Listen. If you guys want to keep around insecure neurotic women? Carry on as you are doing.
But understand something. Think of high value people like college students at Harvard. It’s an exclusive group and very few people qualify. But if you are a Harvard grad? You have your choice of top opportunities out in the world and you command top dollar. If you have elite value in the SMP you also have your choices among the best mating options. And a man who will run around on a lesser chick will seek to Lock. You. Down. And he might mate guard too. You see he’s been around as a sought after man. He knows what’s up. And he also knows there are many many men who would love to get the girl he has because she is RARE and therefore valuable.
So he knows if he wants to stay partnered to a great woman? He is loyal. Just as he will accept nothing less, neither will she.
When you pull all this plate spinning game stuff and refuse to be loyal yourself?
Congratulations. You are selecting against quality and selecting for the trash. No wonder some of you don’t think quality women exist. You’ve screened them out already. Great news for a solid man who knows quality when he sees it.
I think there are two schools of thought. One is "plate spinning" where the man has no true ties, is carefree, and tries to maximize the number of women he is sleeping with. The type of woman that is more accepting of this role has certain characteristics. The more insecure and low quality she is the longer she will be willing to remain in "plate status" with a man she perceives as high value (re: higher value than her). So, to this extent, I agree that a woman who is fairly secure and confident is less likely to remain in plate status for a very long time. The other school of thought is, of course, the LTR-centric mindset where you try to sift through females until you find one who checks as many boxes as possible (rarely ALL of the boxes), and you commit to her for a certain period of time and enjoy the benefits that comes with functioning as a couple and the security that having a woman waiting at home brings. Some guys on here believe you can have the best of both worlds through cheating and doing it well. That may be true.
Having done both of the above at different times in my life, I tend to fall more towards the LTR with a quality woman side. However, I can certainly say the most fun I have had in my life is where I was plate spinning. There is something truly exhilerating, and powerful, for a man who can take out multiple, different beautiful women in one week on dates and to different social functions. And people recognize you as a player, but in a way it gives a man an edge over other men. He is acknowledged as ballsy and suave by his peers. From that perspective, "loyalty" as you describe it means nothing. It comes down to what the man is seeking.
