The thing to remember is its a numbers game anywhere.
The idea of a "numbers game" in mating pursuits, sales, and marketing is something that is partially but not fully true. Dating/mating has commonalities with sales and marketing in business (often areas where the term "numbers game" is used) but it's not fully analogous.
Men will need to do some amount of activity (numbers/volume of interactions) in order to achieve something. That's inescapable.
It's not solely about the quantity of interactions. Quantity of interactions won't mean much if the man's fundamentals are bad or he's choosing the worst places to meet women. It's possible to achieve this way, but the quantity of interactions is going to have to be much higher. When quantity of interactions is higher, there's a much higher probability of many bad interactions.
Doing good things reduces inefficiencies and the quantity of interactions/bad interactions.
I like nightlife (concerts/bars/clubs/restaurants/happy hours) and so do many other people. I've met every LTR (includng 2 husbands) at nightclubs, both husbands were met at live music venues....
That's good. Nightlife venues are a common way that people meet. Prior to online dating websites getting de-stigmatized in the mid-2000s (which evolved into dating apps on smartphones in the 2010s), it was the main way people without social circles met. There are plenty of stories of people from the 1970s-2000s meeting in bars/nightlife venues. Neil Strauss' "The Game" (released 2005) and pickup artist Mystery's "Mystery Method" (released 2007) were mainly focused on men meeting women by going out to nightlife venues. In "Mystery Method", there's one throwaway line on one page that mentions that the method is applicable in non-bar venues.
Nick Krauser and Tom Torero promoted the "London Daygame Model" on the idea of trying to apply Mystery Method principles to non-bar venues. In essence, they took that one throwaway line on one page of "Mystery Method" and fleshed it out in the field and later in published material.
I digress.
One of the best things about nightlife venues/bars is that the female audience there is more likely to be unattached and looking for new penis as compared to any other non-bar venue. A more targeted audience is good.
Mostly everyone (male or female) who finds themselves single and looking at some point in life will end up in a bar/nightlife venue.
Ditto swipe apps. My cousin met her husband there & so have several friends.
Some men can do well on swipe apps. Women have abundance there and they can control their own destines on the apps with that abundance.
The men who do well on swipe apps are ones who are near the top of the market. Middle of the bell curve men (some of whom are good mates) are usually better suited towards using another method.
A middle of the bell curve man in a bigger city can get laid for find longer term relationships on apps. It's just going to be far more inefficient and he's going to have to do large volumes of virtual approaches. He's going to have to make thousands of swipes and start a lot of interactions to make his goals a reality.
you can't discount those environments in an overarching way. I've always thought dudes doing approaches in grocery stores came off weird. Go somewhere people expect to meet others. Oftentimes its otherwise far too contrived.
Non-bar approaching is such a broad category. It can be anything like going up to a woman after a fitness class, meeting a woman in some hobby-based activity group, or approaching women randomly outdoors, in indoor retail venues, or on the general gym floor. Some of these approaches can look more natural than others. Some venues are better for approaching than others and some men are more smooth in their delivering of opening lines in non-bar venues.
A major downside of non-bar approaching is that the audience is less targeted. In non-bar approaching, there's less certainty that the approached woman is looking for a new mate. I also think that there's less of an element of expectation of approaching in non-bar venues, which I also think is more of a downside than upside. The upside of an unexpected approach is that a woman is less like to have her defense shields up, like she would in a nightlife venue where she's expecting approaches.
