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Is male depression mostly linked to lack of female companionship?

Gamisch

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Sir, a few years ago I was active with this forum. I notice your post is almost exactly like before. Take a look at the book... "Unfu*k Yourself: Get out of your head and into your life" by John Bishop.

Being stuck sucks. This book does a decent job of directly confronting some issue(s) and providing decent tactical advice.
Well, you can divide redpill topics into a few categories ,imo just THREE/ four;

Men who are successful
Men who struggle with a particular woman
Men struggling but occasionally get some
Men who never get som

The latter ,on a forum like this, will always "steal the show" because we wanna help a struggling brother. Despite all efforts nothing happens tho..

Lets just say that the thread must at least stay open so discussion can develop...
 

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When a heterosexual man is struggling with the opposite sex, he's not getting his physical needs met. He's also likely not getting his emotional needs met because friendships between heterosexual males and his relationships with family members can only go so far.

What's his motivation to deal with the drudgery of a white collar or blue collar job if he's not getting his physical or emotional needs met?
A man can get his physical needs met by going to an escort.

For emotional needs, a man would be better off getting a dog because if he sats anything emotional to a woman, she will use it against him. A mans emotions is a woman‘s weapons.

The problem is a lot of men are depending on women to full a missing need in their lives, They don’t understand a woman’s love is conditional and fleeting, it is not forever. Heck, it is not even for 2 weeks in 2024, Yet men make women the focal point of their existence. They see woman as the “cake”instead of the icing on the cake.

Put it this way; would you rather have:

(a) average job, average home, average city, one or 2 friends, and are In a full blown committed relationship living with one woman in her mid to late 30s, she is losing her looks by the day and is pressuring for marriage,

or

(b) great job, great home, great city, good friends, but are struggling to connect with women.


Maybe everyone on Sosuave would pick (a) because at least they are getting sex.
 

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Sir, a few years ago I was active with this forum. I notice your post is almost exactly like before. Take a look at the book... "Unfu*k Yourself: Get out of your head and into your life" by John Bishop.

Being stuck sucks. This book does a decent job of directly confronting some issue(s) and providing decent tactical advice.
I downloaded the book from Amazon on Kindle LIbrary. It might be read while working from home, or in the office in the evening between dials if I'm making the sales, etc.... I've read a number of books this way. Books are easy suggestions as they can be squeezed into a work routine.
 

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They don’t understand a woman’s love is conditional and fleeting, it is not forever. Heck, it is not even for 2 weeks in 2024,
Do you mean to tell me that they are not like the ASMR "love" videos on youtube where you can hit play on demand and can hear how much a hot woman love you whenever you need to hear that? That's a shock to me.

Do you think a professional cuddler would be a better option than an escort if you were more angling towards the "emotional vs sexual" balance of needs and physicality?
 

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Corrector not sure if you see it but there is starting to be a few of us who want you to reach your goals of getting into a realistic relationship.

But we’re tired of your mental masturbations and cringe posts justifying everything. And we’re regularly calling you out on it. We want to see you succeed but we also see you repeatedly going back to the same pattern of behavior to justify your self described meager life.

We are no longer going to let you do this here, we’re going to call you out on your bs every time.

The Correcting Corrector Brigade is in full effect.

p.s. when are you starting CrossFit?

What’s your height and current weight?
My height is 5'10, I'll get to my weight shortly.
 

Channel your excited feelings into positive thoughts and behaviors. You will attract women by being enthusiastic, radiating energy, and becoming someone who is fun to be around.

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Well let’s assume your weight is 200lbs your maximum daily caloric input based on light activity is 2000 calories a day, that’s to maintain 200lbs, or to get from wherever you are down to 200lbs. That’s your BMR.

The only way to raise your allowed calories is to increase your activity level, e.g. exercise.

2000 calories is most Americans lunch. Do you know your caloric intake? Do you know that how many calories is say a hard boiled egg? A boneless skinless chicken breast? If not you need to start a food log and look up the calories for each thing you eat and you’ll get an idea how far off you are. No cheat days, no saying you are eating a grilled chicken breast if it was fried etc. a cup of black coffee is just that, if you add sugar or cream you must account for them in your calculations. In a salad you have to account for everything in it including dressing.

If you cheat you’re cheating yourself.

This is the way forward. Anything else is platitudes.
 

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The point I'm making, and which you seem to completely miss, is that in order to do something that requires time, you will have to sacrifice something else.

