What you're saying is true (the unfortunate truth...but the truth nonetheless).To continue and repeat, here’s who winds up socially stunted and womanless.
1. Men with dysfunctional home lives who have an inherently gentle dispositions (the criminals produced in them aren’t womanless).
2. Men in locations in which pickings are slim.
3. Men who are neurodivergent, weird, and mentally troubled.
4. Homely men.
Here’s how both normie men and po0n hounds get women. They spend time with friends and family, go out and about, attend work, do activities involving others, use dating apps, and go for women they meet who show interest in the course of doing so. That’s it! They’re not intense, awkward, and analyzing, learning, and relearning.
I’m sitting on a soccer field at my son’s game. My wife is coaching. I’d bet money 99 percent of the men here didn’t have to learn sh-t to meet their spouses, cold approach, or psychoanalyze women.
The neurodivergent part is really a game-killer. All of the other negatives on your list don't describe me. I come from a wealthy 2 parent household, I live in a big city with pickings galore, and I have above average looks (7/10). Yet my neurodivergence still holds me back.
As for the rest of your post, you mentioned that successful men go for broads they meet who show interest. That's another area where I'm lacking. I have a hard time telling whether a woman is into me.
I used to blame this on my neurodivergence. But I've since noticed that even neurotypicals appear to struggle with this. There have been times when I've shared the same exact woman-related story with multiple neurotypicals (to get opinions on whether she's into me)...some neurotypicals will say she's into me; some will say she's not.