I had a flirt session the other day. Ran into her again today. What to make of her behavior?

[BadBoy89]

As for me, I've been told I look like the following celebrities:

• Sheldon from Big Bang Theory
• Steve Carrell's character on The 40 Year Old Virgin and The Office
• Jared Kushner

It's pretty alarming that the famous men I remind a woman of the most are some of the men with the least amount of sex appeal.

Sheldon made out with Penny.
Steve Carrell's character had a good looking woman wanting to sleep with him.
Jared Kushner is married to Ivanka Trump, she is hot.

They all have sex appeal.

 

[GoodMan32]

Given that our species began in what's today Africa, we ALL carry admixture from said continent, hoss

As ironic as this will sound (coming from me), you sound like a pedantic autist.

You know what I meant when I said the cafe girl doesn't look like she has any African admixture.

 

[GoodMan32]

Point is that it's gainless to offer you any pointers, when you react by concocting excuses to not take them, rather than saying: "Much appreciated. I'll give it a whirl"

I've made progress in the past few months.

 

[GoodMan32]

I'm not reading 6 pages of this.

Either:

A. She was flirting and interested, but lost interest when you didn't reciprocate enough for her to feel like you were interested in her too.

B. She's a service-industry worker and it's her job to be nice to customers so they come back and/or tip higher.

In either case, this is why I always advocate for being direct. Saves you a lot of time and guesswork.

Fair enough, I know not everyone has time to read entire threads.

Another poster (on a past post) indicated the possibility she felt I wasn't into her (because I apparently didn't reciprocate enough). I'm going to tell you essentially the same thing I told him: What a strange world we live in where telling a woman she looks good is somehow viewed as a soft rejection.

As for the idea that she simply wanted me to come back more often, while I totally acknowledge that might have been her motive in complimenting me, it backfired on her. Thanks to the lack of a flirt session the next time I went in, I'm going to go back less often than I otherwise would have.

 

[GoodMan32]

Sheldon made out with Penny.
Steve Carrell's character had a good looking woman wanting to sleep with him.
Jared Kushner is married to Ivanka Trump, she is hot.

They all have sex appeal.

With Sheldon and Steve Carrell, the more important question is: How likely is it that a woman in real life would find their characters sexually exciting? (Because I'm trying to pique the interest of a real woman; not a fictional female character)

Rip from Yellowstone is an example of a TV character many a female viewer finds sexually exciting. On the other hand, I've never heard a woman indicate they find Sheldon or Steve Carrell's characters sexually exciting.

Jared Kushner only got that hot wife because of his money. I've never heard a woman express that they find him sexually exciting (I've heard his appearance described as sterile, dull, and even that he looks like there's something wrong with him)

 

[BadBoy89]

With Sheldon and Steve Carrell, the more important question is: How likely is it that a woman in real life would find their characters sexually exciting? (Because I'm trying to pique the interest of a real woman; not a fictional female character)

You are the one who brought the fictional characters.

On the other hand, I've never heard a woman indicate they find Sheldon or Steve Carrell's characters sexually exciting.

You brought up the fictional characters.

They found them sexually exciting enough to make out with them.

Jared Kushner only got that hot wife because of his money.

You don't know that. That's an assumption.

I've never heard a woman express that they find him sexually exciting

You don't know that. That's an assumption.

(I've heard his appearance described as sterile, dull, and even that he looks like there's something wrong with him)

Strange how you always hear the negative things, but you never hear the good things.

 

[BPH]

What a strange world we live in where telling a woman she looks good is somehow viewed as a soft rejection.

She didn't think you rejected her. She DID think you didn't have the balls to ask her out.

There is a difference. You're placing the blame on HER, rather than the part of the interaction YOU were in control of.