Meeting up with EX tomorrow after over a year - Advice needed as im already in another relationship.

[startstrongtoday22]

Yeah I don’t know why some of you guys are caught up on not cheating. Women do it ALL THE TIME. Relax. It’s fun.

so you think men should cheat?

 

[EyeBRollin]

so you think men should cheat?

Yes. Men fvcking around should be normalized. It makes women realize they need to actually fall in line or else they get replaced. Women are too comfortable and too entitled these days.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

so you think men should cheat?

You're on this forum, and you're asking this? lol

 

[Divorced w 3]

You're on this forum, and you're asking this? lol

We call it plate spinning, sir.

 

[Gamisch]

It wouldn’t have. There is nothing to feel guilty about. My friend you need to kill that guilty gene of yours. You still believe women have morals and shvt; they do not. Women play for keeps when it comes to mating. All is fair in love and war.

She asked for a date, even though OP declined she IMMEDIATELY gave him an ultimatum and even blocked him. No regards for his current situation (assuming she knew he had a gf) . Any sane person would respect this and leave and maybe try again in the future.

Ex plate reaches out. Told her she should suck my D to rekindle things. She said oke let's do that. Later she backtracked and said she wanted to meet over diner first. Told her I dont think that's necessary, we can just meet up at my place and after that she might buy me dinner. Her response was" ouch". My response was take it or leave it.

Women HATE rejection, because they're not used to it. They have a tunnel vision view how things will ke should go, and when that doesnt happen they'll panic.

 

[BeExcellent]

Advice from the old lady:

A worthwhile woman will walk. WALK if she is betrayed. And you’re the piece of shjt in the end. Your new girl is loyal, the ex wants to see if she still has pull enough to satisfy her ego and get you to choose her over your current girl. That’s what this is about. That’s why she stomps her foot and says you had one chance. She is a snake; a viper as was stated above.

You are just a game to her. You wanna toss a loyal girl for that?

You deserve to lose your current gf if you betray her.

 

[startstrongtoday22]

Advice from the old lady:

A worthwhile woman will walk. WALK if she is betrayed. And you’re the piece of shjt in the end. Your new girl is loyal, the ex wants to see if she still has pull enough to satisfy her ego and get you to choose her over your current girl. That’s what this is about. That’s why she stomps her foot and says you had one chance. She is a snake; a viper as was stated above.

You are just a game to her. You wanna toss a loyal girl for that?

You deserve to lose your current gf if you betray her.

did you read my posts that’s what I was eluding too

 

[EyeBRollin]

You deserve to lose your current gf if you betray her.

Deserve perhaps, but that is not the way it usually works.

 

[BeExcellent]

did you read my posts that’s what I was eluding too

Yes. It is not true this business of women will flock to you if you treat them badly. Insecure women? Sure.

No self assured quality woman will tolerate that. I don’t care what guys here say. High value women know they do not need to tolerate bad behavior like cheating. So guess what? They don’t.

 

[Ricky]

The big thing with having even a one night with an ex when you have a girlfriend is that they will find out about the girlfriend somehow and they will gladly tell her and sabotage your current relationship. It happens all the time.

The only time to have sex with an ex is in between girlfriends.

 

[BeExcellent]

Sit down B.E. There is no such thing as a HVW. Women are plates.

LOL.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Sit down B.E. There is no such thing as a HVW. Women are plates.

It's funny how the most intolerant women tend to be older and/or insecure

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Ex-s are often hungry to get back. When I got divorced, one of my ex-s found out and hounded me to get back with her for months. Another ex-, I tried to FWB, wanted to get back. And currently, my previous GF, even after 3 years, still wants back. Ex-s are just part of life.

 

[CyrusTheGreat]

No self assured quality woman will tolerate that. I don’t care what guys here say. High value women know they do not need to tolerate bad behavior like cheating. So guess what? They don’t.

No true at all. All women (unless they are insecure af) rather share a high value male than be saddled with a looser. And given the limited number of high value males, women have no choice but to share the high value males. All your ancestors have done it, and all your descendents will do it. It's just the human nature.

 

[BeExcellent]

No true at all. All women (unless they are insecure af) rather share a high value male than be saddled with a looser. And given the limited number of high value males, women have no choice but to share the high value males. All your ancestors have done it, and all your descendents will do it. It's just the human nature.

Nope. Truly high value women will NOT share. They will be alone first. And let’s face it….they are never alone….

Meaning they can require loyalty and have that met.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

The same holds for a high quality male.

You do not need to be 6’4” 8% bf and 245 jacked aka chad.

What you have to be is differentiated. In my age group 35-50 I have more than a handful of attractive, pleasant women that see me regularly. I’m top end an 8 age adjusted, but I have several almost unique differentiators. This year while spinning what I already have I managed 8 new lays and added two to the rotation.

This isn’t a humble brag it simply is the truth. Looks wise I’m better than average but again no model. Still I slay.

A smart 20%er (top 20%), can do quite well if he plays his cards right.

Nope. Truly high value women will NOT share. They will be alone first. And let’s face it….they are never alone….

