Modro's Self Improvement Quest!

[Modro]

Week 10 day 7:

Went to the gym for 50 minutes today longest i had been there for a long time, felt good and might extend it to 40 minutes minimum now to get to that extra level. the girl that works there i am 85% sure she likes me she starts fiddling with ehrself when im by the desk signing out and getting ready to go, plus the glances and smiles when i leave... im not sure though she has some potential to be hot, but wears a gym hoddie and tracksuit bottoms and has hair hair in a pony tail, so i cant tell what her body is like and she has a very average face (not ugly just not sexy/hot)

After i got invited to watch the FA cup down the pub with a mate, it was boring, afterwards i sold something to him he paid some now and some next month so that helps me out for the rest of this month plus gives me some extra holiday spenindg money.

dont know if anything is going on tonight, one side i get to save money otherside i dont get to practice my club game which i want to beable to pull there and then.

got another pretty hot 18 year old to add me on msn from plenty of fish, this one IS local so this is good that im not stopping just cause i have the lunch date on monday... i have some potential back up

edit: got invited out tonight just about to head out to a few local pubs so that beats staying in.

 

[Modro]

Week 10 Tasks

Body

- Gym 4 Times ( must be there for at least 35-40 minutes now as i normally go for about 25-30) this is due to having no football so i can spend more time with out being so tired.

Done- stayed a little extra worked hard, didnt go football training and no game

- Areas to work on before holiday (Chest, stomach, arms) I want to be a beast, so i will do my normal routines then add a few sets on these areas.

Started - been doing loads of chin ups i can done 15 no problem now, when i first started i couldnt do more then 2-3, added exercises that work more then one part at a time.

- Ice Hockey practice

Done - Only cardio i did this week made sure i ate enough and took in loads of water .

Reading Materials

- This weeks reading is the Ten commandments

Done- read all this pretty good guide

Social

- I get paid on the 25th so it is going to be a bit tight until then so i cannot afford to do loads of stuff, must keep arranging/ be invited out places with different people i have a few little groups.

Done- Got invited out a few times that i couldnt make (finacial) but went to the pub a few times with diffrent groups

- If we go out approach a few girls and start conversations no need to number close unless i like them.

Done- didnt go out to a club, but got approached at work had a biref conversation, arranged a lunch date on monday been emailing people etc

- Get the holiday completely paid for and out the way

Done- just need spending money and i have 2 months of pay to get this.

- Keep going with the conversations and being more social and adding kino to any girls i come across

Done- i feel alot more socialble at the moment lots of invites to go out and alot more talking from myself i would say my general confidence is starting to rise.

 

[Modro]

10 week review:

I know i havnt made too much progress in the women department so far and probably why i dont get too many responces on here, but that is not my full goal here. I think i am pretty happy within myself and i need to be a bit more confident in my abilities/looks as when i do get conversations going i do pretty damn good and feel i am having a fun time.

Body wise i'm feeling good i am in the best muscular shape of my life no doubt and i havnt given up going to the gym after a few weeks, i am going to keep going with it if anything i wish i had time to go more often.

One thing i think i am doing is creating some interest for myself for girls, body and being fun, although i dont run into many new girls and am not cold approaching unless in a club at the moment, i feel i am taking more risks such as going for a number or trying to arrange a date.

I feel i am also doing loads of cool and fun things and hopfully i can get into the fireservice as that would really set me on the path i want in life. Gotta keep going and have fun not put myself under too much pressure but do take action

 

[Modro]

Week 11 Tasks

Body

-Gym - 4 times, 30 minute minimum, must bring water bottle with small scoop of whey with me each time.

-Ice Hockey game play hard

Reading

-Find and read 2 articles from the bible and go through the good points on here on the day i read it.

Social

-Work event on friday, meeting people from a certain side of the buisness in London be confident and have a laugh

-Keep going to events such as the pub, playing pool etc

- be proactive in arranging things such as gong to the pub or a date

- If in conversations with girls keep it going dont bail

 

[Modro]

Week 11 day 1:

Pretty busy day for a sunday with no football, i tried to organise a game of pitch and putt golf as i had the urge to play but the first person i rang was going to meet another friend for lunch and i was invited. So was there for most the afternoon there was about 6 of us there (mainly family of the other friend) that was ok good socialising keeping busy etc.

Later that afternoon did a half hour session in the gym, no1 else there though kept slightly upping my weights.

