knocked up a girl i've only known 3 months

[frivolousz21]

teh guy has to take responsibility for his own actions.


what the women says is meaningless if she told him she cant get prego and he busts in here believing her...then thats on him.

seriously..if a women told me i cant have kids...I wouldn't bust in her period.


under zero circumstances unless your trying for a kid you dont even mess around with this crap.

now his child is coming....regardless if he wants the child its his

 

[Last Man Standing]

Say "No" to hos!!!!

 

[Drum&Bass]

I'm not going to hijack this into a pro-life/pro-choice thread, but there's an awful lot of women raising kids they can't and shouldn't be raising, and I don't blame women one damn bit for not bringing people into this world they're not able to support, either emotionally or financially. And it's absolutely ridiculous to assume that women that have abortions take the decision like buying candy.

You are correct there are people who SHOULD NOT be raising kids at all. All I'm saying is these are the people that SHOULD BE HAVING PROTECTED SEX. Stupid people make stupid mistakes.

That's not the post I read. He's asking advice on what to do. Put yourself in his shoes. I don't have kids. Do you? If you do, you should know what he's going through. If you don't, then I'm not sure ripping on the guy cause he's devastated about the financial and ethical dilemma he's in makes any sense.

He's weak, its guys like him that give the male gender a bad name.. I have no sympathy for dead beats. I know 16 year old kids with more courage than this chump. Sorry if your feeling all feminine and want to hug and cuddle with the OP and tell him that everything is gonna be OK..I already offered my advice.

So what he busted a nut in her pu$$y. Every guy has done this. Most of us don't suffer the consequences. Maybe he wanted to fvck her but he did not want a relationship with her.

OH well...he's still gotta own up to his responsibility. He may not have wanted a kid but what did he do to prevent it from happening ??

So if You were to fvck a prostitute and the jimmy broke and she got pregnant do you think its right for her to keep the baby?

It is neither Right or Wrong..if the 2 people are mature enough to take accountability for there actions and do there best to raise the child then THAT IS THE CORRECT ANSWER.

If the 2 people are useless LOSERS who are not willing to take accountability for there actions, they can take the EASY way out..

Choosing to have sex with another a person is a risk EVERYTIME ! you may not want to accept that, but it is true...if you have sex you therefore accept all responsibilities that go along with that action.

I don't understand the thinkg of some of you guys..I mean seriously I knew most of you were pathetic but come on...even a 12 year old doesn't need the facts to be broken down this thorough.

teh guy has to take responsibility for his own actions.


what the women says is meaningless if she told him she cant get prego and he busts in here believing her...then thats on him.

seriously..if a women told me i cant have kids...I wouldn't bust in her period.


under zero circumstances unless your trying for a kid you dont even mess around with this crap.

now his child is coming....regardless if he wants the child its his

thank you !

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...A girl has to be a stupid cvnt to have a baby when the man that impregnated her does not want it. If its a LTR or marriage than I can side with the woman.

The sad fact is that there are a ton of women out there whose ultimate goal isn't to get into a relationship with a man but to have a child. If the guy sticks around great, if he doesn't it'll make things a little more difficult but none the less, he's going to end up assisting in supporting the child(ren) at least financially.

 

[MikeEdward1973]

Sorry if your feeling all feminine and want to hug and cuddle with the OP and tell him that everything is gonna be OK..I already offered my advice.

Your giving me crap cause I don't judge this guy for making a mistake with a women that you or I haven't personally made would be no better than me judging you cause of your salary or net worth.

If your definition of "being a man" is telling this guy he's an idiot because he has a different perspective than you, and if you're trying to tell me it's feminine to try to walk a mile in his shoes, you've got an awful lot of learning to do.

 

[PRMoon]

I ask for a notarized note from a physician that she's had her ovaries removed before I'd believe that line. Start learning about the child support laws in your state and get a lawyer.

