Yeah. I have decent looks (even if not a 10). My social awkwardness is what repels the ladies.
What makes you socially awkward?
I'm on the spectrum.
Understood. I have colleagues who are on the spectrum and see what you mean.
I used to occasionally work near the Castro (the gayest part of SF). Gay baristas would often give me free coffee. I drank it black.
Create self-fulfilling prophecies. Always assume the positive. Assume she likes you. Assume she wants to talk to you. Assume she wants to go out with you. When you think positive, positive things happen.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
I’m a bit odd myself. My GF told me; ‘You’re an odd duck.’. An FWB rejected my wanting a relationship saying; ‘You’re far nerdier & weirder than I could have possibly imagined.’. I don’t think I’m on the Spectrum. Rather just very eccentric & narcissistic. I had an unusual childhood & some strange jobs. Including stretches of working completely alone. Which tends to erode one’s social filter.
This is the biggest argument for cold approach IMO. If there's someone you like, you can take your shot with her, you're proactive.
Yeah, if gay dudes are doing to other guys without knowing if they are straight or not then then we should do that to women, without knowing if the approach will be accepted or not. I mean, if they don't care, then we should not care either and just approach girls too.
That's an interesting thought. Especially in times past, I'm sure it could be very dangerous for gay guys to try to act on their desires. If they approached the wrong guy, it could land them in the hospital, or worse. Approaching a woman holds much less risk, unless maybe she has a violent husband.
I get your point.
In terms of your co-workers at work, from what you have said, I do not believe you would get any harassment complaints for any "approach" at work. As you've said, there is no law against an unsolicited approach. If you are a shy type of guy like I am, then there are enough "nerves" barriers to worry about without getting cold-shouldered or getting a lukewarm response from an approach. These gay people were at your job too right?
You're damn right, shy men have plenty of nerve barriers (even more-so if the shy man is on the spectrum). I think I've mentioned on this forum that the mere thought of asking a woman out is enough to make my heart start pounding a mile a minute.
When I was in an elevator alone with that lady my heart went a bit faster. Just asking my boss about the other lady also had my heart beating faster, and then I told my boss to "forget it" when he asked what that was about...it's like any logic (ie I am in an office, I'm talking to my boss about a personal matter like that and don't care???)...but it felt so unburdened that when I returned home from work, I fell straight to sleep and like woke up the next day in a daze of the mere fact of asking about this girl and if she was okay or like not on vacation or something, like I was on a drug. The level of nerves on these things are real.
Use the peace sign with your hands. You'll look like a cool guy.GoodMan32 said:
Lets hope she is not too sane then.GoodMan32 said:
Oh, I misunderstood your post then.GoodMan32 said:
Women make it very easy for men they want. Actually it’s women who choose. Men choose from their choosers.
Good point. That's why IOI's are very important.
Well-said. A woman will throw herself at a man she's extremely into.
But what about Shy women?
I never heard that, but I’m appropriating it.
A shy woman might not throw herself at a man, no matter how much she's into him.
