I think I just got dumped

[IsiMan84]

Oh grasshopper, the upper hand will never be permanent (look up marriage haha). But like I was saying if she gets things more and more her way, she will eventually lose interest and you'll get less of that. Once she knows what you want most, it starts getting used as a bargaining tool. You can go and say she cares more about the relationship, but if I remember correctly she hasn't spent a dime except for a case of beer. So if you look at it from a goods perspective, at the moment she's giving up the occasional poon in exchange for free food and drinks (when it's convenient for her). But when you are getting the poon in exchange for say, nothing, then you will have the true upper hand.

 

[500_W00P]

Having the upper hand when I refer to it anyways, does not mean going out of your way to be inconvienent to her feelings. It means not putting up with her crap and letting it be known that you won't put up with her crap.
He fell a-frikkin-sleep.. Its natural, its not like she was halfway to his house and he didn't answer. He genuinely did nothing wrong there was NO reason to appologize what-so-ever.. So therefore.. I wouldn't have.
Point Blank Period.

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

Well we chilled this weekend and she asked "so are you seeing anyone else?"

I told her "if I was seeing anyone else I wouldn't be here with you"..

Then I changed the subject, and she didn't press for more info.

Should I bail now? I didn't remember what I was supposed to do.

 

[IsiMan84]

I would have said something C+F like "Just you right now, but if we were in public I'd see a lot of people" or just not answered it directly. But anyways I believe you said you were trying to not be in an exclusive relationship with her. And to be honest that answer may have hurt those chances a little.

 

[Vlad the 1mpaler]

OMG.. guys I need your advice. So we started texting today and I asked how she's doing. Then she said "good but i'll be better if I see you"

I didn't reply because I'm tired and I don't feel like doing anything tonight.

Then, 2 hours later she just sent THIS:

"I already told you I hate being ignored and I am sick of you not considering me. I dont want to get played again goodbye"

LOL and WTF should I do?

 

[true romance]

If you have fun with her and her attention maintenance does not bother you too much then you should reply.


I don't think you want to play game. Imagine you are her, and she ignore your txt etc.

if you two having funand youenjoy her company then by all means.

All women need some attention so it's normal she need to to answer txt..

Answer her.:..I miss you .. already...

 

[Vlad the 1mpaler]

If you have fun with her and her attention maintenance does not bother you too much then you should reply.


I don't think you want to play game. Imagine you are her, and she ignore your txt etc.

if you two having funand youenjoy her company then by all means.

All women need some attention so it's normal she need to to answer txt..

Answer her.:..I miss you .. already...

yeah, I think this is an ultimate sh!t test to see if I'll react to her "leaving" me.

 

[Vlad the 1mpaler]

Answer her.:..I miss you .. already...

She replied and she said:

"you should have treated me better"

Is it time to cut my losses and run from this woman or what? Or keep playing?

 

[true romance]

Answer :have a good life .....adios

 

[true romance]

or

answer: I did treated you good, just you are too high maintenance...

 

[Vlad the 1mpaler]

Answer :have a good life .....adios

And then delete her from my phone because it's really over? Or is that reply supposed to provoke her or something?

 

[Vlad the 1mpaler]

I sent the message and she just tried to call me and I didn't answer. This woman is psycho. I think she needs to be nexted NOW. But it's so damn hard because I have NO other plates spinning.

 

[Vlad the 1mpaler]

Alright last update.

After she just tried to call, she sent a text saying:

"if you have something to say call me we can have a discussion. Sorry that i just wanted to be treated how I treat you"

 

[BeyondCharm]

I sent the message and she just tried to call me and I didn't answer. This woman is psycho. I think she needs to be nexted NOW. But it's so damn hard because I have NO other plates spinning.

My poor chap, you have answered your own question. Have more plates spinning!!! Unless I am in a very serious relationship, I refuse to have less than 7 plates spinning at a time. I don't actually force it to be 7, but I can tell you for a fact that it never gets below that without me adding another plate. I probably go through 3-4 of those plates every month and upgrade them for finer china.

 

[Vlad the 1mpaler]

My poor chap, you have answered your own question. Have more plates spinning!!! Unless I am in a very serious relationship, I refuse to have less than 7 plates spinning at a time. I don't actually force it to be 7, but I can tell you for a fact that it never gets below that without me adding another plate. I probably go through 3-4 of those plates every month and upgrade them for finer china.

But what do you consider a "plate"? I have some #'s of some girls I have gone out with, but I don't consider it a "plate" until I have slept with her.