Yep that line doesn't hold water for me either because I'm more concerned about STD's then about pregnacy anyway! If you're not then you're living a fools lie regardless. Unless you're really REALLY serious about a girl you met then there's no reason to not have a quality condom anyway.

Wrap you wacker before you attack her every time and if she get's pregnant, go into a paternity test with no worries.

 

[Colossus]

To the OP, that's a heavy situation you are in.

This is an exceptionally volatile subject and any time the word abortion is used people get very indignant about it.

If she doesnt want to abort, then ULTIMATELY that is her decision, as you realize. But turning your back on her and walking out...I dont know man, think long and hard about the weight of that choice.

 

[speed dawg]

NoSaint, you did the crime, do the time, pal.

You got a b1tch pregnant, deal with it. She's not going to give it up. Doesn't matter what YOU want at this time, it's about what's best for the CHILD. I mean, you've done it now. It's over. No more crying for yourself.

You are a big wet creamy pvssy if you walk away. You're also a pvssy if you're another prominent poster in disguise.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

She can't be THAT bad. Post a pic of this woman you are walking away from. Unless she is fugly to the nth degree, I'd stick around.

 

[KontrollerX]

"What would you do......."

Make sure she doesn't get any of my money.

Quit your job and work at Mcdonalds if you have to but make it clear to her that you will make it as hard as you can for her to take you to the cleaners over this kid.

Also tell her if keeping this kid is secretly her idea of making you stay with her it will not work.

Don't listen to all of the AFC's in here trying to guilt trip you into raising something you didn't want that is solely the woman's responsibility for keeping after she told you she won't abort it.

Do listen to the advice that suggests you never knock it out with a chick without wrapping it up ever again though.

Also make sure before you knock it out with a chick you know what her stance on children is.

Don't even think about fvcking a chick who gives you some vague answer to the question of "What would you do if you got pregnant?"

If her answer isn't something along the lines of "Abort it immediately" or "No kids for me" you next that b!tch immediately.

 

[Desdinova]

I'm not happy about this at all. Swore i'd never have another kid. I have no interest in having another kid all. As selfish as it is, its the way I feel.

So why didn't you have a vasectomy? That would help ensure that you would NEVER have another child.

Now, you need to take responsibility for your actions, or lack of action. The child is not to blame for YOUR mistake. You owe that child a father because you helped create that child.

 

[frivolousz21]

some of these replys blow me away.

the man is already a father..and now he is crying like a girl because he made a mistake and will have another child.

but wants to walk away and get approval from people here to do so.

if this guy walks away..he is no man....he is a pathetic coward.

if he wants her to have an abortion thats fine...if she doesn't do it..he must man up.

the fact that he is already a father and feels the need to run away is unreal.

If you do decide to walk away..you might want to move to a new city and cut off all contact with anyone associated with this.

imagine in a few years and your in a serious LTR and your kid and he/she mom come looking for you.

 

[vorbis]

Christ, lads leave your anti woman prejudices at the door. She's entitled not to give up the baby. She tried for 8 years to have a kid ffs!

Its unlucky for the OP but those are the breaks sometimes. Don't stay with her just for the kid, but do provide financial support and try to be there some bit for the kid.

 

[romangod]

This is a tough situation. I had a scare once but was lucky that she wasn't pregnant after all. It was a horrible time. While we still were'nt sure I left the choice up to her. If she decided to have the kid, I would've supported the kid within reason. If she chose to abort I would have had to accept it although I'm morally against it. My prefered choice was for her to have the baby and give it up for adoption.

Lately, due to personal circumstances, I've sworn that I wouldn't have sex with any women I didn't have deep feelings for. I dodged a bullet and hope to never make that mistake again.

It's like driving drunk. When I was younger I got away with it so many times without any consequences. I used my nine lives and would never do it again. A cab home can save so much heartache and my conscience is clear.

.

