I've thought she was cheating...she claims rape.

[Htienvu]

This is a serious matter, I can't advice on it because of the seriousness of it. However, the fact that she does not involve the police and keep you in the dark about the whole thing seems suspicious. She pushes you away, gets defensive when you talk about it make it look like she has something to hide. Also the way she behaves before she "opens up" about the incident is disrespectful to you, girl with bf shouldn't hang out with so many guys on her own.

Just my observation from what you've posted, good luck sorting it out.

 

[perseverance]

Rape is a serious matter. OP has your girlfriend reported it to Police yet? If she hasn't then she needs to, because Rapists belong behind bars, not out on the street so they can rape more women.

If she hasn't told her friends or family then she needs to for support, I know a lot of women won't come forward if they have been raped but it is important that if she has that the person responsible for the rape is brought to justice.

It is a serious matter, if she is lying about being raped then she is mentally ill and the truth will come out eventually, but you need to be there for her and support her through this. If you aren't there for her and she has in fact been raped then that will play on your conscience.

Your job is to get to the truth, because it is important that you do for your sake, because you don't want a woman in your life who cheats and then makes up sickening lies to cover her tracks.

 

[vatoloco]

I've thought she was cheating...she claims rape.

I'm not even gonna read the thread.

"Run, Forrest! RUN!"

 

[The_411]

Most here are missing the point. It's not that she asserted rape it's that OP feels she is lying and making it up. That in and of itself should be a massive red flag slapping everyone in the face.

If you trusted her you would haven't come to the initial conclusion that she was faking it, you have said damn what happened and waited for the facts to play out before making a decision as to what was going on...

However, you immediately jumped to the faking it position which means your gut has told you she is lying.

Whether or not she is being truthful about her rape, the fact you don't trust should be enough to eject.

It doesn't matter whether or not she was ....

As for women being raped it happens as does women making it up. It's unfortunate that women take advantage and falsely accused men of rape, and it actually harms those women who are raped.

That's an irrelevant issue to your "relationshp" OP. Your "relationship" is over as the trust is completely blown up and there's no way of salvaging it.

 

[KarmaSutra]

A man with views that he wont control his woman, wont protect her when she is in trouble and wont get involved when her safety is in question.

Jesus-thefvckbastard-Christ.

You're an idiot. What handbook did you read that says to be a "man" you have to control your woman? If you're so goddamned insecure in yourself that you must have complete control over your woman; you're in for a fvcked up relationshipless life.

As men one of the things that drives our adrenaline most is a damsel in distress and our family in danger. Either you lack this masculine instinct or you have never been in this situation. Wild guess at which one that might be.

You keep telling yourself what Disney is shoving down your hole. The damsel in distress syndrome doesn't apply to women you aren't emotionally, and time invested in.

You are complaining about MTV and television but it is you that has never matured.

Perhaps you're right Oh Great Poo-bah. You make it your life's mission to save women from themselves. See how "mature" you get.

Personal responsibility? you have a responsibility over the actions of your woman.

This alone proves what a complete infantile he-b!tch you truly are. Her responsibility for her life is her own.

It is one of these subconscious wires that we have. We want to protect her and make sure she is safe, and she wants to be protected and warned. We may act like we dont care and they may act independent but when **** happens you see the real truth.

This is the only half-sensible thing you've said. When you're a protector of your family (either with or without children) then your priority is their safety.

But it's unrealistic to say you can protect her from any harm whatsoever. She has to have enough wit and personal stability to be fully aware of her surroundings without her man being there to help shelter her.

That's a woman a man can trust and respect.

 

[SamTheHobit]

Jesus-thefvckbastard-Christ.

You're an idiot. What handbook did you read that says to be a "man" you have to control your woman? If you're so goddamned insecure in yourself that you must have complete control over your woman; you're in for a fvcked up relationshipless life.



You keep telling yourself what Disney is shoving down your hole. The damsel in distress syndrome doesn't apply to women you aren't emotionally, and time invested in.



