More than a one night stand

[GoodMan32]

Are you gonna become another Gamisch/Baron every time I post?

The obvious difference between me and this guy is I didn't ask for financial advice.

Financial advice?

I don't recall asking for financial advice.

 

[GoodMan32]

If you have a fat naked woman in your bed, and you don't want her, how did you manage to get rid of her? I can't imagine there would be a nice way of doing that.

There have been several times I've been in that scenario (in some way, shape, or form)

The 2 times I declined sex with a naked fattie after a first date:

-In one instance, I at least rubbed my sausage against her leg (with a condom on) until I climaxed. I don't remember all the details (as this was 2012). I'd venture to guess it was implied we were finished (no pun intended) after I climaxed.

-In the other instance, I inserted myself for a split second, withdrew, and told her I was afraid to get her pregnant. She wanted to leave at that point.

Then there were 2 instances where I really had sex with a fattie, then ended up having to get rid of her.

In one instance, I told her I wasn't feeling it (this was an hour after sex; I had plenty of time to reflect on my decision before telling her)

In the other instance, she wanted round 2. I told her we'll have to go out and buy more condoms (I had used my last condom). Once we were in public, I purposely got into an argument with her so she'd get away from me.

 

[BPH]

Financial advice?

I don't recall asking for financial advice.

I'm referring to how he, Gamisch, and Baron are dead set on providing me unwanted financial "motivation" after I revealed that I live at home with my parents when I made a post asking about a particular girl.

The point is I didn't ask for their input about that topic, but they insisted on giving it.

He's "calling me out on my BS" when I'm giving you the advice you asked for, since I'm having the experience you're after.

 

[corrector]

There have been several times I've been in that scenario (in some way, shape, or form)

The 2 times I declined sex with a naked fattie after a first date:

-In one instance, I at least rubbed my sausage against her leg (with a condom on) until I climaxed. I don't remember all the details (as this was 2012). I'd venture to guess it was implied we were finished (no pun intended) after I climaxed.

-In the other instance, I inserted myself for a split second, withdrew, and told her I was afraid to get her pregnant. She wanted to leave at that point.

There was this one time, my ex-gf (which as a real fattie), took my sperm (I came while I was kissing her legs and see was licking/kissing my private part), and took it to the washroom. I was petrified that she was going to stick that handful of sperm up her vagina and get pregnant. That was a moment of pure terror. However, 9 months later, there was no pregnancy. (She was Schizophrenic, and any child she brought into the world, would not only have her bad genes, but could be taken away from child protective services if she's unfit as a mother. Unless I want a future child being brought up in foster care, probably not a good idea to get that girl pregnant....I guess you are also worried about the fitness of these modern women being quality mothers for your future children and raising them right...don't blame you).

Then there were 2 instances where I really had sex with a fattie, then ended up having to get rid of her.

In one instance, I told her I wasn't feeling it (this was an hour after sex; I had plenty of time to reflect on my decision before telling her)

In the other instance, she wanted round 2. I told her we'll have to go out and buy more condoms (I had used my last condom). Once we were in public, I purposely got into an argument with her so she'd get away from me.

Well you climaxed....so technically you did not reject her. It doesn't sound like you rejected anyone who was naked out right. The posting, and others reply made it sound as though you freaked out as some feature, smell or issue with the lady and wanted to end everything right there and get her out. But it doesn't sound like that at all. In fact, it does not sound like you rejected anyone at all. They rejected you, or if you climaxed/released, there was no rejection by anyone since you already achieved the intended goal (ie which is to get a "release" or shot).

I've subbed to one OF-lady who is a fattie (cancelled a renewal sub since she has not replied with me, but still has a tonne of pics/videos). I know she's advertising her services. I've seen videos of guys eating her out and sexing her (ie she has a tonne of videos), and I'm thinking, how can a slim guy feel comfortable eating out the pvssy of a hor like that? I think she's possessed (how her voice sounds on the video has that "sound" of someone who is into perverted things). I definitely can see how someone can be aroused by a fat lady since I've had some intense fap sessions that left me feeling spaced out afterwards from that lady's content. (I feel sick about this though and want to stop that. Knowing that she is possessed might dissuade me from going further at that).

However, I know that this is fantasy on paper. In real-life, I'm sure a fat woman would be more gross than how they might appear on a video or picture. I mean, would you eat out a fat woman's pvssy?

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Work on comfort bonding OP. Need to give them some sort of feels.

 

[GoodMan32]

I'm referring to how he, Gamisch, and Baron are dead set on providing me unwanted financial "motivation" after I revealed that I live at home with my parents when I made a post asking about a particular girl.

The point is I didn't ask for their input about that topic, but they insisted on giving it.

He's "calling me out on my BS" when I'm giving you the advice you asked for, since I'm having the experience you're after.

I see. I've had unsolicited advice given to me about making more money (even though I never asked for said advice). I can relate.

