I think I just got dumped

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I hate to sound like a jerk, but the only thing I want from this woman is sex. I don't see it going anywhere at all. Plus she started to p!

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me off because every time we went out she never offered to pay. Not even for a movie rental. And she probably makes twice what I make, but doesn't know that of course.

You know what makes you look like a jerk? The fact that you just want a FB but you're treating her as if she's your girlfriend. That's false advertising dude.

I'm not saying that you should tell her that you just want her body but the seeing one another every weekend is leading her down a different path. Why do you think she got so upset that you didn't call her back and apologize? That's what a good boyfriend would have done, right? Congruence man, if she's just a piece of tail don't imply that she's more than that.

 

[Effington]

It sounds like this person severely overreacted. She "broke up" with you because you didn't answer your phone? That's pretty weak. Granted, if she left you a message you probably should have called her back at some point, but it's really not that big of a deal. If she's blowing this out of proportion, I can't imagine what she'd do if something legitimate went wrong.

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

It sounds like this person severely overreacted. She "broke up" with you because you didn't answer your phone? That's pretty weak. Granted, if she left you a message you probably should have called her back at some point, but it's really not that big of a deal. If she's blowing this out of proportion, I can't imagine what she'd do if something legitimate went wrong.

Well let's go over the timeline of events just to make sure.

Sunday afternoon I text her asking if she wants to hang out. I fall asleep and miss her call and text saying she DOES want to hang out.

Then a few hours later I wake up and texted her "I fell asleep". At this point I don't feel like hanging out anymore.

She didn't reply and I didn't call her until later in the week. And she was really mad when I called her but I calmed her down and she agreed to come over. Then she flipped out.

What do you think?

 

[theunflushables]

Don't apologize. You fell asleep, its not a big deal. If she still wants to fight, tell her its her fault that you fell asleep because she did not reply immediately after your text and you expect her to answer the phone everytime. If this doesnt illustrate to her how ridiculous she is being, then next her.

 

[guywhoneedshelp]

I've been seeing this girl for a month every weekend. She stayed over last Friday. Then on Sunday I texted her to hang out again. Then later she tried to call me because she did want to hang out again. I was sleeping when she tried to call me and I never called her back. I told her I was sleeping when she called.

So I called her yesterday and told her to come over tonight. She drove 45 minutes and came inside to tell me that she is "p!ssed" I ignored her call last week, and she "doesn't like to be ignored". I explained to her I didn't ignore her I was sleeping.

Then she said "you didn't even say sorry". Why should I say sorry?

Then she said "well if you are going to ignore me whats the point?" And she left. I basically just shrugged my shoulders and didn't try to stop her. Did I play this right?

Id say you played it right, maybe she has had problems in the past and has some issues. She may be a bit nutty. Try working out out with her next time she calls...otherwise you might as well download "It's not over" by Secondhand Serenade and listen to it each day.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Well let's go over the timeline of events just to make sure....

Then include the entire timeline starting from a month ago. Why omit the fact that you had created a situation where she expected to see you every weekend?

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

Well I haven't heard a peep from her and I haven't tried to call her. This girl must be another head case. Not sure if I should try and call her or not, it's only been 3 days. What do you guys think?

 

[YoungSir4sho]

Move on wit ur life, she's another headcase. Either she will call u n apologize n want to see u asap. Or she won't call u again. Don't call her tho. Go out there n holla at more girls its that simple

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

Move on wit ur life, she's another headcase. Either she will call u n apologize n want to see u asap. Or she won't call u again. Don't call her tho. Go out there n holla at more girls its that simple

I don't see her calling me and apologizing for anything. She is waiting for ME to apologize for missing her call last weekend.

 

[YoungSir4sho]

Well then u really have 2 choices then...

1. U eitha let ur pride n ego go, n jus apologize but knowing inside dat u don't mean it. Do wateva u gots to do to see her again den do as u please by sleepin wit her,etc till u r done wit her.

Or

2. Don't call n move on



I mean if u wanna keep on havin sex wit her fo fun den apologize jus kno dat she is not gonna respect u after this but who cares since u prolly still will get some n its not like this is ur girl or want her to b ur girl right?? So if u stil wanna mess wit her den call her. If not move on

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

I guess I should call her today then. I don't want to lose a plate over something so stupid as a missed call...

