Not only do your looks matter, but your looks change so much between your best, most fit, healthy day and your worst, most out of shape, unhealthy day that it can make or break your relationship. Beauty is health. Healthy people are better mates and have fewer mental health issues (mental health is physical brain health, directly related to digestive health and diet). Our genes are a store of what we were exposed to. By exposing yourself to toxins, your DNA degrades, but likewise, through nutrition, your DNA improves. Looks are everything to women for the first encounter. After that they say looks don't matter. Also, our eyes are a blueprint of our whole body, so that is why my favorite girl said my eyes (after 30 years of eating organic) were what attracted her first.
The problem is that you cant have a rational discussion about this because people are so emotional about this subject and tend to go to extremes. It's funny how dudes either rationalise that looks don't matter at all or on the other end of the continuum you have guys like you who rationalise that women are almost like men and looks totally matter.
Both of these realities are not true.
Those on the "Look totally matter" side will say "If you have an online dating profile of a guy who is good looking and one not so good looking, the good looking guy will get more responses"
Obviously if you have nothing else to go on this is true. I get that there are guys out there who have deeply rooted emotional issues with their looks.
Yes - Looks can help a guy and they don't hurt but you don't need it to attract. It's up to you to complete that value statement with DHV and confidence. In the end, the average looking guy with huge balls and great personality will probably end up at a better spot than the great looking guy with no balls.
And I've seen examples of this through out my life
Looks are not the best evolutionary indicator of male value. Looks alone doesn't kill animals, build shelters, lead tribes therefore looks in guys is quite low on the attraction scale. Someone with game can quite quickly smoke someone who only have looks because looks have very little leverage.
That's why women can do a major make out with a hot guy in a club on Saturday, then ignore his texts on Monday. This goes on every weekend the world over. Surface attraction and deep level attraction are two different things.
Because attraction for girls is not as static as for guys. .
Let's say you handsome guy. And you really need to be in the top 1% if you wanted to rely on your looks alone to pull women. “Decently handsome” (in the top 10%) won’t cut it.
If you’re just “decently handsome”, girls will throw you indicators of interest, but that’s about it. It’s not enough to make them game you based on your looks alone. You’ll still need game, and you’ll still need to do all the work yourself and even then these guys will only have an EASY time with average-looking girls and even cute girls – the 6’s, 7’s but with baddest women out there. No.
Those women want to see basically if you have more than your looks because they’re already swamped. They’re busy, and just being a good-looking guy is not enough.
As a man you has no excuse to not get good with girls since you have control over almost all of your attraction value. Bottom line is : You can trigger shi*t-loads of attraction without being even REMOTELY good looking.
Men have control over 80-90% of their attraction value. Girls are born with 80-90% of their attraction value.
Be thankful you are a man
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