 

[GoodMan32]

There was this one time, my ex-gf (which as a real fattie), took my sperm (I came while I was kissing her legs and see was licking/kissing my private part), and took it to the washroom. I was petrified that she was going to stick that handful of sperm up her vagina and get pregnant. That was a moment of pure terror. However, 9 months later, there was no pregnancy. (She was Schizophrenic, and any child she brought into the world, would not only have her bad genes, but could be taken away from child protective services if she's unfit as a mother. Unless I want a future child being brought up in foster care, probably not a good idea to get that girl pregnant....I guess you are also worried about the fitness of these modern women being quality mothers for your future children and raising them right...don't blame you).



Well you climaxed....so technically you did not reject her. It doesn't sound like you rejected anyone who was naked out right. The posting, and others reply made it sound as though you freaked out as some feature, smell or issue with the lady and wanted to end everything right there and get her out. But it doesn't sound like that at all. In fact, it does not sound like you rejected anyone at all. They rejected you, or if you climaxed/released, there was no rejection by anyone since you already achieved the intended goal (ie which is to get a "release" or shot).

I've subbed to one OF-lady who is a fattie (cancelled a renewal sub since she has not replied with me, but still has a tonne of pics/videos). I know she's advertising her services. I've seen videos of guys eating her out and sexing her (ie she has a tonne of videos), and I'm thinking, how can a slim guy feel comfortable eating out the pvssy of a hor like that? I think she's possessed (how her voice sounds on the video has that "sound" of someone who is into perverted things). I definitely can see how someone can be aroused by a fat lady since I've had some intense fap sessions that left me feeling spaced out afterwards from that lady's content. (I feel sick about this though and want to stop that. Knowing that she is possessed might dissuade me from going further at that).

However, I know that this is fantasy on paper. In real-life, I'm sure a fat woman would be more gross than how they might appear on a video or picture. I mean, would you eat out a fat woman's pvssy?

Yeah, the scenarios weren't as dramatic as you initially envisioned.

The 2 broads I ended up in bed with after a first date (only for me to decline sex), I was into the broads; I was merely afraid of pregnancy.

Your story about a broad taking your semen in her hand is an illustration of why even non-intercourse climaxing is risky. That's precisely why I wore a condom to rub my sausage against a woman's leg to completion.

To answer your question about eating a fattie's cooch, the one cooch I licked belonged to a fattie. Tasted gross.

 

[Travel memoir21]

It seems that you want continued sex without implying for a relationship. Not going to happen in most cases, because sex is a bonding experience between two people.

The women can detect your playerish vibes from a miles away and even if they gave you a freebee, they will not stay with you until your genuinely a cool guy whose got his stuff together AND….wants a relationship.

So I suggest you take some time off, work on yourself- get a gym membership, work on your hobbies and goals in life, strive for a spiritual life especially and know theres a higher power, take up semen retention and meditation/prayer, stop eating crap and get better uplifting friends etc

Once you’ve done some of those things above, you gotta know where the quality women hangs out - bookstores, gyms, martial arts classes, yoga classes, volunteering, parks and beaches, art classes in community colleges and Michaels, church, coffee shops, family resto bars like applebees and chili’s etc.

 

[Vanderdonck]

If you have a fat naked woman in your bed, and you don't want her, how did you manage to get rid of her? I can't imagine there would be a nice way of doing that.

"I just got an alert on my phone - Domino's is giving away free pizzas for the next hour!"

 

[Vanderdonck]

I'm more optimistic there are 45-60s broads willing to get with a man my age (especially toward the lower end of that age range)

As for general improvement, I'm open to learning (for example) seduction methods.

Certain things (like my mental illnesses) are beyond curing, however.

Well to improve methods, you would have to make some efforts, fail, and be open to a diagnosis of where you could improve. Field reports and stuff like that.

I'm not sure your age but if women in the 45-60 range are what you want, go for it. Optimism without action doesn't equal much, that and a dollar will get you a cup of coffee.

 

[Clockwerk50]

I replied with more information about my conquests because the poster was posting/asking about my conquests.

You aren't the first (and won't be the last) to call me impatient.

Some guy called me impatient because I proposed to the broad that we part ways 4 days after my last date (the guy who called me impatient thought the reason I proposed we part ways on day 4 was because sex hadn't happened yet). His "impatient" smear p1ssed me off. The fact sex hadn't happened yet had nothing to do with why I proposed we part ways. I proposed we part ways because I could sense sex would never happen.

I can wait for sex no problem (I'm not 20 anymore). But if I can sense sex will never happen, there's no point in continuing to engage with the broad.

The fact the broad started giving me attitude a mere 4 days after our first date was why I could sense sex would never happen.

It sounds like you’re still missing the bigger picture here. You’re framing yourself as someone who can wait for sex, but your actions suggest impatience and self-centeredness. You're not just looking for sex; you're looking for it on your terms and on your timeline, and that’s the issue.

