BackInTheGame78
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It's good you are taking a step back to give things some thought. Whatever way you decide to go, I want the best for you, truly, whether or not you stay with her.We spoke last night, similar tone, just that it’s ’nothing in the world we can’t overcome’ and some thoughts on her end about how to communicate better, including knowing ‘harder/teigger’ topics to be a little extra sensitive around. I do appreciate the effort. She tried to lay it on hard about my not being with her friends at new years, but I need to sit here and think and put stuff on paper and figure out a lot of things in my life, this being one.
I told her that I had honestly not a lot of time to think, today is the chance to do it with my kids going back, and that being here has given me the opportunity to focus on being with the kids and I really enjoy and miss it. This is the longest stretch I have had them in two years and it’s wonderful. They’re in a tub now and I’m blasting Disney tunes on my phone.
The distance is not making me any colder or anything like that, I actually feel relieved with the professional year starting on Tuesday I want a plan in place before then. I started this two weeks ago and I was incredibly cathartic. I opened like 300 pieces of mail and built out a spreadsheet over two days of financial info, cash flow and expectations of where the income can go. I want to build on that as it’ll give me perspective from which to really see everything I need to decide on.
I’ve also been eating gummies like crazy the last 3 nights, so that’s been great lol. Watched Chasing Amy (red bank Nj!!) Been a while.
she texted this morning : morning, I love you, have a great day with the kids. I wrote her back ‘I love you too have fun ‘
One thing I've noticed you have mentioned in several posts is your cashflow/income from the business in relation to her.
Is there a reason this plays any part in your decision with her? Just curious more than anything.
But a few questions to ponder.
Do you think this woman would stay with you if your business dried up and crashed and you had to struggle for a period of time?
Has she shown signs she is "only there for the good times" and will be gone like a ghost in the night when tough times come?
What about a serious medical condition for you or someone in your family? Would she stay and stick it out or be gone faster than you could bat an eyelash?
The answer to these questions are very important. It's not easy to find people who would stay under those circumstances. It's far easier for a person to walk away.
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