More than a one night stand

[Vanderdonck]

45-60s (I'd even go above 60)

What is the mental condition you mentioned that you have?

 

[SW15]

What is the mental condition you mentioned that you have?

This thread was a summary of his problems. Autism is a primary problem.

my struggles with the ladies go way beyond mere social awkwardness

I was having a DM discussion with another member where I mentioned how my struggles with the ladies go beyond mere social awkwardness/ASD. Come to think of it, I suppose the topic warrants its own thread. In addition to my ASD/social awkwardness, there are many other factors working against me...

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[Clockwerk50]

When I get attitude out of the blue a mere 4 days after our first date, isn't that a pretty sure sign sex is off the table? (Whether I stayed with her another day, week, or even month?)

Not necessarily.

To clarify, the self-centeredness, self-consciousness, entitlement, self-absorption, insecurity, impatience, and other similar traits are not unique to the woman you parted ways with. These seem to be recurring issues that could explain why you don't often have sex, why you don't have sex more than once with the same person, and why you don't have a consistent pipeline of potential suitors wanting to build a connection with you.

 

[corrector]

It seems that you want continued sex without implying for a relationship. Not going to happen in most cases, because sex is a bonding experience between two people.

The women can detect your playerish vibes from a miles away and even if they gave you a freebee, they will not stay with you until your genuinely a cool guy whose got his stuff together AND….wants a relationship.

So I suggest you take some time off, work on yourself- get a gym membership, work on your hobbies and goals in life, strive for a spiritual life especially and know theres a higher power, take up semen retention and meditation/prayer, stop eating crap and get better uplifting friends etc

Once you’ve done some of those things above, you gotta know where the quality women hangs out - bookstores, gyms, martial arts classes, yoga classes, volunteering, parks and beaches, art classes in community colleges and Michaels, church, coffee shops, family resto bars like applebees and chili’s etc.


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You are advising him to go on hard monk-mode, lol. He's going to have to abandon his "fallback strategy"....which sounds like a tall order.

 

[GoodMan32]

What is the mental condition you mentioned that you have?

I'm an autist (mild case)

I also have mental illnesses galore.

 

[GoodMan32]

Not necessarily.

To clarify, the self-centeredness, self-consciousness, entitlement, self-absorption, insecurity, impatience, and other similar traits are not unique to the woman you parted ways with. These seem to be recurring issues that could explain why you don't often have sex, why you don't have sex more than once with the same person, and why you don't have a consistent pipeline of potential suitors wanting to build a connection with you.

The last woman I had free sex with, I spent 2 years flirting off and on with her before finally getting sex. No way would an impatient guy be willing to hold out 2 years.

I stand by my claim that I'm not impatient.

That being said, after doing some reflection, I totally admit one big problem of mine is that the relationship would have to be on my terms.

As soon as a relationship becomes more stress than it's worth, I start looking for an exit plan (That's why I bailed when the woman I had my last date with started giving me attitude). Especially when I have a fallback strategy to get laid, there's no reason for me to tolerate stress.

It's likely hardly any woman would agree to a relationship on my terms. And that's fine. I'd rather have no girlfriend/wife than have a girlfriend/wife I'm miserable with.

Based on stories various coworkers have shared about their relationships through the years, a lot of their relationships sound downright miserable to me.

For that matter, as an observer looking in, my parents' marriage looks like torture to me. Same goes for my 2 living grandparents' marriage (and my 2 dead grandparents' marriage)