skip2mylou781 said:
WHY?
very straightforward simple example (of me):
there are plenty of days when I dont look too good, aka hair is messy, clothes is ugly, not shaved, or w/e, and lemme tell ya, i will NOT be confident in myself with girls who i look in the mirror.
however
there are days when im wearin somethin FRESH, do my hair nice, got a nice tan and everythin, and i shoot the mirror a look and i say "damn any girl would be LUCKY to be with s stud as good looking as you!"
and at that moment, i feel INVINCIBLE, because i kno in my right mind that im better looking that any girl im gonna talk to!!!
this principle basically works like this: if u think the girl is better lookign than u, u wont wanna approach her due to anxiety, but when u feel ur better looking than the girl (u dont have to be, but u have to FEEL IT), u will have confidence through the roof and ur gonna go pickup any grl that looks good to u!!
YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE YOUR DA SHYT AND UR BETTER LOOKING THAN THE GIRLS UR GOING AFTER!!! thats how u have confidence with girls
"but skip, im just NOT good looking, cant i find confidence other ways??"
NO MORON, while u may build confidence in other areas of ur life by other means, THE confidence to APPROACH any ****in hottie u want comes from KNOWING UR HOT SHYT.........how can u do that? simple
a) look in the mirror after a good workout.....like wat u see? if no, go work out some more!!!
b)put clothes on, look in the mirror....like wat u see? if no, go get some new better clothes!
c)look in the mirror.....like wat u see? no?? GO CHANGE IT TILL UR IN LOVE WITH URSELF
i GAURANTEE that KNOWING ur da shyt will result in u acting ****y, confident, and ALPHA
i been inconsistent with this in the past, as I have had days/nights when i go out, as i have gone out many many times before after looking in the mirror and saying "eh, u look alright/good, but damnit im not feelin IT".....wat i wasnt feelign, was that confidence of being THE MAN, and as a result i approached much less chicks when i went out and also had less fun
BUT when i looked in the mirror and said "UR HOT, U RULE THE WORLD SKIP", i ended up goin out and living it up like no tomorro, hittin on chicks left and right, # closing, kiss closing, 1 nite stands w/e it is u name it
p.s. (this confidence theory also applies when u are meeting someone online for the first time)
Agreen upon more than 1000%. Most days now adays I look at myself in the mirror, smile and its not even conscious I just think, "damn I'm sexy". And I know its true. I mean writing this now I'm smiling thinking about myself.
this isn't arrogant by any means though, because I WORKED FOR WHAT I LOOK LIKE, AND I AM CONTINUING TO WORK. For example, I used to be nerdy, skinny (and not good skinny, bony skinny), and pretty fugly, had braces, wore nerdy harry potter glasses, bad posture, wore clothes that were just way to big to look cool, and had a jerry curl (yes I had a jerry curl lmao). Well I ditched the contacts, got gray contacts (not only does it accent my dark skin, but girls love them and ALWAYS ask if they are mine or not, which I usually respond with, "Well I bought em didn't I?" not some great neg, but again I don't really try to think about "negging" and **** anymore), cut my hair and got a dark ceasar (Short hair cut for black guys with waves in case no one knows lol), got nice jeans, shirts (gotta get new shoes again though, I keep ****ing them up), my braces off, keep my hygiene tip top, even got my ears pierced (small rocks really bring people to look at my face without them even knowing. Alot of people dont even realize I have earings that have known me for a while but end up liking them), started eating better, working out some (iso metric exercises etc), and my confidence is just out of this ****ing world, because I DO look good. Girls love to look at me when I'm out now, I LOVE to look at me, I'm not self conscious when I go swimming to take off my shirt, and even my class ring (its pretty ****ing sick if I do say so myself), is a great conversation starter. The only thing I really wanna do is bulk my chest up just a little bit more, and get a tatoo of a lion with the bushido around its main (I'm a leo, and the seven virtues of the bushido are something I try to live by for the most part), and even then I'm sure there are going to be ways to improve.
The point of that long paragraph? To prove to the ****bags out there that ***** and whine and even those who make those long posts saying looks mean nothing blah blah blah, BULL****. They matter, not all that most guys think it does, but they do, AND YOU HAVE CONTROL OF THEM. IDC what anyone says, chances are if you are not physically deformed, YOU CAN LOOK GOOD. You're fat? Lose weight and turn that fat into muscle. Trust me its hard as **** to go from skinny to cut, going from fat to cut should be easier. You're skinny? Go EAT RIGHT AND MAN THE **** UP. You have acne/zits/pimpels, GO BUY SOME S HIT TO GET RID OF IT. You're hair is dirty or too long? WASH IT AND CUT IT DAMNIT. There are only a few things that I personally feel you can't control on your body, one of those being height, and the other being your penis / limbs size. Besides that, for the most part everything else you can improve upon. Most people are just to DAMN lazy.
So skip, ****ing awesome post, its time for people to hear the truth, not what they want to hear.
