I suck!!! Every Girl Rejects Me

[NoMoreAFC]

ok u guys said i was a normal joe, maybe it's because you are seeing it from a male perspective, girls think different and to their eyes i simply suck, not their type, horrible, want me to say more?

am i trying too hard? dunno, maybe


do i give a **** to what they think? i shouldn't but i do.

do i get rejected everytime? yup

is it looks? positive

do i feel envy of some lucky bastards with good genes and the kind of guy girls call a greek god? of course

i simply don't exist in their eyes, i'm ****in invisible

u guys say work with what u have. yeah right. work with what if they dont even gimme the time of day?

work with this?


come on, i appreciate your help to try and rise my self-esteem, but a dosis of reality wouldn't hurt.

edit: btw i put my pics on hotornot.com just to have a general girls oppinion, from 0-10, they rate me a 4 go figure.

Looks don't matter.... yeah right... bull****

 

[Helios]

Sounds familiar

Man I know your pain. It's one reason why I have a love/hate relationship with this site, since it gives me hope.

Recently I recieved the straw that broke the camel's back, and I'm ready to be an evil bastard. Take out the perfect vengeance on women.

That is to make myself the most desireable man I can, and crush their pathetic egos. Do I believe all women deserve this. No. But quite frankly I'm past the point of giving a flying f**k.

I've bent over backwards to try and figure out what I need to change about myself, or what needs improvement. To be honest I am frustrated, by no means am I an AFC since I know I can live without these stupid b*****s, I'd just once like to see results from putting myself out there that doesn't result in fat chicks finding me interesting. C+F my a$$ all it's gotten me is disappointment.

Sorry if your looking for sympathy but I think its time some of us realized that no matter what women will walk all over us and we need to put our collective foot down and tell them we won't put up with the bull**** anymore.

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Helios p****d off and out.

 

[Heyjose25points]

I'd reply in a way MOM would say, yea, looks do improve your Game ten fold. Why don't u try getting into shape and getting some muscle. From what i've seen, it helps ALOT. It's not necessary, but it makes things easier from what i've heard.

 

[NoMoreAFC]

thanks for sharing my oppinion Helios

bottom line: if a guy tells u that u are normal, above average, and u believe it? well, think again, he is A MAN!!! he doesn't have to tell u what is hot or not in you, in fact he is giving a flying **** to whether u are attractive or not, cuz he's only looking for the hot babes, the hotter the better, unless he's gay ( then he would give u his oppinion about yourself from a gay perspective, which is not very convenient )


Bottom Line:

LOOKS DO MATTER FOR WOMAN ( yeah butt ugly fat orcs included )


if u guys think they don't, either u already have them or u trick yourselves by thinking they don't matter, that a word called confidence is the miracle attitude that will melt those *****es heart's.



Bull****

 

[Heyjose25points]

Yea man, i forgot to mention i also feel your pain. Yea, looks DO matter more. Think about it this way, a girl's gonna wanna show you to her girlfriends so that she can make them jealous, i guess. Factor that in. Social Status definitely is a factor too.

 

[Helios]

Originally posted by Heyjose25points
Yea man, i forgot to mention i also feel your pain. Yea, looks DO matter more. Think about it this way, a girl's gonna wanna show you to her girlfriends so that she can make them jealous, i guess. Factor that in. Social Status definitely is a factor too.

I have no arguments with you or what this site believes to be a good idea to improve yourself. Hell in the last year I've had confidence galore, and I'm not the uglies person to be around (according to hotornot which I take with a shaker of salt). Hell some of the most promising beginnings with a girl that I've done used ****y and funny to the point where I couldn't belive that I was getting such a good response, once I met them and realized that they used old pictures of them when they were 7s changed my mind REALLY quick.

I'm just sick and tired of it amounting to nothing, or not enough depending on your perspective.

Frankly I've had it. The first 20 or so women that find me attractive, and by some bizar twist of fate approach me in a bar had better watch out, cause I intend to crush their spirits to the depths mine have reached.

No scratch that, I can go pretty low, maybe 9/10ths.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Of course looks matter you whiny little baby!!! Did you REALLY just think you had to become confident and every HB would come running after you? Well then you fooled yourself. Here's the key though dood. Self improvement!! Its the BIGGEST thing you can do for yourself besides learning to become confident that will get you female attention. What is self improvement? To me, its fixing EVERYTHING that you possibley can to be more attractive to the opposite sex. Get a new hairstyle, start working out, whiten your teeth, kick out your bad habits, get new clothes. You need to also be patient. Yes, good looking people have it easier, but you still need to work at perfecting your craft. How many girls do you approach on a daily basis? I'm willing to bet you talk to 3-5 girls during the week, get a negative reaction and come running on here assuming EVERY girl will be repulsed by you. That's simply not true.