Perhaps you're right Oh Great Poo-bah. You make it your life's mission to save women from themselves. See how "mature" you get.



This alone proves what a complete infantile he-b!tch you truly are. Her responsibility for her life is her own.



This is the only half-sensible thing you've said. When you're a protector of your family (either with or without children) then your priority is their safety.

But it's unrealistic to say you can protect her from any harm whatsoever. She has to have enough wit and personal stability to be fully aware of her surroundings without her man being there to help shelter her.

That's a woman a man can trust and respect.

Shut the fvck up.

 

[Nutz]

Sorry guys, this is some pretty serious stuff...I've been with my girl for a year and a half now, and I started getting suspicious...I was sick for a few weeks, and we weren't having sex. She texts people and doesn't let me know ("planning my birthday party") She has been staying late at work, and hanging out with people afterward. I ask her to let me pick her up, and she won't let me, insisting that she can get a ride. She doesn't want me to come to her work. And heres the kicker. She told me she was hanging out with two dudes, and then she was dropped off by a completely different guy, who apparently punched a guy for her. We practically live together, I was getting ready to move in officially. On last saturday night, she didn't return any of my calls, or texts, and then told me she had been raped earlier that night.

I really want to be there for her, but I have heard of women crying rape when they regretted what they had done. I am a complete mess and have just been accusing her of crap and she gets so offended about everything I say. Its been going on since before the rape and the was going on afterward. I am so messed up.... I want to be with her, but she claims she needs space. She says she is going to see her cousin, who I haven't met, who apparently took care of everything for her... She just won't let me know whats going on...

What can I do? Even some calming words would really help right now, I'm dying.

I don't mean to offend anybody, rape is a serious matter and I'm not taking it lightly. I believe she put her self in a position and was taken advantage of by someone she knew.

Also, being a moron and an *******...I looked at her phone. She deleted all of the texts from that guy. I admitted to her and confronted her and she is saying that I don't love her and **** like that. I need some advice...please...

/epic facepalm

Dude, ruuuuuuuun! First, she's doing all sorts of crap behind your back. Raped or not, she's obviously not a keeper, and in all likelihood she's full of crap and was using that as an excuse for hooking up with some other guy. Happens ALL the time.

 

[KarmaSutra]

Shut the fvck up.

I thought you had a 20:00 curfew? Wasn't Justin Beiber just on? You know how badly you'd feel if you missed The Beebs.

Log off MySpace, jerk a load into your favorite sock, then go to bed son.

 

[5string]

I'm not even gonna read the thread.

"Run, Forrest! RUN!"

vatoloco get's it.

Nothing needs to be said other than dump this gal right the fvck now and don't look back, ever!

 

[goldengoose]

she is crazy...................................RUN...............................................

 

[Faded Image]

I find it hard to believe that any woman is cold enough to hurt me like this.

This is the root of your issue right here. Dude, if you don't dump her, she's going to dump you within the next couple of weeks.

 

[Fixmylife]

Hey guys, goldengoose was the most right here. I took care, and just got hurt even more. She was taking advantage of me. I'm free and broke it off. It still hurts but I will get over it. I have proved she was cheating, and she has serious mental issues. I am done with her for good. I knew I could do better all along, and should have taken those chances. It was my first real relationship, so I was blind.

Thanks so much guys, I really needed the opinions. And sorry for judging the first ones...she is a despicable person and has done nothing but lie to me.

I'm going to be happy again...any posts about getting over cheaters that you guys can recommend?

 

[cordoncordon]

Hey guys, goldengoose was the most right here. I took care, and just got hurt even more. She was taking advantage of me. I'm free and broke it off. It still hurts but I will get over it. I have proved she was cheating, and she has serious mental issues. I am done with her for good. I knew I could do better all along, and should have taken those chances. It was my first real relationship, so I was blind.

Thanks so much guys, I really needed the opinions. And sorry for judging the first ones...she is a despicable person and has done nothing but lie to me.