Then this evening played killer pool like most sundays with a differnt set of friends im pretty alpha in this group they seem to respect me alot and people keep asking me questions i feel like i am in a strong chill out alpha kinda of status with them. I won again this week splitting it with the last person left so thats 2 weeks in a row i have won muhahah.

Today i also got to speak to the girl who i said to add me on MSN from Plenty of fish, i dont like doing things online but i feel it is great practice and slightly harder work then face to face. We spoke for about 10 minutes she actually seemed very responsive to me asking me return questions i didnt answer in very much detail but kept her answering. I did go for the number close but i think it was the same as before where i need to warm her up from being an Online stranger, she said she would give it next time as she didnt have her phone on her (yeah right) but im not counting that as a rejection i gotta plough through it not let it faze me, give it a couple of days try again.

Got my lunch date tomorrow hoping it does happen, i would like to practice a date setting also a number close if she is cool and things are going well, but not trying too much as she is at work so i would rather arrange it out of work hours if you get what i mean but yeah things seem to be coming together a little bit at the moment so looking forward to the progress i have made with all the reading and tasks so far. I want the girl to be really into me and have the position of power in a relationship otherwise your doomed in the long run.

 

[Modro]

Week 11 day2:

got a nice bonus for my overtime i did on friday for only 3 hours i got 200, the lunch date didnt happen i am pretty frustrated actually, i just emailed her to remind her about 2 hours before i had my lunch

'Still on for lunch, mine is at 1'

she said she was meeting her mum oand how was my weekend

so i said that she would have to make it up to me she asked how

i said she would have to think of something and let me know by today

couple of hours before i left, gave light reminder, then pretty much gave her 30 mins to think of something she never replied to that so thats the end of that. ****ing time wasters so many of them. She wasnt even that hot and it was a simple meet for lunch. maybe i pushed it too much who knows... i hadnt emailed her since like wednesday after she agreed to it... twice she has made an excuse didnt come up with a counter offer no more time on her.

just about to head to the gym

arranged to go out after ice hockey on saturday, its a early evening game should get back by about 9 then head straight out afterwards i arranged that, we also got t shirts made for the holiday...

Im pretty much fed up with trying to get dates or what ever from emailing or online now, i will try with the most recent one online but otherwise i am cutting it out its a waste of time and effort i tell ya

what it is doing is motavating me to do more when out as i dont have to deal with the crap

 

[Bonhomme]

Im pretty much fed up with trying to get dates or what ever from emailing or online now, i will try with the most recent one online but otherwise i am cutting it out its a waste of time and effort i tell ya

what it is doing is motavating me to do more when out as i dont have to deal with the crap

I never really had anything come of the online thing, either.

The online thing is best for fellows whose "resume" is strong, have a good pic, and don't meet many of the kind of women they want to in their day-to-day activities. If your strength is in your persona, and you don't have a world-beating resume, it's better to meet women in person.

Keep at it, Modro. I've been busy and was out of town for a bit, with no internet (was good to take a break from it, really), but I'll keep popping in here every now & then.

 

[Modro]

I am not giving up no way, but it can be so frustrating... its like im not eve getting a chance to show people what i am about...

i mean i like people commenting for the simple fact it points out things from someone else perspective on my situation and gives me another view

 

[tmpgstx]

Modro, try flirting when conversing. Tease her a bit, get her comfortable. It's nice that she does have some good tension though, keeps things more interesting.

Wind her up, and the only way she gets unwound is down and dirty sex with you. A win/win situation

 

[Bonhomme]

I think you're in good shape, all in all, Modro. It appears you have high standards, which is good, IMNSHO: lesser men hoodwink gals who they're not really into just to get some tail.

My main bit of advice is to get out around women more. I've had the same sort of situation at times, doing "man" things, where there are no women to be found. But you're on a good path, all in all, and eventually the women will come (ahem!).

 

[Modro]

Week 11 day 3: Went to the gym and i am certain the gym assistant likes me playing with her hair gets all nervous when im about to leaves i smiled at her and she went all kinda bashful with a half smile. So i might try opening her next time i see her

Bon i have to agree i am very picky with women, so when i do find someone that fits my potential relationship (looks personalilty even job and location) its like a huge pressure now i want her romantically and i just freeze myself out and do nothing or she has a bf or i **** it up/no interest from them.