Meaning they can require loyalty and have that met.

 

[CyrusTheGreat]

Meaning they can require loyalty and have that met.

With a low value beta orbiter? Sure. With a high value man? On the scale of probability, No. Just do a simple calculation. What percentage of American men are 6 figure income, 6' tall, and in shape?! Add to that being unplugged or having a solid fram, and there aren't that many men left.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

UPDATE: She messaged me this morning asking me if today was still on, I got back to her a few hours later and said that i wouldn't be meeting up with her. I told her there wasn't any point in us meeting up, she replied saying i had one chance to make it right and then blocked me.

I think the only real reason why i wanted to see her was for another bang, we had some really wild secs and i missed that - I just need to find a way to get my other girl to open up a bit more.

I know if i did meet my ex it would of opened up a whole can of worms and i wouldn't be able to live with myself knowing what I'd done - so thanks to everyone's advice here in the forum because i know I've made the right decision now

You did a good job OP. These guys telling you to bang your crazy ex and risk losing everything are pvssy whipped. I had a similar situation happen to me in the summer and I said no, and she blocked me too lol.

Now the other issue is there are obviously problems with your current GF that you need to resolve. People just don't consider cheating on their "good" partners with their exes unless they aren't over their ex or there's already cracks in the relationship. I have two exes that I'm on speaking terms with, but I would never put myself in a bedroom situation with them lol.

 

[Barrister]

Ok so to cut a long story short me and my ex broke up in October 2021, It was coming to an end we were both getting bored and in each others pockets for the most part. She told me she wanted a break and i agreed but went one further and said i actually thought it was best that we broke up and went our separate way. It was an amicable break up and we both went no contact.

Fast forward to this time last year, I found myself a real one, dead gorgeous with a perfect body - We've been with each other ever since.

Me and my ex started talking again around July time, first it started off as just friendly conversation but after a month or so it started to really heat up. She told me she missed certain things that i used to do when we had 'secs' when she would describe these things i got suckered in and i couldn't get enough of speaking to her. I'd tell her all the things she wanted to hear but would always make an excuse about not being able to meet for being too busy. Deep down i really wanted to meet but felt bad about it as effectively I'd be cheating. I get my actions aren't the greatest anyway but doing the whole meet up is something i couldn't bring myself to do!

She ended up finding out that i was seeing someone else but i denied it playing it off as rumors. We have been in and out of contact up until about two weeks ago when we got into quite a deep conversation. I own a campervan and she was dying to meet up so i could take her away in it. We had it set up for the Saturday but a few days before, sadly, my Nan passed away which really cut deep with me. I had a realization of what i'd been doing and sent her a long email explaining that i'd been in a relationship all along but everything i had said to her was the truth and that i still loved her - you know how them emails go lol.

Anyway, as you'd imagine she was in total shock called me every name under the sun and told me to never contact her again, I did exactly that until i got a message from her basically saying that she was really looking forward to seeing me, that she knew we were going to have the best 'secs' and that she could feel it building up inside of her....

I never replied back to it but guaranteed i wanted to! She sent me another message yesterday asking me certain questions about why i lied to her etc. She followed another message back bascially saying that she has no choice but to move on and that for the last year she's thought that at some point we would get back together. I replied saying i agreed and told her she deserves a lot better and that im sorry for everything. She then replied asking to meet up tomorrow as she wants proper closure as texting wasn't doing it.

I'm basically asking for all of your advice - Should i meet up with her. Is it actual closure that she wants from me or is it more? Im worried that if i do meet up with her i wont be able to resist, she's beautiful and we had the best time - im really torn with what to do the devil is saying going - What should i actually expect from tomorrow's meet.

Thanks for reading

OP,

You have been a member here since 2015. In other words, and with all due respect, you should know better.

Don't get involved with an ex. They are ex's for a reason. It is especially perplexing that you consider this possible (definitely not guaranteed) chance at sex with the ex when it could result in you losing all sex with your current LTR.

I get the feeling this is more about you not feeling fulfilled in your current LTR more than it is about the ex. If that is the case, your bigger issue is to decide if it is time to axe your current relationship and give yourself a clean slate. And if you decide to do that, getting involved with any ex is just going backwards anyway. Move on.

 

[EyeBRollin]

You did a good job OP. These guys telling you to bang your crazy ex and risk losing everything are pvssy whipped.

Risk losing everything?

Let’s make two things clear:

1) It is a fallacy that women leave due to cheating. Women do not leave over cheating. Women leave if you embarrass them (make them look bad). It is ego driven. That means it went public, you fvcked one of her friends, gave her an STD, or had a baby on the side.

Women do not dump an otherwise secure relationship unless they have a suitable replacement lined up. “Monkey branching.” It is biologically dangerous for them to leave without a backup. That’s why you always find broads sticking with their cheating ass boyfriends.

2) Losing a woman =/= losing everything. If a guy can’t make it without his girl, he shouldn’t fvck around. Overall, this makes him less attractive. Women want guys that can fvck around on them.