TheGambino
Master Don Juan
Your 100% right here SAYNO.SAYNO said:Ego wise i think its easier to move on when you know you have the last laugh ie. Her coming back to you after she dumps you. This is the mindstate i recommend for men. I dont allow them a second chance if they werent wise enough to see it the first time around. I always like to get things over with so i can get in to lifes next adventure. I love the look on a females face when they call themselves breaking up with me and wanting to see me hurt. I always agree with them and tell them its for the best. When they ask if they can be friends i say "sure" and then after that im off to the races. so i think its harder to move on when you lose all self respect and dignity on the way out, they see this and its game over. Like i said for me personally once they hit the eject button im out and i never ever look back. Btw once i adopted this mind set they always try to come back, but i in turn reject them and ignore all subsequent attempts at reconcilliation.
I can move on way faster when a girl comes back to me after she stood me up or cancelled on a date or even worse rejected me. It has everything to do with ego and you know she only wants to check if your interested or not. Then you have the power to ignore her and be the last one who ended it.
It's also true that moving on is harder when you lost self respect and dignity by example asking her out 10+ times with the same answer all the time or when she breaks up with you and you begg her back or some kind of situation. She has all the power there and let you down, so your ego is pulverized. In those cases they will rarely contact you again because they know your an option, they can have you anytime. So after 1 max 2 redd flaggs or rejections MOVE ON and chances are big that they will get back to you if they were interested in the first place.
Good post sayno