Hey Bungo,
Just as a third party observer, here is how your situation comes across to me--She really does seem to be calling the shots. Based on the tone of your posts, you seem to be just going along for the ride. I'm not saying she isn't an awesome girl and that you don't love her, nor am I saying she isn't future wife material, but I AM noticing a certain reluctance on your part--as if youre trying to CONVINCE YOURSELF you want to get married soon. I think deep inside you know you aren't ready for this right now, and you're feeling pressured. If you make a decision like this under pressure, trust me you will regret it the rest of your life.
My situation--I am older than you, 26, and have been dating my gf for 2 years. Not once has either of us said "I love you," nor is there a need to say it at the moment because it only complicates things. My gf is turning 27 soon and not once has she ever even hinted that she wants to get married. To the contrary, she's told me she isn't even thinking of marriage until she becomes a self made millionaire. Now, the reason I've stayed with her is because of all this--there's no pressure to put a fvcking ring on her finger. Wanting to get married after 8 months is a sign of insecurity, IMO.
Remember, if a marriage doesn't work out, not only are you left heartbroken and must get back into the dating game again, but as the man, you are usually left completey broke, financially.
I wish you luck dude. Keep in mind, marraige is the beginning of the end of your sex life, so I hope you weren't enjoying sex too much! Ha ha ha ha ha!
Jake