 

[just so suave]

On one hand there's a woman who is probably feeling on top of the world, knowing shes got what she thought she could never have, but has always wanted.

And on the other hand, there's you. You really have just had a bombshell dropped onto you, you've got a BIG responsibility now for the next 18+ years, but you really don't want it...It truely makes me empathize for you man. You're just gonna have to try to persuade her to abort, and I don't think theres anything morally wrong with abortion (even though Iv'e never had to be in this situation). If she refuses, then I think you should lap it up and support the child as well as you can, otherwise it's gonna hang onto your conscience like a fuking tumour. Finish with the girl if thats what you want, but the kid deserves emotional, and material support. Good luck.

 

[Last Man Standing]

He's not running away from the child, he's running away from the hor!! He doesn't love her - she was just a trick!!!

 

[KontrollerX]

The guy doesn't owe the woman or the kid anything.

Society might say he does but he really doesn't.

Some of you are still brainwashed by the unfairness that society promotes as good and justice when it is neither.

He told her upfront he doesn't want the kid by suggesting she abort it.

By her continuing with this it should be entirely her responsibility.

A man in this situation should always have some kind of legal right to sign away all of his rights to the child so that he doesn't have to deal with the woman or the kid he doesn't want ever again and doesn't have to pay one single cent of his money to either of them.

This may sound cruel or cold but it is no more cruel or cold than a woman and the courts forcing a man to pay her for 18 years and be attached to something the rest of his life that he had no control over keeping at all.

Trapping a man.

A man should have the right to be free of a child and a woman he doesn't want to associate with.

Completely free in a situation like this where the man was clearly tricked into being a father.

This is one of the most dirty, low, sickening, mean spirited, morally reprehensible selfish tricks a woman can pull on a man and it should not be tolerated by society and the law. There should be protections for men concerning this.

It ignites a vicious anger and hatred in me when AFC's say "Well he should man up".

He did man up by saying what he wants ie "Get an abortion".

He AFC's up by going along with this sh!t, or even marrying the girl and raising a kid he didn't want.

All things society these days would applaud a guy for.

Yeah thats healthy alright.

NOT!

 

[frivolousz21]

The guy doesn't owe the woman or the kid anything.

Society might say he does but he really doesn't.

Some of you are still brainwashed by the unfairness that society promotes as good and justice when it is neither.

He told her upfront he doesn't want the kid by suggesting she abort it.

By her continuing with this it should be entirely her responsibility.

A man in this situation should always have some kind of legal right to sign away all of his rights to the child so that he doesn't have to deal with the woman or the kid he doesn't want ever again and doesn't have to pay one single cent of his money to either of them.

This may sound cruel or cold but it is no more cruel or cold than a woman and the courts forcing a man to pay her for 18 years and be attached to something the rest of his life that he had no control over keeping at all.

Trapping a man.

A man should have the right to be free of a child and a woman he doesn't want to associate with.

Completely free in a situation like this where the man was clearly tricked into being a father.

This is one of the most dirty, low, sickening, mean spirited, morally reprehensible selfish tricks a woman can pull on a man and it should not be tolerated by society and the law. There should be protections for men concerning this.

It ignites a vicious anger and hatred in me when AFC's say "Well he should man up".

He did man up by saying what he wants ie "Get an abortion".

He AFC's up by going along with this sh!t, or even marrying the girl and raising a kid he didn't want.

All things society these days would applaud a guy for.

Yeah thats healthy alright.

NOT!

yea its AFC to be responsible for your own blood.

what a joke

 

[Mr. Me]

Get a paternity test, just to make certain.

Then if it's yours, pay for what's yours: the child support. You may be able to work out fairer terms with the mother than what the law says.

Then, to help pay for your child support, consider marketing your Ninja Sperm that makes barren women pregnant! Must be helluva sperm.

 

[KontrollerX]

"yea its AFC to be responsible for your own blood.

what a joke"

You must be one of those right wing right to lifers.

What a joke.