I'm going to be happy again...any posts about getting over cheaters that you guys can recommend?

Well at least you figured that out, I mean that was so obvious to anyone who was looking at this in an unbiased way. The people I really pity are the posters on this thread who were telling you to be understanding and comforting to your ex. I mean no wonder they are on this site if they can't spot a blatant psycho cheater like you ex is.

 

[user43770]

Well at least you figured that out, I mean that was so obvious to anyone who was looking at this in an unbiased way. The people I really pity are the posters on this thread who were telling you to be understanding and comforting to your ex. I mean no wonder they are on this site if they can't spot a blatant psycho cheater like you ex is.

When I first viewed this thread, it appeared to me that the general consensus was that women who cry rape are lying; that sort of thought is not foreign to sosuave. Women are legitimately raped on a daily basis. I felt that I should - at the least - enlighten whatever afc that happens to read this thread to that fact. If you have some kind of problem with that, then you're not my type of person. Who am I kidding? I already know that you aren't my type of person...

Do you know who I pity most? People that feel the need to constantly post pictures of some chick they claim to be their girlfriend (and she may very well be, wtf do I care). What are you trying to prove? You should be more confident in yourself. Is she cool with you posting pictures of her on this site? That's what has held me back from doing the same sort of thing. That is, a resemblance of respect for the women I'm fvcking.

Go ahead, prove yourself, assh0le.

 

[user43770]

To the OP, you made the right move. Crazy b1tches should always get the next.

 

[KarmaSutra]

@Karma - Dude. I just feel sorry for your girl. Good thing for the chick is that she can shoot you and you will say its your own fault because your the victim.

Dude. Feel sorry for your hand.

My chick is completely safe when she's with me. She's also strong enough, and has the requisite brass, to take care of herself when I'm not there.

She's one of the few who knows full well that her awareness of her immediate surroundings will prevent bad things to happen to her.

You could only hope to be the man my woman has.

 

[user43770]

She's one of the few who knows full well that her awareness of her immediate surroundings will prevent bad things to happen to her.

You're a realist, right Karma? Then you should know that you can't control everything that happens in this world. Your paw tattoos aren't going to protect your old lady when you aren't around (funny to me). Common sense can only take you so far. Maybe you should convince your girl to get a concealed weapons permit. That's what I would do, at least. It isn't hard in Florida, and it might save her life. Then again, she might shoot your crazy ass.

I was kidding about her shooting you. I wasn't kidding about her getting a CCW. It's easy and well worth it. Take care of you and yours, bud.

 

[KarmaSutra]

So the answer to all of life's potential problems are everyone bear arms.

You're goddamned right I'm a realist Jack. I'm real enough to know not to willingly put myself, or the people I care about, in a potentially dangerous position without having to whip out my gat because someone beeped their fvcking horn at me.

Guns aren't the fvcking answer at all. Having a good peripheral vision is much more sustainable.

 

[user43770]

So the answer to all of life's potential problems are everyone bear arms.

Not at all. You just seemed like you had enough sense about you to accept such things. I guess you don't; that's fine. I'll keep mine and my girl will keep hers.

You're goddamned right I'm a realist Jack. I'm real enough to know not to willingly put myself, or the people I care about, in a potentially dangerous position without having to whip out my gat because someone beeped their fvcking horn at me.

I don't ever want to "whip my gat out." You obviously don't know sh1t about "gats." Obviously, you expect your women to superman anybody who steps up to her. You've already shown your affinity to disbelieve women who claim rape. Why would I expect you to want to give them guns? lol. Keep the helpless that way, huh? Helpless.

Guns aren't the fvcking answer at all. Having a good peripheral vision is much more sustainable.

Guns are the great equalizer. They put people with ideas like you on the same page as helpless women.

In bold, assh0le.

 

[KarmaSutra]

Save every b!tch you can son.

See how far in the hole it gets you.

Kids, gotta love 'em.