C'mon now. You did nothing few month go but you advice other men to get a criminal record AT BEST over some unholy woman that would be gone either way..
Better advice is to simply leave them both.
Dont advice other men to use violence against people for the sake of a woman.
Let’s get a couple of things straight here, the first of which is that I am finally getting around to you; i see you, you’re one of my biggest fans on this board next to the former catsmeow, who I had to declaw about six months ago, and she was a lot hotter than you are.
Anyway, back to the point here. This situation is not apples to apples but I am going to elaborate on my lessons from the situation for OP as well as following up with a situation not long after related to my own best friend and then close it out with how things are now.
I was her plus one at a wedding 100 miles upstate, I was five years older than her, the wedding party, and the couple, my girl is very attractive and my mere being there with a childless woman given my lot in life and position made me an object of high SMV, so it was my position to lose and make no mistake I did lose it out of purely being rusty. Secondly, I was still
In divorce litigation, everything was under a microscope, and my kids were mine to lose. She never cheated on me and before the night ended I did the right thing and stayed in my room and did not go down to the after party and she stayed there too, despite the crying and protesting. So at the end of the day I handled my business. What went wrong there for me? One, a month prior I got absolutely blasted on a solo run in midtown manhattan on a Saturday morning by like 10am, I think by 5pm and a 15 mile walk later I was 15 drinks in. I was going in hard on my girlfriend on some stuff that was building up under my skin, it was totally uncalled for and should have been handled totally differently. I suspect part of her actions at the wedding were a natural response to that, we were off our balance and the only person I could control is myself, and in doing that I lost the high ground. I lost more ground by getting hammered at that wedding. I lost even more ground on my birthday a couple months later when I got wasted and threw like 8 bouncers around at the bar on my birthday in front of her bc my other boy was being put in a chokehold and I threw all sense, caution and responsibility as a single dad out the window. I almost got arrested. Since then, I noticed that pattern and I reeled it in. Since then, she is here almost all the time, it’s a massive pain in the ass for her including relating to her professional issues beginning to suffer and she powers through it anyway on account of seeing me. My frame is rock solid. Take it or leave it. Secondly, on that issue with the bouncers, our other friend was the most sober of the three of us and gave my girl his number so that she could let him know that we got back safely (bc I am an idiot and I drove home). I texted him that night we made it back and then the next day, called my friend, and this is my oldest closest friend, and I asked him what that was about, and he explained why, and I said you can ask me directly next time, explained in no mistaken terms that I can and will handle my business with my girl directly and honestly my buddy who is never at a loss for words was found with very few words. Last night as a matter of fact we all got together and there was no doubt who my girl was there with. In other words, Op can and should tell same to this guy and OP should do it directly in this guys doorstep bc he will feel fantastic doing it.
I will tell you how that wedding would play out for me moving forward if it ever happened again, but the pretenses would obviously be different as I would not have drunkenly gone in on her, and i would not have been hammered at the wedding. First of all I would probably realize what was going on, realize I did nothing wrong and then accept what was going on. If it was absolutely eggrgious I would not take photos with her, dance with her etc I would actually start befriending other groups and slowly I would just look to enjoy myself and if I started flirting with another woman so be it. If it was absolutely egregious I would let her pass out, pack my crap and I would bounce that evening. If the guy had come to my door knocking like he did at 12 midnight I would open the door this time and put him up against the wall in the hallway by his throat and make him regret coming by, you can’t do that in mid wedding but you can absolutely do that after.
Take it or leave it, I live and I learn.