Week 11 day 4:

got invited out again, went to the pub to check out the champions league, one of my mates girlfriends who commented on me last time, was so impressed with my body and couldnt stop talking about it and wanted me to flex for her lol im sure she was just taking an interest and obviously nothing would ever happen there but it is a noteworthy thing as i am getting noticed in a good way didnt go to the gym today gave my body a break

it was nice to go out with some friends and also one of my mates ex girlfriends friends were there, havnt seen her for ages pretty cute, i opened her up and spoke to her for about 3 minutes before i went back to watch the football again.

Also has 2-3 of my friends coming to watch me play my next hockey match, my weekend currently looks like this, friday work thing out in london (really not sure what this is going to be like) sat i have my match then i think we might be going for a drink or something afterwards, out again on sunday

 

[Modro]

week 11 Day 5:


Went to the gym other then that i cannot remember to be honest, the gym guy asked me how i was doing. I officially weigh 173.6 pounds remember i started at 160 but the last 2 week the growth has been a lot more rapid as i tweaked a few things and continue to up the weights as much as possible but mainly i started working the legs a lot more regularly which i think helped release more testosterone and just added a few pounds (plus no football). I think my max weight target is 190 but if i can get into the 180's thats fine with me.

week 11 day 6:

Good day, last day of work and the late shift we had the office IT thing in London, so i finish 2 hours 30 earlier then i normally would went down had loads of free drinks with a part of the company who always moan about their problems not getting fixed instantly so it was a bonding session to 'build bridges' it was quite fun got chatting to the only hotty and she called me cheeky she also touched my arm twice but she has a fella and it was a work thing so not going to do anything there. afterwards the 4 lads from IT inculding me went round for a bit got another beer somewhere else some food and left it there for the night. I also got invited out to golf on saturday

 

[Modro]

week11 day7:

Went and played golf with my friends played pretty good considering i havnt played for a few months, had a nice meal afterwards, went home then picked a few people up and went ice hockey score my first goal but we lost.

afterwards couple of us went for a drink but i was so tired i went home at about 11

 

[Modro]

Week 11 Tasks

Body

-Gym - 4 times, 30 minute minimum, must bring water bottle with small scoop of whey with me each time.

Done, feeling great progress the last 2 weeks it has continued this week

-Ice Hockey game play hard

done score my first goal, played for 2 hours

Reading

-Find and read 2 articles from the bible and go through the good points on here on the day i read it.

Done - i didnt write about it

Social

-Work event on friday, meeting people from a certain side of the buisness in London be confident and have a laugh

Done

-Keep going to events such as the pub, playing pool etc

Done, Golf, pub, trip to london

- be proactive in arranging things such as gong to the pub or a date

Done invited people to watch me play then go for a drink afterwards

- If in conversations with girls keep it going dont bail

Done had one pretty good conversation with someone on the london trip

 

[Modro]

Week 12 Tasks:

Decided to go back to the old task fomula as it is easier

- Gym 4x
- Start re-reading Pook only allowed 1 article at a time
- Make sure to go out this week
- Save some holiday money
- Open up at least one person on a night out
- Keep doing things with friends throughout the week as well
- Stay more poised and calm, rather then crazy funny guy
- Start doing eye contact smiles all week (i have stopped doing it alot)

 

[Modro]

week 12 day 1:

Went and played squash with a buddy during the day, we then went out in the evening. a few people out, but there was this one guy i hadn't met before and he rubbed me the wroung way all night, it was like he was on something yet he wasnt even drinking... so annoying

Anyway some guys show up who we see every now and again, they bring 2 girls out with them, both of them are pretty hot, so during the night i wait till we get to the club, then i approach HBmissedOP we shall call her, only 17! but just about to turn 18 in like a week, id say she was a very comfortable hb 8.5 nice slim body her boobs were covered in a flowing kind of top but you could tell she was packing some nice guns it turns out she knows my little bro, and also went to my old junior school 3 years below myself.

I went to get a drink after that 10 minute conversation, tiny kino but then obviously i pulled out before it all fizzled out, came back and i had my photo taken with her arm round her , then just mingled again with everyone, later on she was sitting down on her own and i spoke to her for about 20 minutes, making her laugh some kino and lots of eye contact she seemed pretty interested but i had dry mouth like no other, her friend came and sat with us for a second so i decided to get a drink, i was waitig for my friend to order it and some other girl asked me to hold 2 bottles while she made a call (u cannot take them out) so i wait till she gets back open her asked her her name, then i said who you out with, her boyfriend and a few of his mates her bro and his girlfriend, she starts to moan about his bros girlfriend so as she was taken and moaning i said you have fun with that see ya. By this time HbmissedOp was getting ready to leave ( she was reall tired, bless the young'ins) so i missed my chance to go for a number close she hugged me on the way out.

