It's just not happening for me. I admit defeat.

[Kailex]

WOW! This guy FINALLY gets it! :cheer:

It's about fvcking time.

Now if only he can put this into practice, he should be fine.
I just hope I don't see another post in ONE week saying that he failed at this.

AlmostThere!, it's going to take TIME.
Why not keep a journal here and track progress, but please, don't expect FAST results. Yes, they are nice if they happen, but they are not to be expected, but they are always welcome.

 

[vachir]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dennis_Rodman

he was found asleep in his car with a loaded rifle in his hand, and it was rumored that he had tried to commit suicide,[2] which he confirmed four years later: but instead of killing himself, he decided to symbolically kill the shy Dennis Rodman he hated and to be reborn as a man full of self-confidence.[5]

 

[vachir]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dennis_Rodman

he was found asleep in his car with a loaded rifle in his hand, and it was rumored that he had tried to commit suicide,[2] which he confirmed four years later: but instead of killing himself, he decided to symbolically kill the shy Dennis Rodman he hated and to be reborn as a man full of self-confidence.[5]

 

[vachir]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dennis_Rodman

he was found asleep in his car with a loaded rifle in his hand, and it was rumored that he had tried to commit suicide,[2] which he confirmed four years later: but instead of killing himself, he decided to symbolically kill the shy Dennis Rodman he hated and to be reborn as a man full of self-confidence.[5]

 

[Kal0051]

Holy triple post Batman!!

 

[DondottaJuanpappa]

ayo they were prolly givin you salty looks cause you thought just because you werent ugly and was fit meant that they'll automatically talk to you. From the sound of your post it seems as though you're not that confident but the girls clearly didnt think that lol. They prolly thought you were a douche. you just have to show that you're not. Walk up to these chicks and show them youre real personality. It'll work wonders because sometimes you never know what girls are thinking (actually most of the time). But from what you were saying it does seem like they think you're a big headed douche bucket that thinks he has to do nothing. So again. Show them your real personality. This is a game bro. Dont be on the sidelines. Dont wait for a foul. Be in the starting lineup.

Love.

 

[AlmostThere!]

I *was* (hopefully I won't regress) big on comparing myself to other guys in relationships. I only saw girls with tall guys 6'1''+ and I felt short (even though 5'10'' isn't short). Then I only saw girls with Hulks and I felt skinny. I used to get depressed just being out and about. When I see a couple, I told myself negative stuff like; "that's why I don't have a girlfriend, I'm not tall enough".

I'm not stuck on myself and think women should approach me, but I've read many comments on this board (and in books) that a guy should only approach females that shows some type of interest. So, I spent too long of a time looking for signals and not just being myself.

I heard a chick say this a couple months ago...

"I ignore guys that don't approach, or jump into conversation. He expects women to come to him."

I used to beat myself up when a girl made eye contact with me and her expression was blank. But then I realize that I didn't throw a flirty smile her way. Why should she smile at me?

I'm going to a LOCK and KEY party tomorrow night. I know girls will respond to me if I do these following things:

Smile
Be the first one to start a conversation
Talk louder
Talk slower

Before,

I never smiled because I was depressed.

I never go up to girls and start a conversation. Girls always seemed unapproachable to me. I made up a thousand excuses why NOT to approach a female.

I never talk loud. You know when someone asks a question, you kinda lower your voice in case your answer is wrong? That's how I talk in social situations. I never wanted to be the loud.

I tend to talk fast. I talk fast even when I'm not nervous, but I know girls will see this as lack of confidence. So, I'll have to train myself to talk slower, especially around females.

I know that I have what it takes to attract a girl. It's just that girls aren't attracted to shy/timid guys. And guys that are afraid to smile, talk loud, or approach a female and be laid-back about it are viewed as timid.

I think body size can affect a woman's view of a man, but I think how you present yourself can override that.

 

[AlmostThere!]

Why does this thread have so many views?

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

Why does this thread have so many views?

Probably because of the overdramatic soap opera title of the thread.

 

[AlmostThere!]

Probably because of the overdramatic soap opera title of the thread.

Maybe I should go into advertising?

 

[TheWayOfAllFlesh]

Yknow I had the attitude OP had around *checks watch* 40 minutes ago

Ill probably still have it in a couple of days but at least I know that moaning is now getting me nowhere.

 

[AlmostThere!]

Okay, so I just left the Lock and Key Party. Fun times! I went there dressed nice with a big smile on my face. I saw girls checking me out. This was like social overload. The whole point is to approach a girl and see if your key fits her lock. So, I approached every female in there and opened 7 locks.

I won some money too because I opened the most locks.

Not only that, I got two phone numbers. A group of four girls invited me out dancing so I'm waiting for them to get to the club.

It's funny a girl I know from Dodgeball was there and I got some social status.

Gotta go...

 

[TheWayOfAllFlesh]

Okay, so I just left the Lock and Key Party. Fun times! I went there dressed nice with a big smile on my face. I saw girls checking me out. This was like social overload. The whole point is to approach a girl and see if your key fits her lock. So, I approached every female in there and opened 7 locks.

I won some money too because I opened the most locks.

Not only that, I got two phone numbers. A group of four girls invited me out dancing so I'm waiting for them to get to the club.

It's funny a girl I know from Dodgeball was there and I got some social status.

Gotta go...

You little legend you. Keep up.

 

[DonGorgon]

I've been trying to improve my social life by joining clubs and stuff but girls don't like me. I don't understand how guys hook up wuth girls. After all these years of reading material, I'm still at square one.

I'm not ugly and I have a fit body. I'm trying to gain 15 pounds but I'm not disgustingly skinny. I make 60/k a year, I'm 25 and I'm indepedent. I'm ahead than most guys.

But I go to these social events and I don't get any type of interest.

I should just admit defeat and stop trying. I'm one of those guys that will never have a girlfriend. My life will be made up of one time lays every 6 months.

you are clinicaly depressed find out why and get real help for that first! women can smell sadness 10 miles away before you even say a word... an it turns them off..

create a good dress style and act confident.. flirt but dont persue, just be cool and act friendly with people ..