I don't even put a girl into my phone anymore until she is an official plate. I have one other girl in there but she is out of town, I could get with her soon we've been talking.

So it's not as if I have absolutely nothing else going on. I just don't consider phone #'s plates, and I am too lazy right now to call any of them.

 

[BeyondCharm]

But what do you consider a "plate"? I have some #'s of some girls I have gone out with, but I don't consider it a "plate" until I have slept with her.

I don't even put a girl into my phone anymore until she is an official plate. I have one other girl in there but she is out of town, I could get with her soon we've been talking.

So it's not as if I have absolutely nothing else going on. I just don't consider phone #'s plates, and I am too lazy right now to call any of them.

I consider a plate a girl that I am "actively seeing" and that things with her are progressing towards or are already past an f-close and secondly that we have fun together. I would say 3 or 4 out of the 7 i've already closed on while i'm setting things up with the others. Its not uncommon for me to see multiple plates in a single day.

Lets put it like this instead. These are all women who at any time I can call and who are comfortable meeting me somewhere for an activity of my choosing any day of the week, given time permits. Hence, all of them have HIGH IL in me. A plate is something that doesn't want to get dropped.

 

[Vlad the 1mpaler]

I consider a plate a girl that I am "actively seeing" and that things with her are progressing towards or are already past an f-close and secondly that we have fun together. I would say 3 or 4 out of the 7 i've already closed on while i'm setting things up with the others. Its not uncommon for me to see multiple plates in a single day.

Lets put it like this instead. These are all women who at any time I can call and who are comfortable meeting me somewhere for an activity of my choosing any day of the week, given time permits. Hence, all of them have HIGH IL in me. A plate is something that doesn't want to get dropped.

That's a good way of putting it I haven't heard it that way before. So what do you think I should do with this plate just let it drop?

 

[Rhoto]

So what do you think I should do with this plate just let it drop?

No one can make that recommendation for you, only you know what you will tolerate and what you want.

But if you must ask that question, then you probably already know the answer.

(And why did you create 2 profiles?)

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Good God, you asses. ALL OF YOU! There is nothing wrong with this girl.

The problem is that Vlad didn't set his boundaries in the beginning and now he has a girl who actually has feelings towards him. Have you told her that you didn't want to be exclusive? Did you tell her you weren't looking for anything past a dating situation?

You purposely ignoring her calls shows immaturity and game playing on your part. You're getting her attention but in a negative way. She's going to want more, yes, but you're disrespecting her by playing with her emotions. Be a man already and be honest.

I love it. You treat the girl like crap and expect her to put up with it.

"if you have something to say call me we can have a discussion. Sorry that i just wanted to be treated how I treat you". - she's got a point.

As much as she's crying for attention like a little girl she's right. Her actions based on YOUR reactions could be a lot easier to deal with if you didn't purposely ignore her, just to keep her squirming.

If you want to have her for just a go around then tell her what you're looking for.

I could understand the scenario in your first post - she was acting a bit dramatic. Now all you're doing is feeding the flames.

Vlad, why are there two of you here?

There's Vlad the Impaler and Vlad the 1mpaler

Por que?

Edit: Nevermind. I forgot about her age. *sigh* Just end it.

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

Good God, you asses. ALL OF YOU! There is nothing wrong with this girl.

The problem is that Vlad didn't set his boundaries in the beginning and now he has a girl who actually has feelings towards him. Have you told her that you didn't want to be exclusive? Did you tell her you weren't looking for anything past a dating situation?

You purposely ignoring her calls shows immaturity and game playing on your part. You're getting her attention but in a negative way. She's going to want more, yes, but you're disrespecting her by playing with her emotions. Be a man already and be honest.

I love it. You treat the girl like crap and expect her to put up with it.

"if you have something to say call me we can have a discussion. Sorry that i just wanted to be treated how I treat you". - she's got a point.

As much as she's crying for attention like a little girl she's right. Her actions based on YOUR reactions could be a lot easier to deal with if you didn't purposely ignore her, just to keep her squirming.

If you want to have her for just a go around then tell her what you're looking for.

I could understand the scenario in your first post - she was acting a bit dramatic. Now all you're doing is feeding the flames.



Edit: Nevermind. I forgot about her age. *sigh* Just end it.

She never asked, so why would I just start talking about whether or not I want to be exclusive? If she asked I would tell her straight that I don't want anything serious.

I see you edited your post.. well my point still stands. She may be older but she still thinks she's 25 or something.