The last thing I want to tell you is, GET A FUKIN' SPINE MAN!! Stop being so hard on yourself and stop worrying so much about girls. Work on it, but just let it flow....geeez!!



PIMP

 

[NoMoreAFC]

i honestly believe that some of us entitled DJS here in the forum mack girls and that their playa attitude also helps but they have one thing in their favour: looks!!!

i honestly believe that some of us entitled DJS here in the forum have to content themselves with masturbation or ***** houses or simply accept the fact they can live without a woman, cuz they don't have what is needed for a woman to be receptive to him: looks!!!


personality? yeah i meet this girl in the street and put my confidence mode on ( with this mode i'm super man, i'm da best, nobody ****s with me ), she looks at me, geez this guy really is unattractive ... NEXT


where the **** does the personality gone? and the ultra mega super anti-***** weapon called confidence, where was it?


confidence should be flawless, but it wasn't.... she and all the other hot or not *****es in da world decided that u have not what it takes.

 

[Heyjose25points]

Of course looks matter you whiny little baby!!! Did you REALLY just think you had to become confident and every HB would come running after you? Well then you fooled yourself. Here's the key though dood. Self improvement!! Its the BIGGEST thing you can do for yourself besides learning to become confident that will get you female attention. What is self improvement? To me, its fixing EVERYTHING that you possibley can to be more attractive to the opposite sex. Get a new hairstyle, start working out, whiten your teeth, kick out your bad habits, get new clothes. You need to also be patient. Yes, good looking people have it easier, but you still need to work at perfecting your craft. How many girls do you approach on a daily basis? I'm willing to bet you talk to 3-5 girls during the week, get a negative reaction and come running on here assuming EVERY girl will be repulsed by you. That's simply not true.

He has a point, keep trying man. Just cause like 10 girls reject doesn't mean all HBs do. Keep at it. Failure is a must in order to succeed, to learn from your mistakes. Just start working out man, its hard yes, but it'll help in the long run .

 

[NoMoreAFC]

wtf u saying?

i've read it millions of times here in the forum man by Master and Senior D Juans


" LOOKS ARE NOT IMPORTANT "


" LOOKS DON'T MATTER "

" if u improve yourself as a man, you will be a chick magnet,as you think you shall become "

" ITS ALL IN THE MINDSET "

those words gave me hope, to me and many other djs here

now you come up and tell me what i've found out already

WOW man, that was really a revelation

 

[Helios]

This is my last post tonight before this degenerates into a flamewar.

Originally posted by Pimp-sicle
What is self improvement? To me, its fixing EVERYTHING that you possibley can to be more attractive to the opposite sex. Get a new hairstyle, start working out, whiten your teeth, kick out your bad habits, get new clothes.

Done, done, done, done, done.

Originally posted by Pimp-sicle

You need to also be patient.

How many girls do you approach on a daily basis? I'm willing to bet you talk to 3-5 girls during the week, get a negative reaction and come running on here assuming EVERY girl will be repulsed by you. That's simply not true.

Is 9 years patient enough. Really I want to know is 9 years not patient enough. I'll admit during the last 2 years my approaches have diminised as I've been more focused on improveing myself and saying fvck it I don't need them as badly.

I do have a spine, I take sh1t, try to figure out why it was sent my way and move on. So for the love of everything holy please pardon me if I don't feel like taking on anymore sh1t and feel like I need to blast some steam out.

 

[snintel]

Nice job of linking to an email attachment. Worked out great.


Anyways, shut up. Quit your whining. It's annoying and pathetic. Now read this post.


Question. You say looks are everything. I would obviously say NO. I am NOT stupid enough to say that looks *don't matter at all*. They do.

You say that girls want a good looking guy they can show their girlfriends to make them jealous or whatever. Girls want a man with high value. Good looks are a form of high value. However, ask yourself this: If that woman over there was dating Bill Gates, would she run around bragging to her gfs about it? YES, she would. Is Billy Gates ugly... sort of/pretty much yeah. But what's he got going for him? HIGH VALUE.

