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Back to your STRAW MAN arguments I see.Danger said:Beta is not having the balls to screen your woman with a value system that precludes her dating other men while in a committed relationship.
You spun plates. Good for YOU. However, just because YOU spun plates AND set an OVERT boundary, it doesn't mean $hit. And since we're on the subject, your "boundaries" are also set by betas, and men that are in Fear of their women cheating on them.<------That is irrefutable. But since you're "Alpha" then the reasoning for setting those boundaries must be different.Danger said:I dated and spun lots of plates when I selected my gf....so your assertion is wrong on the distortion claim.
I mis-read this the first time.Colussus said:He's actually right. We're so quick to question stats that support the feminist agenda, why not other MSM stats? Oh right, because they affirm our pre-formed conclusions.
"50% of wives cheat". Please. How is that even remotely verifiable. And even if it were true, that tell us nothing useful. Like you'll somehow be "safe" from infidelity if you don't marry.
Those steps are your insecure boundary that doesn't work.Danger said:Basically if you take steps to protect yourself from a cheater, you are "insecure" or "fearful".
Danger said:I don't care about the "why", I only care that I am protecting myself.
If your boundary works so great then you shouldn't have to "fear" it.Danger said:Men, it is the RESULTS that matter, not what some feminist advocate says you shouldn't do because you "fear" it.
Here we finally have it.Danger said:I fear making bad investments
( . )( . ) said:When you bring out a barrage of feeeel words and a strawman scenario your argument ain't looking too good sister.
Tell us again about "white privilege" and how much you hate those yucky 1950's housewives. I liked those stories better, you suck at this one.
btw I lol'd at you trying to sell a man's ego as a negative trait.
PairPlusRoyalFlush said:Yes, your marriage. Your wife cheated on you.
Soolaimon said:No surprise that every guy who believes in boundaries were quick to express their fears confirming a faulty study.
Those steps are your insecure boundary that doesn't work.
You should have nothing to fear with your boundary.
Cause you have the fear of being cheated on. The reason for your boundaries.
If your boundary works so great then you shouldn't have to "fear" it.
You have fear.
You are riddled with fear.
You are terrified of being cheated on.
Pathetic!
1 cheated, 1 didn't, and 1 half-cheatedSoolaimon said:A sampling of 3 women = 50% of wives cheating?
Why would a DJ feel the need to "impose terms on life"? Why would he GIVE A FVCK what a woman is doing when hes not with her?? He has all the options in the world, he is outcome independent. If a girl loses attraction, she loses attraction. Relationships are not legal contracts, she isnt going to say "man this guy is a total douche but wait he told me not to see other people so i guess i wont".Danger said:More insecures and fearfuls from Solly, who's only weapon is shaming. This is it Solly, this is all you have to try and corral and control men.
Calling them fearful and insecure.
Solly, tell us again why it is so important to you that men do not place expectations on women?
Why do you want women to be unaccountable and free to date other men while supposedly committed to you?
My boundary filtered perfectly.....she doesn't date other men and she is attractive, feminine, sweet and loving.
I filter out the bad $hit from my life, which is my life is so amazing. You could say "I fear bad $hit" (and YOU would).....but a person who is immune to your feminist shaming recognizes that it is just plain wise to filter bad $hit out of your life. You call it insecure and fearful because you WANT bad $hit in mine and other men's lives.
Go back to the hole you came from, nobody buys your $hit except spineless betas who do not have the ability or balls to impose their terms on life.
I have seen legitimate studies that puts the lifetime cheating % of married men and women at 50%. What the studies and the statmongers don't account is separations and trial separations. Since 50% of marriages end in divorce, a huge chunk of "cheating" can be explained by pre divorce separations, formal and informal, which in my mind is not cheating. OTOH, people lie, if I were a cheater, no way no how would I ever admit it to anyone, let alone as part of some study, no matter what guarantees of anonymity. There's also the female gift for rationalization "it's not really cheating when you are unhappy or being mistreated," mistreatment being "he didn't tell me he loved me this week, he raised his voice." So who knows what the real truth is?TheCWord said:With that said, and I apologize to this thread for the tangent, I was wondering if you will change your stance on the Duke Lacrosse Team?
Only 2% of rape accusations are unfounded [source].
Not 50%. A mere two percent!
She's cheating already and I would bet my life on it.Erin's husband's frequent traveling made her the most susceptible to an affair according to Dr. Weil, and in fact, Erin has become friendly with a stay-at-home father who lives in the neighborhood
Danger said:It isn't about the "need" to, it is about having the power to. It is precisely the options available to him which allows for him to screen women to meet his standards and expectations.