I was pretty happy with the conversation, it was fun light had her laughing but i wasnt being a clown, she yawned from tiredness so i was like 'Oh im that bad' and pretended to go jokingly which made her smile again. annoyed i didnt get the number as she was cute and i thought we got on well.


Anyway just before we were going to leave, these 2 girls came up (we were just chilling by the back at this point) 1 had to make a call the other way left solo, so i open her up to, she just had a kid or something which killed my interest in a second lol but she seemed to be interested in me and got me to take a picture of her friend and her when she came back.

Overall a fun night, im glad i opened 3 girls with intent, 2 of them was the circumstances the other bad timing and a bit of a missed oppurtunity.

 

[Bonhomme]

Missed opportunities ... maybe ... or maybe just until next time.

Are you likely to see these people again in the near future, Modro? If so, it's often best not to get the # straight away. Build a bit of rapport and have them be comfortable with you first, then just suggest a get-together, or (better yet) invite the gal to join in something you intend to do anyway. You should have a sense if the "vibe" is there.

Generally if a gal is interested and ready, she won't make it particularly difficult for you ... unless she's very shy. Then you might not even be able to suss her interest.

The less importance one places on "getting the date," for lack of a better term, the better.

Good that your physical training has come along well. Women tend not to be so forward, so getting compliments and admiration from reasonably hot gals really is a good indicator.

 

[Modro]

I am not sure what the chances are of seeing them again, but maybe next Saturday. One of the guys birthdays so his mates who brought the girls should be there, so potentially they might be coming out.

I very much understand what your saying, i felt very comfortable with her considering she was a complete stranger to me and likewise i was to her. So that was a great sign, i always try to downplay things though... but like i said i was happy with the exchange and today i felt very much like i could approach people if i wanted to, (no opportunity)

Week 12 day 2:

spent the bank holiday with some friend went to the cinema and spent some time in the pub, i will explain some of the above, previously i would have maybe begged someone to get the girls number somehow or act all desperate for her. Now i am aware that this is the worst action to take... if i see her again great make a move... if not it was not meant to be.

But today after those approaches i felt a lot more confident at entertaining the possibility of cold approaching. I saw a girl at the gym i smiled at her and she smiled back, nice body but i really couldn't tell how old she was... anything from 21-35, I'm going to guess about 26ish though. I was going to open her if she was going, and leave as well as i had to go back for dinner. But she didnt go and i didnt want to interrupt her session. So i had to get going, also at the cinema it was all sold out earlier in the day so there was a decent looking staff member there i was going to go ask her some questions etc but was with friends and we were bailing... should have done it anyway.

 

[Modro]

Week 12 day 3:

First day back at work since the bank holiday weekend and i was on the early shift meaning i have to get up at 6am, was tired all day at work. The only good thing is the day flies by so quickly as i get to go mid afternoon.

when i got back from work i decided to invest in some products to make me look better, so i got some mouthwash to assist in keeping my teeth clean and breath smelling fantastic (normally just brush), got some really good face wash really nice for the skin and will help keep me looking good in that department, deodorant and shaving gel topped it off for a good shave and nice smells all day long

i also had a store credit voucher from returning a gift for the ex ages ago in Jan, so i got a kick ass wacth cost me 160 i figured i can spend something on myself, also it will make me look classy too

I also trimmed my hair myself, i know this isnt the best but i am trying to grow it a little now so i can style it, rather then just short hair at least that way people can tell i have put some effort into looking good. Anyway i just trimmed the sideburns a little and some of the sides with a trimmer i have. made it look a bit more tidy for the moment then when it is slightly longer i can go get it cut properly.

Went to the gym, when walking by a hot receptionist i hadnt seen said hi when i made eye contact.

I must admit i am really looking forward to going out this weekend,So far i havnt had any negative reactions what so ever so i will continue to move forward slightly in the female department.

i also saved some holiday money so far i got 145,im hoping for over 300 minimum as it is only for 7 days.

 

[Bonhomme]

i got some mouthwash to assist in keeping my teeth clean and breath smelling fantastic (normally just brush)

Don't forget flossing. Brushing and even mouthwash often won't get out the junk that gets stuck between the teeth and rots.

Go get 'em!