Okay. Listen up. Looks matter! But... only if you look like frankenstein. And... you don't! You're somewhere around average, which is enough for you to at least TALK with girls. No, not the most good looking ones, but damn many of them. What you need is confidence.
I don't know about your clothing or body, but if it's bad you could always improve. What you're missing is confidence.
"i meet this girl in the street and put my confidence mode on"
THIS is your problem. You put your confidence mode on? You put if off also? Do you have a fvcking switch in the back of your head?
Damn it. Now you better listen to me. I remember myself maybe 3 years ago from now. I don't know if I WAS ugly or if my mindset was 'im ugly', but what I DO REMEMBER was that I didn't get a single chick. I promise. Not a single one.
Okay, I'll tell you how bad it was. One girl was in love with me, a very shy girl, and I was in love with her. Everybody knew what she felt, but I just didn't get it. She didn't tell me either, since SHE was afraid of getting turned down.
And, how was my mindset? Damn, haha, do you really want to know? Okay, i'll tell you...
"Damn that girl can't be interested in me! "
"No one is interested in me!"
"They're lying or something. Why why why would she likes me? I'm too ugly to be in love with."
It ended up with... yeah... NOTHING. Why? I was afraid of getting turned down.
Can you even imagine being afraid of getting turned down by a girl who is IN LOVE with you? No, no! That just DOESN'T HAPPEN. BUT... It happend to me.
Seriously people. Seriously man. My self-confidence was SO FVCKING LOW. I was a damn nice guy, or acctually a NICE BOY.
I wouldn't talk to girls. I fell in love with them but was too afraid of even looking at them since I didn't want to get rejected.
I never had any girlfriends, kissed with any girls, and I went crazy if the girls even looked at me twice.
Do you think that this **** was because I was too ugly? Damn it. My friends changed girlfriends every month. And I just COULDN'T UNDERSTAND WHY.
Time went on, and to be real honest with you I don't know what happend or exactly when it happened.
It was around 1.5 year ago when things started to change. I can't tell you exactly what happened, but I started to change.
I got caught for some crimes, which I don't feel like talking about... but I was behind bars for 3 weeks. And, damn, when I came out; I was like reborn. What I can tell you is that the crimes had to do with money, since I belived that they would attract more women. (Yeah, haha, that's how desperate I became. And yeah, I had a lot of money. But, did it help me? Hell no! Not in a single way...)
What happend? I became damn confident. I was still belove average, but way more confident than ever before. I cant tell you exactly how, but after spending 3 weeks with your own thoughts and only having yourself to belive in - talking to police every day and trying to do your best to keep your head up - you doesn't really have any other choice than beliving in yourself(which is exactly what confidence is.)
I was back to zero, and in the small town I live in people started to become interested in me. I became more center of attention then ever before. And somewhere around this time I found some ebooks by Derek Vitalio about hooking up with girls. I really liked what he wrote - so I started to practice.
With success!
I started to get girls. And this was before I joined Sosuave. I started to talk to chicks. Started to make out with chicks. I got laid with chicks.
I started to improve my clothing and style, and confidence grew even more.
And, not to be bragging at all - I just want to MOTIVATE YOU. i WANT you to understand that you need to solve your problems on YOUR OWN. That's what I've done.
And I promise you; you could ask anyone in this town who knows me, and they would all agree on that i'm a damn confident guy. No one EVER gets a different impression. Some people hates it, and some doesn't - But whatever the case is my confidence comes from within.
How do I know? I believe in myself.
You need to understand that your current mindset it taking you NOWHERE. You want to stay at nowhere or do you want to do something with your life? Well, no one at this board is going to change your life except you!
Be yourself.
Believe in yourself.
Improve yourself.
(Sorry for long post, but I just want to help you...)