying. You may be able to figure out if she is a student or a working girl. Whether she is she trendy or more eclectic. Is she sitting or standing? It'll tell you whether she is available to chat for a while.

Where is she in the store? Is she in a place where she can be seen and watch other people or is she in a secluded corner behind the stacks of self help books. You're on an intelligence mission, the things that you find out will give you some idea as to how to approach her and what to talk about. Better still, she may catch you studying her and thus notice you too!

listen to him, he knows whats up:rock:

 

[greenlake]

thanks for the advice francisco. i really appreciate that. wow, u really went into detail, i didn't know all that would play huge a role in a good conversation. i got to keep that in heart so i won't forget. that advice is gold.