He not only ignored the most important paragraph of your post, but he also generally fails to understand the basic principles of gender dynamics, despite many people explaining them to him. He just wrote a lengthy post about his past conquests (again!) like everyone cares, not knowing all those relationships opperate under Briffault's law (gender dynamics!). I wrote this to him on September 24, 2024, and it remains relevant today.
“… Instead, you’ve chosen to ignore it, defend yourself and write lengthy posts about your past relationships, which don’t seem to bring you any benefit. From my perspective, your posts come across as somewhat self-centered, reflecting narcissistic qualities, as you often steer the conversation toward yourself. You are missing the inner voice that should remind you that you’re not only wasting everyone's time, but you are boring everyone else. This is the real reason why women do not like to spend time with you; this deep-rooted selfishness.”
@GoodMan32 Women may not offer you sex because they communicate differently than men (for the 4th time). Additionally, you struggle to step outside of your own perspective to provide focused, individualized attention that caters to their desires and pleasure. This could be due to traits like entitlement, narcissism, insecurity, impatience, selfishness, self-consciousness, sensitivity, self-absorption, and fear.
As per Briffault’s law, “the female, not the male, determines all the conditions of the animal family. Where the female can derive no benefit from association with the male, no such association takes place”. Please start here if you REALLY need to know why you are not having continuous sex.
Yeah, I'm a little disappointed that he seems more fixated on presenting an argument justifying his actions than understanding the root of his problems. Maybe he'll get it, maybe he won't.
As for the woman (yeah, I said woman) I lost my v-card to, she was in the military and was already on her 2nd marriage (at age 22). It's common for soldiers to get phony marriages simply because they get more benefits that way. The fact she was ending her 2nd marriage at such a young age tells me her marriages were sham marriages.
She could have gotten court martialed if her higher ups found out about our sex. But since I'm not mentioning her name (and since this story took place almost 13 years ago), I don't see the harm in sharing these details (to give you some context)
You're right, I have no idea if the married woman I had the monthlong affair with was telling the truth about her husband withholding sex for 2 and a half years. To give her the benefit of the doubt, if we operate under the assumption her claim was true, that marriage was a pointless marriage. Plus, with how much she enjoyed sex with me, she deserved me. My then-23 year old wood made a fat 45 year old feel young again.
You are still justifying bad behavior here, and I don't know why. A woman's bad behavior doesn't absolve you of your role when you engage with it. Sleeping with taken/married women is not something to be proud of or aspire to - you are potentially ruining somebody's family, or even your own life by needlessly having casual sex with somebody whose spouse (likely) loves them and will often act out emotionally if that truth comes to light.
Even worse, you sound proud of your actions in that bold statement at the end there. I will try to give you advice so you can course-correct but know that I think you are 100% a piece of sh** for regularly doing this, justifying it, AND being proud of it.
Now's a good time to address your question of whether I'm a chubby chaser: Yes and no.
Being fat isn't a dealbreaker (but it also isn't a requirement). The married woman I had the monthlong affair with was enjoyable to be around. The fattie I sent home (canceling our sleepover plans) wasn't enjoyable to be around. That's what it all boils down to: If you're fat, you better at least be enjoyable to be around.
This tells me you're not a chubby chaser - but you want sex with someone, even if it's not with someone you want. Like I said before, you lack standards, and that is not an attractive trait.
I'm capable of saying no by the way. I've shared stories on the forum about turning down sex (on multiple occassions) when a woman ended up naked in bed with me after a first date.
This is degenerate behavior. You waited until a woman was naked in your bed to turn her down? How in the hell does a woman you're not attracted to magically end up at your place, in your bed, undressed, without being stopped at any point before that?
Can you imagine how you'd feel if a woman was interested in you until she saw you naked? Can you imagine pulling out your c*ck and that being the moment a woman decides she'd prefer that you leave?
I wouldn't call my pee fetish strange; it's pretty mild as far as fetishes go.
Fetishes in general are strange. That's why they're called fetishes. The fact that you have such a desire to exercise your fetishes means you will have to choose whether it's more important that you maintain a relationship, or whether you get to act out all your fantasies.
Your hypothesis that hardly any woman wants me because I'm desperate is incorrect. It's the other way around: I'm desperate because hardly any woman is into me; that's why I've gone to some of the lengths I've gone to get laid.
This is called circular reasoning. You're saying the reason women don't want you isn't because you're desperate...but also that you're desperate because women don't want you...therefore you come across as desperate and women don't want you. Do you get it?
I'm tired and need to go to bed so I'll try to wrap this up. First and foremost, as I've mentioned in some of my other lengthier posts about getting girls, you don't DESERVE anything from women. You are not ENTITLED to sex, relationships, love, companionship, or anything - you need to become the person that a woman will want those things from.
And I'll tell you what...women do not want those things with a homewrecker who searches Craiglist for sex, pays for prostitutes, has no standards, and will settle for obese women - if he doesn't kick them naked out of his bed first, and deeply desires women too old to carry his children - but not too old to carry a full bladder.
Most people's standards reflect how highly they perceive themselves because they want lovers and partners who measure up similarly. Your standards tell me that your perception of yourself is likely very low. I believe I gave you advice for how to fix that in your old 10+ page post.
Whether you take any of that advice, or any of this advice, is up to you.
