Thought I'd just pop in here again as I've been experimenting on building a strategy to straight for "lay" date (with my newer/wavering plates) since my last reply to this read.
Recent 2 successes.
Plate 1
A relatively new plate I had been seeing. We've had sex a few times but things are still very cold. She is a bit withheld and conservative.
Most of the sex has happened after dating or doing some activities together, so recently I wanted to just go straight to sex without making her feel like a slut and trigger her ASD.
I made a date with her and told her we would go to a music performance. I did not buy the tickets. I just told her that I was not able to secure the tickets but we could listen to music at my place. She agreed and came over. Obviously, she knows what that offer meant but I think shooting her the invite like this by creating an acceptable context really helps her in processing her own conservatism on whether to sleep with me.
I think if I had asked her directly, hey do you want to come to my place to listen to music without creating the context, she would have hesitated and most likely said no.
We met up and banged. All is good. I am sure with time, she will be more receptive and I can just ask her direct.
Plate 2
A breaking plate I had been seeing on and off. She has been a bit on the fence because I feel like the relationship talk is coming up soon.
I've been inviting myself over to her place to have sex. And she has come to mine as well. We have only met for sex. But recent attempts to invite her out for our booty call has failed because I sense she wants something serious. But we have not had the talk yet.
Once again, sensing she is experiencing some hesitation on sex; I've been looking for the right context to meet up with her. In her case, she has been going through some trouble with a best friend. I've invited her over to talk in private about it. We do talk but also end up smashing after. I also told her if she ever wanted to have a heart to heart she is welcome every time. Of course she knows sex is in the picture but once again the context allows her to do it without feeling like a slut. And sex always makes her feel good about her friend troubles. So it works well.