Seduction, if you really understand it, is a process—a kind of ceremony or ritual. Part of the pleasure comes from the anticipation and the patience involved. You want immediate gratification, and when you sense sex isn't happening quickly, you cut your losses. That impatience is a dead giveaway. It’s not just about waiting for sex, it’s about how you wait—and you seem unable to do so with any consideration for the other person’s needs or desires.

By rushing things and only thinking about your own satisfaction, you’re ignoring the most important part of any relationship—mutual enjoyment and connection. When you only focus on your own pleasure, you end up alienating people, because they can feel that self-centeredness. You’re not taking the time to really connect or create a meaningful experience. Instead, you're too focused on the finish line to appreciate the process.

PS: If you were more charming, charismatic, or just genuinely pleasant to be around, you’d likely have more people here on your side here.

 

[GoodMan32]

Well to improve methods, you would have to make some efforts, fail, and be open to a diagnosis of where you could improve. Field reports and stuff like that.

I'm not sure your age but if women in the 45-60 range are what you want, go for it. Optimism without action doesn't equal much, that and a dollar will get you a cup of coffee.

I'm 33.

 

[GoodMan32]

It sounds like you’re still missing the bigger picture here. You’re framing yourself as someone who can wait for sex, but your actions suggest impatience and self-centeredness. You're not just looking for sex; you're looking for it on your terms and on your timeline, and that’s the issue.

Seduction, if you really understand it, is a process—a kind of ceremony or ritual. Part of the pleasure comes from the anticipation and the patience involved. You want immediate gratification, and when you sense sex isn't happening quickly, you cut your losses. That impatience is a dead giveaway. It’s not just about waiting for sex, it’s about how you wait—and you seem unable to do so with any consideration for the other person’s needs or desires.

By rushing things and only thinking about your own satisfaction, you’re ignoring the most important part of any relationship—mutual enjoyment and connection. When you only focus on your own pleasure, you end up alienating people, because they can feel that self-centeredness. You’re not taking the time to really connect or create a meaningful experience. Instead, you're too focused on the finish line to appreciate the process.

PS: If you were more charming, charismatic, or just genuinely pleasant to be around, you’d likely have more people here on your side here.

Umm, again, the fact sex hadn't happened quickly wasn't why I proposed we part ways.

The fact I could sense sex would never happen was why I proposed we part ways.

When I get attitude out of the blue a mere 4 days after our first date, isn't that a pretty sure sign sex is off the table? (Whether I stayed with her another day, week, or even month?)

 

[Vanderdonck]

I'm 33.

And 45-60 is your ideal?

 

[GoodMan32]

And 45-60 is your ideal?

45-60s (I'd even go above 60)

 

[Vanderdonck]

45-60s (I'd even go above 60)

What is the mental condition you mentioned that you have?

 

[SW15]

What is the mental condition you mentioned that you have?

This thread was a summary of his problems. Autism is a primary problem.

my struggles with the ladies go way beyond mere social awkwardness

I was having a DM discussion with another member where I mentioned how my struggles with the ladies go beyond mere social awkwardness/ASD. Come to think of it, I suppose the topic warrants its own thread. In addition to my ASD/social awkwardness, there are many other factors working against me...

www.sosuave.net

 

[Clockwerk50]

When I get attitude out of the blue a mere 4 days after our first date, isn't that a pretty sure sign sex is off the table? (Whether I stayed with her another day, week, or even month?)

Not necessarily.

To clarify, the self-centeredness, self-consciousness, entitlement, self-absorption, insecurity, impatience, and other similar traits are not unique to the woman you parted ways with. These seem to be recurring issues that could explain why you don't often have sex, why you don't have sex more than once with the same person, and why you don't have a consistent pipeline of potential suitors wanting to build a connection with you.

 

[corrector]

It seems that you want continued sex without implying for a relationship. Not going to happen in most cases, because sex is a bonding experience between two people.

The women can detect your playerish vibes from a miles away and even if they gave you a freebee, they will not stay with you until your genuinely a cool guy whose got his stuff together AND….wants a relationship.

So I suggest you take some time off, work on yourself- get a gym membership, work on your hobbies and goals in life, strive for a spiritual life especially and know theres a higher power, take up semen retention and meditation/prayer, stop eating crap and get better uplifting friends etc

Once you’ve done some of those things above, you gotta know where the quality women hangs out - bookstores, gyms, martial arts classes, yoga classes, volunteering, parks and beaches, art classes in community colleges and Michaels, church, coffee shops, family resto bars like applebees and chili’s etc.


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You are advising him to go on hard monk-mode, lol. He's going to have to abandon his "fallback strategy"....which sounds like a tall order.

 

[GoodMan32]

What is the mental condition you mentioned that you have?

I'm an autist (mild case)

I also have mental illnesses galore.