More than a one night stand

[GoodMan32]

There's an active thread on here about how all it takes is one slip for a woman to "next" a man. The thread I'm starting right now is similar, only geared specifically to my circumstances.

My problem with "nexting" is how often (and how quickly) it happens.

Of the 9 free sex partners I've had, 8 were one night stands.

I want continued sex; not a one night stand.

And I've lost count of how many broads nexted me before sex even happened (The fact there's a high chance I'd chicken out anyway if a fertile broad offered me sex is beside the point. The point is: In many instances, I never even have the opportunity to find out whether I would have chickened out)

My track record begs the question: What incentive do I have to pursue broads if, based on my track record, I'm highly unlikely to get anything more than a one night stand (at most)?

My circumstances are a double whammy: In addition to a high rejection rate, I rarely get what I want even in the instances where I initially succeed in securing her interest.

If I had a high rejection rate, but at least had a decent track record of getting continued sex in the cases where I "succeed" (succeed as in "don't get insta-rejected"), I might be more motivated to pursue broads.

Don't get me wrong; I'd like to pursue more. I just sometimes have a hard time seeing the point.

 

[SW15]

Men who put up big notch counts have many one night stands.

One night stands are not much of an issue for men with a Thrill of the Hunt orientation, men with strong game (usually looks, but some combination of looks, money, status, and personality), and men with certain lifestyle factors.

You are more motivated by extended interactions and I think a lot of men are that way. Constant hunting for pussie is a difficult lifestyle.

Have you done any self reflection to figure out why you are only getting sex once in an interaction when you want interactions with sex more than once?

 

[GoodMan32]

As for self-reflection on why I didn't get continued sex with any of my 6 partners in college, there are a number of reasons.

-I was new to sex (so obviously wasn't very good yet)

-Some of my partners were cheating on a boyfriend/husband. That type of thing typically doesn't lead to extended sex.

-In one instance, she was going to sleep over, yet I nexted her before we had a chance to sleep (because after the sex, I realized I wasn't really into her)

As for the 3 free partners I've had post-college:

-1 was married. She was the steadiest sex I've ever had (monthlong affair). But as I said above, affairs tend to be short-lived (even if this specific affair wasn't as short as the ones I had in college, 1 month is still pretty short). The fact she lived a 40 minute drive away from me probably played a role too.

-There was one I nexted. I wasn't even attracted to her.

-Then as for the last instance of free sex, I'm pretty sure there would have been continued sex if it weren't for the fact she would have lost her job if she got caught banging me (No, we didn't work together. But I knew her through her work. You and @corrector know some more details about how exactly I met her)

All in all, I'd be down for one night stands too I suppose...if I got one night stands more often than I do. Whether it be continued sex with one woman or one night stands with many broads, the fact of the matter is I want free sex more often than I get free sex.

 

[Stuffnu]

Most girls except for the town bicycles will experience regret after a one night stand.
This happens to me from time to time because I break down there defenses with seduction. They wake up the next day suffering from slut syndrome, put up a wall and move on. That’s the tradeoff.

If you prefer repetitiveness, you will have to resist the urge of doing it too soon. Girl are guided by feelings and you have to build up the rapport. They have to feel comfortable with you and with themselves throughout the whole process, if they start feeling dirty and slutty, they‘ll be gone to wipe the slate clean.

 

[BPH]

I'll start by addressing your points before I give my full opinion.

-I was new to sex (so obviously wasn't very good yet)

Getting better comes with time and experience, but there are other resources. Por* is unironically a good way to learn. Certain YouTubers like Stirling Cooper, and even some amateur performers will make instructional content (such as how to eat pu**y). If you want to skip some of the learning curve I'd suggest spending some time checking those out.

-Some of my partners were cheating on a boyfriend/husband. That type of thing typically doesn't lead to extended sex.

Husband? Boyfriend is one thing, but that's a minefield I wouldn't suggest exploring...I've only knowingly been the guy a girl cheated with once, and I didn't feel great about it afterwards.

-In one instance, she was going to sleep over, yet I nexted her before we had a chance to sleep (because after the sex, I realized I wasn't really into her)

Jesus dude...you sent a girl home AFTER she f***ed you, when she was planning to stay over, because you didn't like her enough? Do you think there's a reason WHY these girls don't see you again? Because I do.

-1 was married. She was the steadiest sex I've ever had (monthlong affair). But as I said above, affairs tend to be short-lived (even if this specific affair wasn't as short as the ones I had in college, 1 month is still pretty short). The fact she lived a 40 minute drive away from me probably played a role too.

Ignoring the fact that one month is the longest you've been able to retain a woman, this is f***ed up man. You drove 40 minutes to regularly bang a married woman...you're kind of a piece of s*** man.

-There was one I nexted. I wasn't even attracted to her.

If you weren't attracted to this girl, why next her? Why even mention her? I'd assume you wouldn't have made plans with somebody you're not interested in, so I'm wondering why you made and cancelled them instead.

-Then as for the last instance of free sex, I'm pretty sure there would have been continued sex if it weren't for the fact she would have lost her job if she got caught banging me (No, we didn't work together. But I knew her through her work. You and @corrector know some more details about how exactly I met her)

There's not enough context here to have an opinion, but when you say "free sex", does that mean you're paying for sex?

First thing's first, my personal opinion of you is that you're kind of a piece of s***. Having been on the receiving end of cheating (and having been on the giving end once) it is one of the worst feelings. The fact that you willingly engaged with multiple "taken" women, including one who was married leads me to believe you have low morals and a mindset of "take what you can get".

To answer your question; are you somebody who women would want to keep seeing?

Are you charming, are you attractive, are you good in bed, are you not weird or clingy? I know for a fact that you are not, on account of your thread you made some time ago that had 10+ pages about your issues and fetishes.

So instead of looking at what might be these women's problems, look at your own. Do YOU think you deserve regular sex with these women? Or are they ending up drunk in bed with you as a rebound where you're not even giving them the decency to stay overnight after giving you the goods?

Look in the mirror. Would YOU want you?