The method you suggest is to give away exclusivity WITHOUT considering whether the woman is damage or compatible. This makes no sense.No, it isnt. You just pulled this out of thin air. I would not be exclusive with a girl until I trusted her and had been dating for a long time. I wouldnt have to sit down and tell her not to see other people, because SHE would be the one pushing for it, not me.
A man who knows his worth is patient for the right girl who matches his values and expectations. He imposes those terms on life simply because he can. A man of value does not commit to any woman and then see if it "works out". This is the concept of the beta who has limited options.Yes I agree with all of this, but you get that girl by being patient and having many options as you say, not by trying to force her to be a certain way or change her.
If you think that there are no indicators of infidelity, then quite simply, you don't have experience with women. You have too much to learn before you start making these crazy statements.indicators, certainly. The average chick you meet though with no knowledge of her past you just have to get to know, theres no way around it. Keep other options and let it develop as it does, if thats what you want to call screening, ok.
As for your stress comment. A man of value does not get stressed at his expectations. He knows his value and will not rush into a commitment unless it is with a woman worthy of him.absolutely, the stress was in reference to the guy who is constantly worrying and checking his girls phone, fighting with her over a guy she talks to, etc. No DJ/alpha would waste time with that crap he would just walk or be too busy banging other girls to care
YOU are projecting stress at the idea of filtering women on this basis simply because you have a scarcity mentality. Why would you feel stress at filtering these women, or why would you think other men would be stressed by this?I dont have stress about it, because "filtering women" is not an active imposing of terms for me, i date the amount of girls i want, let the relationships develop on their own, the ones that are interested will stay, if there is mutual long term interest then it will obviously continue. Not that complicated. By having to have exclusivity talks early on and keep analyzing her actions wondering about her cheating, this seems a whole lot more stressful approach. Maybe it isnt for you, I duno.
Either she shares the same values or she does not. Move on if she doesn't, it is that simple.Exactly, but you will know she has the same values as the relationship develops, you wont have to keep bringing it up and discussing it..which only makes you sound needy and scared of losing her
Danger said:I filter out the bad $hit from my life, which is my life is so amazing.
Danger said:
I fear making bad investments.
Danger said:She then CHOOSES whether she wants that exclusivity or not.
The feeeeeelz. Can you feeel it?Soolaimon said:
your fear and insecurity of your woman cheating?
You won't need to have insecure useless boundaries.
you still have fear
Not everything in life can be filtered out. Are you crazy?
You are living in delusion and denial if you think you can filter out every little bad thing from your life from here on out.
You are in fear of your woman leaving you.
She is the bad investment that you are in fear of.
How is living in fear amazing?
I don't need to set fearful boundaries living in fear of a bad investment.
You are living in delusion thinking you are filtering all men out of her life.
You are living in delusion thinking you are filtering out all the bad $hit from your life.
Hilarious!
Here's a thought for your "thought-experiment"......PairPlusRoyalFlush said:Thought experiment:
If one of you NON-insecure anti-boundaries people set a boundary. ..would that make you insecure?
They are one in the same.PairPlusRoyalFlush said:So you admit that the motivation for the boundary is the relevant consideration and that the boundary does not itself impute insecurity?
It has always been my position.PairPlusRoyalFlush said:Then you're backtracking...you just implied that rationales mattered but now you say the act itself imputes insecurity. So now is it your position that if YOU, someone who claims to be secure, were to set a boundary, you would be insecure?
Ahhhh.....no.Danger said:You said yourself if you place a boundary then you will find yourself single at 40 and that this is bad because you want to be married.
Actually sooooo afraid that I put a boundary that she has to sleep next to me every night!So it is clear you are afraid that you will lose your girl.
Yes, she should be the one to push for exclusivity. The catch is that different people define "seeing other people" differently. That's why it is best to make sure you are on the same page with that.jurry said:I wouldnt have to sit down and tell her not to see other people, because SHE would be the one pushing for it, not me.
Danger doesn't mean that you have exclusivity talks when you first start dating. You talk about what exclusivity means when she first brings up the exclusivity talks. It's like if you move in with a girl you talk about what your expectations are: "I'll pay the gas bill if you pay the electric" or whatever. You wouldn't move in together without having that talk.jurry said:By having to have exclusivity talks early on and keep analyzing her actions wondering about her cheating, this seems a whole lot more stressful approach.
There's no reason to keep bringing it up, it only needs to be stated or talked about once. For instance, my girlfriend pays her own car payment. As obvious as that may sound, we talked about it before she moved in, that she would be responsible for all her bills. We talked about it once and it was done, it's not like I have to keep reminding her every month that she has to pay her own bills.jurry said:Exactly, but you will know she has the same values as the relationship develops, you wont have to keep bringing it up and discussing it..