Obviously that example is an extreme. However, for every extreme there is a moderate... let's see..... if you aren't "good looking"... then create value in other ways.... If you can't cold approach and pick up chicks on the street... well, then hone your game elsewhere where your skills can be used to your benefit... such as long term seduction. If you aren't a pro at that yet, then you make friends with girls that you have aquaintance with whether its at school or work or whatever. Then you've gotta work your way up long-term and show her your value.

So bottom line... play to your strenghts to increase your value to the girl. Don't try to be Johnny Badass if that doesn't fit your persona, you'll just make it awkward. However, you DO need to know and practice the fundamentals of seduction.... you know, don't become emotionally attached, be confident, etc etc.

Now about looks, pretty much everything regarding your looks is under your control, except facial structure, eyes, etc etc. Your hair can be styled. Your teeth can be taken care of. Your acne can be cleared. Your pale skin can be made tan. Your fat can be worked off. You can build muscle on top of those bones. You can wear nice clothes.

So if you aren't improving those aspects of your appearance that you CAN control... then you have no right to whine about looks.

I hope this post helps and I hope someone reads this because I started typing and just kept going, don't want this to be wasted.

 

[NoMoreAFC]

ok, it's working now...


hey man, i'm not the one who started with the right mindset, confidence as a flawless weapon mumbo jumbo, i'm just sick and tired to be solely judged by the way i look

 

[Heyjose25points]

wtf u saying?

wtf am i saying? I aint the one complaining. I'm tryin to help u get ur spirits up, thats what i am saying. If you don't respect my post, then whatever. Snintel is right on. High Value's the right word.

 

[NoMoreAFC]

heyjose it wasn't for u but pimp sicle

 

[JonJack]

Honestly you don't look all that bad. If you were to come to my country and try and pick up chicks in clubs and bars, you probably would have it easier. However, that shouldn't comfort you whatsoever. Reason being that you do not fully understand and know where you stand in the eyes of women until you have tried to pick up chicks of many different races, cultures and values.

If you want to stay stuck in your current situation and environment, so be it. But realise that it is you who decides to wallow in self pity and it is you who decides to occupy your mind and time with these thoughts instead of seeking a better way of making your life easier and more enjoyable.

Think about this. A truly butt ugly disfigured man goes about his life all horny and shyt. He is desperate for a lay but wants it from some chick that he is dating or some chick that he managed to "DJ" in a bar or club. He desires this so much that he is hurt, angered and devastated that girls just don't respond to him. He is fvckin preoccupying his time with things that are well beyond his reach and he is fvckin wasting his time and he is only choosing to do the things that make him sad and feel like shyt. Don't you think this person is stupid?

 

[snintel]

Confidence can't be an act.

You need to fine tune your approach to women, that's all.


I don't understnad how you think you're ugly... either way, girls don't directly reject "ugly" guys cause they're too nice, so if that's happening to you it's something about the way you are approaching and what you are saying.

 

[BrotherAP]

I showed my sister your pictures... she thinks your cute. Cuter than the other guy in that one pic. I asked her if there'd be any reason, based on looks, that you'd have trouble getting girls and she said "Pfft... no way. Maybe he has bad breath"

Seriously, my sister has guys knocking on the door all day. She's a good looking girl, and she said that you were good looking enough for her. You're not fat, pimply, or troll-like. I don't know why you think your looks are preventing you from getting girls. I do know that it's a limiting belief, and I'd wager that it's the reason your getting rejected. You expect to. Go see a counselor if you seriously have that bad a self-image.

 

[Tazman]

Don't some women have the same problem? Not being attractive enough to land what they consider to be a "hot" guy must make them feel the same way right? Are you guys only approaching really attractive women? It seems like for the most part we end up with people who are similar in "attractiveness," right? Maybe you guys might be aiming too high. Although I realize you can improve your worth to get the cream of the crop, it's just harder for some of us to pull off.

The average joe's I know with nice girls are all about the game. They live it everyday, it's like a hobby for them. I never got into it like that unfortunately, so now it's twice as hard for me to try and get into the swing of things. I can't believe I wasted so much time playing video games and music, not realizing I far removed I was from the dating scene......Damn, this turned into an unexpected rant.

 

[I_Only_Live_Once]

Your looks are not what is preventing you. There is something else, probably the WAY you approach with your body language, eye contact, how you smile etc. I have seen really ugly guys going out with hot chicks, so think about that. Your biggest problem is you need to *actually* believe in yourself instead of having a defeatest attitude.