 

[YoungSir4sho]

Tru, its basically pride n ego. I learned awhile ago pride n ego can mess up a lot of ppls games. I mean as long as u kno who u really are y mess up an ez plate?? Now if she stay disrespectin n u n otha bs den leave but if not jus keep on playin the game. Also of course get wit othas but im guessin u kno that already

 

[theunflushables]

But do you want to have a plate that will get p1ssed off at you for missing a call? Next she'll have you dancing when she claps.

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

But do you want to have a plate that will get p1ssed off at you for missing a call? Next she'll have you dancing when she claps.

I thought about that too. She is older so maybe she is looking to settle down or something. She wants the power it seems. I was thinking about calling her tonight and apologizing. Someone talk me out of it.

 

[Warrior74]

Tru, its basically pride n ego. I learned awhile ago pride n ego can mess up a lot of ppls games. I mean as long as u kno who u really are y mess up an ez plate?? Now if she stay disrespectin n u n otha bs den leave but if not jus keep on playin the game. Also of course get wit othas but im guessin u kno that already

i wish you would write in english. reading that crap makes my head hurt.

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

Well, I called her and she seemed cool. I did say "sorry" and she b!tched a little more about me ignoring her. I said I never ignored her, I fell asleep. Then she b!tched that I didn't even acknowledge that I missed her call.

Then I told her yes I did I just acknowledged it (when I said sorry).. .and she was like "ok"... so I think the plate is still intact! Then she said something like "i don't want you to ignore me again"...

YIKES what have I created here?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Well, I called her and she seemed cool. I did say "sorry" and she b!tched a little more about me ignoring her. I said I never ignored her, I fell asleep. Then she b!tched that I didn't even acknowledge that I missed her call.

Dude, you shouldn't be surprised at any of this. I'm telling you that you've set her expectation of being readily available to her. Don't complain because she's holding you to your past actions

....
YIKES what have I created here?

A FB with GF expectations. :crackup:

 

[Stacked]

Well, I called her and she seemed cool. I did say "sorry" and she b!tched a little more about me ignoring her. I said I never ignored her, I fell asleep. Then she b!tched that I didn't even acknowledge that I missed her call.

Then I told her yes I did I just acknowledged it (when I said sorry).. .and she was like "ok"... so I think the plate is still intact! Then she said something like "i don't want you to ignore me again"...

YIKES what have I created here?

A lot of whether or not you played this correctly has to do with your facial expressions, voice tonality, and subcommunications. The point is to be very calm, and actually not care too much, because in reality you don't. On the other hand if as you were telling her you were asleep you were screaming and hysterics then you communicating a lot of insecurities about yourself.

I'm going to assume you are a smooth, and collected individual who played this off smoothly in which case you did nothing wrong. It's not your job to worry every time a girl gets upset with you, just let it slide and be calm about it. Don't even argue with her about it because it matters that little to you.

She is obviously a little bit bossy and a bit of a brat but don't react to this by ignoring her less or spending more time with her. A fb you see more than once a week will want to be a gf very soon. This girl is subcommunicating that she is looking for more attention from you and wants to move in that direction. Set your boundaries clearly and sh1t stays cool.

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

Dude, you shouldn't be surprised at any of this. I'm telling you that you've set her expectation of being readily available to her. Don't complain because she's holding you to your past actions

A FB with GF expectations. :crackup:

I'm going have to be more careful with my newfound DJ superpowers. They seem to be working stronger than I previously thought.

She started texting me tonight. I should have ignored her.

She is obviously a little bit bossy and a bit of a brat but don't react to this by ignoring her less or spending more time with her. A fb you see more than once a week will want to be a gf very soon. This girl is subcommunicating that she is looking for more attention from you and wants to move in that direction. Set your boundaries clearly and sh1t stays cool.

How can I fix the boundaries? I don't want to be exclusive with her. I plan on spinning more plates soon, but I don't want to lose her she is a freak and is fun to hang out with. I hope she doesn't start asking about other women and things like that.

But she seems like the type where if she finds out I am seeing other women, I hope there are no sharp knives laying around. She got hysterical when I missed her phone call, imagine if she finds out I am banging another woman.

I guess this is why some of you told me to just let her go now.

 

[IsiMan84]

I wouldn't have said a thing and just let it go. Now she's got expectations that you didn't want her to have. Especially if she already has you apologizing for 'wrongdoings' after what I assume to be only 4-5 encounters (one month). At least for the time you weren't talking you'd be living in peace and could focus on other things.