By now any of you regulars on here have probably seen my posts about the problems I have meeting women. As the years have gone by it's clear that I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place, and even after posting on here regularly for the better part of three months looking for advice I'm still left with no answers as to how to solve the problem I'm in. I'm becoming increasingly convinced that trying to date or meet the kind of woman I really want is a futile effort and that it's unrealistic to think that I'll ever achieve my goals as far as my love life. Right now there's major obstacles preventing me from meeting women and I'm not sure if they're even anything I can stop.
Firstly, I've only ever been able to meet women from apps. I've used apps since I was 18 and to this day it's the only way I know how to meet women. However these have tended to be mid tier women that are far more attracted to me than I am to them, most of them were a tier or two below me in looks. Over the past few years I've gotten diminishing returns from apps, in both quality and quantity of matches. Nowadays I'm lucky to get one or two matches a month to the same kind of mid tier women I've mentioned before, and when I message them I either get no reply or the convo fizzes out very fast. Recently I caved and started paying for hinge again but I know it's not going to do me any good. Usually I have nothing in common with the women on dating apps, and this hurts my chances too. I'm more of a niche guy so already only specific kinds of girls would potenially be attracted to me. But most of the time the kinds of girls that swipe right on me are ones I'm not attracted to. Apps are a complete dead end yet I'm forced to rely on them.
Before anyone says "just meet girls in real life, bro", let me explain why that option isn't viable either. To this very day, I have never gotten with any girl that I've initially met irl. It hasn't happened like that at all. I have no experiences of pulling the cute girl from class when I was in college, or hooking up with a woman from a party, or being introduced to a girl via social circle and eventually dating her. I have none of those fundamental experiences with meeting women irl that normal guys are supposed to have. Historically, whenever I've come across a woman irl that I found attractive, I've suppressed my attraction since I always know that nothing will come of trying to pursue her. There have been a couple times where I've gotten girls' numbers irl, but each time that happened the woman approached me first and they were all women who had boyfriends so they were already spoken for. I can count the number of times that's happened on one hand, and every time getting the number was the furthest it went.
I have absolutely no way of meeting women naturally in real life. I can't do cold approach since it's not compatible with my nature as an introvert, and I'm scared to death of being labelled as a creep for trying it. None of the traditional cold approach venues would work for someone like me. I don't like going to bars unless my band has a gig and I wouldn't find the sort of woman I'm looking for there, and the thought of approaching women in public places such as malls and grocery stores is just cringe. There's no way I would ever have any success with cold approach. The learning curve is so steep the I'll just get discouraged and give up, and even if I stick it out I wouldn't get any better results than what I've been able to achieve online. There are some guys that aren't suited to cold approach, and I'm one of them.
Meeting women via hobby groups social circle, and warm approach is also out. My social circle is small and there's no possibility that I could be introduced to a woman thru it. The last time in my life that social circle may have been an option was back when I was like 18/19, but even then it didn't happen. Hobby groups also won't work since my hobbies tend to be solitary, niche, and male dominated, so there's no hope of meeting women thru those channels. I'm religious, but there's no dateable women in the religious circles I frequent so that's also not an option. I'd love to meet a woman via an irl warm approach somehow, but I've never been able to build rapport with a woman I've first met irl, asked her out, and actually gotten with her. There's nothing suggesting that I'm even capable of doing that since I've made it to 27 without it ever happening. If it wasn't for apps, I'd still be a virgin, and now that apps no longer work for me I'm royally screwed. I'm also convinced that if there are girls out there who are really compatible with me, they're hanging out at home most of the time and not really showing themselves irl, so I have no chance to actually meet them. But like I said, even in the unlikely event that I meet a girl irl I'm never capable of turning that opportunity into anything.
In short I don't think there's anything I can do besides make peace with my situation, keep fruitlessly swiping away on apps, and hoping and praying I luck out. I wish apps worked better for me since I'll never be able to meet women irl, and the women from apps just aren't what I'm looking for either. I hate this hellscape that is the modern dating scene, I hate being forced to exclusively rely on apps to even be seen by women, I hate not having any options to meet women irl, I'm just sick of all of it. What do I even do in a situation like this when fate is railroading me into being perpetually unsatisfied with my dating life and never being able to meet and date the kind of women I actually want. It's so frustrating, and even on this forum nobody has been able to give me a viable, realistic, sensible answer to solve the problems I've described. Is there anything I can do, or is it over? Please be honest and realistic about what my options are, if I have any