Getting rid of your television is an example of a useless activity that you can exchange for a more meaningful activity that would add value to your life.


No, YOUR tendency is to watch music videos and ASMRs. You do it on a computer and not TV, but that's semantics. It's watching passively in order to soothe your mind that you're wasting your time.
And you can listen to podcasts on your headphones while you do CrossFit.

The thing is that you don't want to do that, so you say you cannot do it. And you'll grab onto any straw to defend your procrastination.
It’s interesting how he took your argument out of context and veered off track just to win the argument, and then you redirected the conversation back to its original context and he ignored it.

It’s concerning to see someone who’s been a member since 2009, surrounded by a wealth of resources on relationships and personal development, yet still struggling to make progress. It seems like he might be DEERing (defending, explaining, excusing, rationalizing) his situation instead of taking steps to address it. I can’t imagine what excuses he has been using for the past 15 years. He could also be using the site as a platform to win arguments without genuine engagement or intention for personal growth.

I believe there is a possibility of underlying problems such as mommy issues, a lack of love during his younger years, or bullying. I think understanding and addressing these deeper issues may be the key to helping him move forward positively. Personally, this behaviour is so bizarre and the lack of accountability is outrageous.

I am not trying to be hostile against a group member here but it is an important conversation to have. Especially when trying to help someone out (if they want to be help).
 
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Just a thought :confused:

You don't get envious (at least I don't) when you see another guy that makes more money than you, is more jacked, has a bigger home or drives a nicer car.

However, you will get envious (at least I do) of the attractive woman by his side and sometimes it seems like every other guy out there is in a happy relationship but yourself.

Yes, I think most male depression is linked to struggling with the opposite sex.
lack of women and wrong women in life.
 

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That's the thing. There is not just some simple solution when you are being squeezed out.

Imagine if you had to take care of your parents too and do all of the chores in the home (that's kind of my situation).
That’s true there isn’t and the middle class has been getting squeezed out for years now. That’s why I began thinking outside of the box for alternatives and came up with full time RV living, at least in the interim until I know for sure that wherever I relocate to is the right place for me.

Something like that almost happened to me. I remember about a year ago on a thread that we were both on, you told me to get your life where it needs to be ASAP because if something happens to one of your family members to where they can no longer care for themselves, everybody is gonna look at me and see that I have no place of my own to live, no career, and no girlfriend so they’ll nominate me to do it. Well not long after you told me that, something happened to my grandma and she can no longer care for herself now. Just like you warned me, my family members tried to nominate me to move into her house and take care of her full time. I told them that while I love and care about my grandma, I cannot have that disrupt my goals and ambitions. I even told my mom that those 3 reasons were why I got nominated in the first place and she confirmed that.
 

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Just a thought :confused:

You don't get envious (at least I don't) when you see another guy that makes more money than you, is more jacked, has a bigger home or drives a nicer car.

However, you will get envious (at least I do) of the attractive woman by his side and sometimes it seems like every other guy out there is in a happy relationship but yourself.

Yes, I think most male depression is linked to struggling with the opposite sex.
No. It's due to laziness and not carving your own notch out of the world. Life is too easy for the current generation. Many are a munch of whimps.
 

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It would never reach that point.

Women only talk to me if I talk to them 1st, and talking to them 1st usually involves asking questions. The challenge is getting women to talk to you. So I sometimes try to walk around shirtless to try to get women to notice me. And that seems to only have an effect on middle school/high school girls and not older.

I try to talk to a lot of Hispanic girls about the gangs in my city, like asking them if they know anyone killed by the police before, and if they do they usually don't mind talking about it heh.
Yeah it’s never reached that point for me either, but I just feel like that’s what’s in store. Other guys who are in this situation and did make it that far said that they got written off due to not having any experience.

Sometimes they talk to me first, but I’m never around any women. I’ve gotten looks from teenage girls too. At least you’re using what you have to start conversations with the Hispanic girls though.
 

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Jist weighed this morning. 251.6 lbs. Still am improvement from 270 lbs. Medical target weight is 245 lbs. Crossfits are being looked at, so far, unable to find anything that synches with my schedule (ie visited my own Gym at 11p on a Sunday night, as it was the only time I was able to do so. Doubt there would be any crossfit/group thing at that time).
 

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well there is a male loneliness epidemic going on, and sexlessness too, it makes me wonder if it might pressure the US to legalize, decriminalize prostitution/sex work.
 

It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.

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