I know, I know, I KNOW I should ignore him... so can I stay away? Of course not. I feel like such an idiot. I know I am not doing what's best for me emotionally, by responding when he texts, or answering when he calls, but curiosity always gets the best of me. I know I bring this on myself.
So today, out of the blue, S*** texts me...
HIM: Hey you want to go camping with me and my gf?
ME: When?
HIM: Today. Want to leave pretty soon and set up camp.
ME: Ok, I was gonna go to Bingo with your ma, but she didn't answer. plus I get paid 2day.
HIM: O really well if you want to go with her you should.
Sounds like fun. So if you want to go let me know. I am trying to get guys to go...
HIM: Well just let me know. I miss ya too. If not camping then just come and chill with us? Maybe drink some?
****Did he just say he missed me, (too????) wtf??
ME: Me 2 well I'll c if your ma wants to go to Bingo, if not maybe tomorrow cuz there's always Bingo tomorrow.
HIM: Well do you want some guys to go? I'm waiting 4 some to text me back. But if not it would be us three. If you don't mind.
ME: Well, ur mom just canceled so yeah let's do this! Thanks 4 inviting me
ME: Sure and don't worry about me babe, I can hang. I'm going to get my check now and I'm ready to go
HIM: Well, do you have anybody you know that might want to go?
ME: No, but am fine with the three of us if it's not weird for u lol Does ur gf have a car? Do u need a ride?
ME: Wait I might know a couple that might want to go. it's short notice tho.
HIM: Okay cool, not weird for me and u should call them and see what's up. O and no car. We would need a ride. I was going to take the van but...
ME: LoL I'll pick you guys up and I asked Paula and her Hubby 2 go, no word back yet. And it's not weird for me either, that's coo! SUMDAY tho... jk
HIM: F*** well I don't know what's going on now. She is being weird. Let me see what's up give me a min.
ME: Ok, I'm sorry, did I offend her? I was only half serious. I hope everything is okay. :/ I really would like to c u.
Later...
ME: Hey babe I just made other plans. Sorry if I caused problems 4 u, I was jokin' ya know? Neways, call me so we can talk. Hope everything's okay.
He called me a little while after this text message, and said his girlfriend didn't get mad about the comment I made. (Not sure if I believe him), but I felt guilty afterwards even saying something like that to him when I know he has someone.
How utterly pathetic am I? I was going to give them a ride and stuff? I apparently DO still like him more than I thought. I wish sometimes he would lose my phone number... as I never contact him anymore... he contacts me. And not just when he wants something, but you know, to talk and see how I am. I suppose we are keeping each other on the back burner, so to speak.
I was excited at the time, but now I feel dumb. I am a little confused as to why he would invite me to go in the first place? He KNOWS how I felt/feel (eh) about him. Is he truly just trying to keep me as a friend, if nothing else?
Hoping for a threesome? LOL
He also mentioned introducing me to one of his friends. I'm hopefully meeting him tomorrow. And no, this isn't to distract me... because I have my own life and haven't been talking to S*** that much, only when he contacts me.
I would normally take this as he "just wants to be friends" but reading about how men and women supposedly "just can't be friends" is a little confusing to me.
Why does he still contact me even though he has a girlfriend?
Is he playing games with me? Is he TRYING to hurt me? I really don't think he's trying to FLAUNT his new girlfriend in front of me? Should I tell him how I feel, even though it won't change a thing?
He is definitely my "One-itis". (I am reading up on that, but putting things into motion is difficult).
Some days I really hate being a woman. I know that most of you guys would have no problems cutting off contact for good. As mentioned before, I DO know that I am doing this to myself by responding every time he texts or calls. I KNOW.
Rip away, boyz.
So today, out of the blue, S*** texts me...
HIM: Hey you want to go camping with me and my gf?
ME: When?
HIM: Today. Want to leave pretty soon and set up camp.
ME: Ok, I was gonna go to Bingo with your ma, but she didn't answer. plus I get paid 2day.
HIM: O really well if you want to go with her you should.
Sounds like fun. So if you want to go let me know. I am trying to get guys to go...HIM:
Well just let me know. I miss ya too. If not camping then just come and chill with us? Maybe drink some?****Did he just say he missed me, (too????) wtf??
ME: Me 2
well I'll c if your ma wants to go to Bingo, if not maybe tomorrow cuz there's always Bingo tomorrow. HIM: Well do you want some guys to go? I'm waiting 4 some to text me back. But if not it would be us three. If you don't mind.
ME: Well, ur mom just canceled so yeah let's do this! Thanks 4 inviting me
ME: Sure
and don't worry about me babe, I can hang. I'm going to get my check now and I'm ready to go HIM: Well, do you have anybody you know that might want to go?
ME: No, but am fine with the three of us if it's not weird for u lol
Does ur gf have a car? Do u need a ride?ME: Wait I might know a couple that might want to go. it's short notice tho.
HIM: Okay cool, not weird for me
and u should call them and see what's up. O and no car. We would need a ride. I was going to take the van but...ME: LoL I'll pick you guys up and I asked Paula and her Hubby 2 go, no word back yet. And it's not weird for me either, that's coo! SUMDAY tho... jk
HIM: F*** well I don't know what's going on now. She is being weird. Let me see what's up give me a min.
ME: Ok, I'm sorry, did I offend her? I was only half serious. I hope everything is okay. :/ I really would like to c u.
Later...
ME: Hey babe I just made other plans. Sorry if I caused problems 4 u, I was jokin' ya know? Neways, call me so we can talk. Hope everything's okay.
He called me a little while after this text message, and said his girlfriend didn't get mad about the comment I made. (Not sure if I believe him), but I felt guilty afterwards even saying something like that to him when I know he has someone.
How utterly pathetic am I? I was going to give them a ride and stuff? I apparently DO still like him more than I thought. I wish sometimes he would lose my phone number... as I never contact him anymore... he contacts me. And not just when he wants something, but you know, to talk and see how I am. I suppose we are keeping each other on the back burner, so to speak.
I was excited at the time, but now I feel dumb. I am a little confused as to why he would invite me to go in the first place? He KNOWS how I felt/feel (eh) about him. Is he truly just trying to keep me as a friend, if nothing else?
Hoping for a threesome? LOL
He also mentioned introducing me to one of his friends. I'm hopefully meeting him tomorrow. And no, this isn't to distract me... because I have my own life and haven't been talking to S*** that much, only when he contacts me.
I would normally take this as he "just wants to be friends" but reading about how men and women supposedly "just can't be friends" is a little confusing to me.
Why does he still contact me even though he has a girlfriend?
Is he playing games with me? Is he TRYING to hurt me? I really don't think he's trying to FLAUNT his new girlfriend in front of me? Should I tell him how I feel, even though it won't change a thing?
He is definitely my "One-itis". (I am reading up on that, but putting things into motion is difficult).
Some days I really hate being a woman. I know that most of you guys would have no problems cutting off contact for good. As mentioned before, I DO know that I am doing this to myself by responding every time he texts or calls. I KNOW.
Rip away, boyz.
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