How often are you actually getting laid ?

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I had a work colleague give me some bl0w jobs in my office for about 2-3 months. Does that count? Lol

Lockdowns have definitely hampered the game for me, and on top of that, online game had gotten way tougher.. I used to get dates off dating apps consistently, but in the last 12 months, I barely can set up a date
 

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It's weird isn't it. I'm finding dating apps much harder post-COVID too. I wonder why it is. I've heard lots of theories.

I can still get bangs off apps, but I reckon its about 10 times harder now at least.

Daygame is a better bet, but it can be very slow. Contrary to the grifters online, banging a girl from daygame isn't easy at all.
Day game is still a problem in the UK.. The bars/pubs have only just opened. Woman are still pretty edgy about getting too close to a guy.. Then mask wearing is mandatory & I can't even tell what a girl properly looks like half the time lol.

I have actually turned away some opportunities of sex when the infection rate in the UK was high some months back.

If a girl seemed like a too easy lay & had take n several other D recently, then I rather go without sex than get Covid again.
 

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All good relationships are built on good sex as a starting point. After the sex happens you can start building the other stuff (if you want). Most guys have it back to front.
Again. What's the rush? Sex happening immediately is of no basis to how good the relationship will be. In fact, I would bet most of the worst relationships people have been in are the ones where they had sex on the first date.
 

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What do you mean its irrelevant ? most guys in the thread are talking about 6 month + dry spells and you claim to be getting laid several times a week ?

So you either have high SMV in your area or your banging very low quality women / single mothers

It has to be one or the other
 

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How have you not lost the plot? Thats too long for a dry spell
Having had a similar hiatus myself, I can honestly say that with all the other BS going on in my
life I consider not having to be present and correct for a female is a blessing in disguise.

I have a pair of houses on the market, both 'sold' but both sales are being difficult to say the least.
For instance, one is tenanted and the tenant won't leave. I'm probably going to lose my buyer over
how my fvcking biatch tenant (62 years old, female) won't just get the hell out of my house.
I am having to formally evict her now which grants her several months of extra notice due to
temporary covid legislation increasing the rights of the tenant. The other sale has a collapsed chain
and I am about to return it to the market, it's been delayed so long the back garden looks like a jungle
and I need to head there soon and hack everything back again. Both houses are bought and paid for
and the money they will generate (£375,000+) is essentially my half of the estate. Once that hits my
bank account I can go buy a house to live in and at long last have my own space. I've never ever had
my own place and have always lived with parents/friends/gf/wife. They are just a couple of problems
and there are numerous others that I don't have the strength to sit here and type about for fear of
winding myself up again. To say I can't wait to have my own home is an understatement.

My temporary contract at Amazon is due to end in a matter of weeks and then I need to find another
income, which will likely be another gruelling warehouse job since that's all that's on offer that I can get
into and earning again quickly. Not that I'll miss the constant scrutiny of what is essentially a modern
day plantation. A very stressful environment in which to work and that's if you already have a settled home
life which I absolutely don't. Still, I am trying to convert to from temp to permanent staff at Amazon just so I
can have a steady income until the damned houses sell. I have a good reputation there and am well liked
it's just if they are hiring or not before my time is up there.

Still not divorced and with all of my stuff STILL in the house with my wife including my dearly missed motorcycles.
We are waiting until October which is when we can file a no fault divorce, there is a two year qualifying period
from the breakup before we can do this in UK law.

I'm looking down the final straight in a very long race to get out of the awful cramped bedsit I'm living in and
have been living in since splitting from my wife. The wife of my friend whose house it is is being an absolute cvnt
to me on a daily basis and makes sure I constantly know its HER house I'm living in. As such I sit in my room 99%
of the time I am at home as I don't feel very welcome here anymore. I can't have visitors, I'm not allowed and I have
to endure constant snide comments about everything from how loud my voice is to the amount of sound my cutlery
makes on my plate when I eat. With a daily insinuation or three about what a disgusting filthy human being I am in
general. I now also eat in my room to avoid her remarks. I pay to live here I hasten to add, but I'm rarely treated like
a paying customer. My mate is caught in the middle of this situation. I haven't spoken to his wife at all in three weeks
now. You can cut the atmosphere here with a knife. It comes to something when like last week I spent my day off sat in
Asda's car park in my van rather than be at 'home'.

I am in no place to entertain a woman amongst all this aggravation. In fact the vast majority of my BS has a woman at
the root of it, female tenant being a tw@, mates wife being an arsehole, soon to be ex wife champing at the bit to get my
sh1t out of her house so she can ride the carousel without reminders all around that she was once an honest married
woman.

Why on earth would I want to be dealing with another entitled, self serving, hypocritical harpie who takes
delight in tormenting men like the majority of them seem to these days...
 

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Having had a similar hiatus myself, I can honestly say that with all the other BS going on in my
life I consider not having to be present and correct for a female is a blessing in disguise.

I have a pair of houses on the market, both 'sold' but both sales are being difficult to say the least.
For instance, one is tenanted and the tenant won't leave. I'm probably going to lose my buyer over
how my fvcking biatch tenant (62 years old, female) won't just get the hell out of my house.
I am having to formally evict her now which grants her several months of extra notice due to
temporary covid legislation increasing the rights of the tenant. The other sale has a collapsed chain
and I am about to return it to the market, it's been delayed so long the back garden looks like a jungle
and I need to head there soon and hack everything back again. Both houses are bought and paid for
and the money they will generate (£375,000+) is essentially my half of the estate. Once that hits my
bank account I can go buy a house to live in and at long last have my own space. I've never ever had
my own place and have always lived with parents/friends/gf/wife. They are just a couple of problems
and there are numerous others that I don't have the strength to sit here and type about for fear of
winding myself up again. To say I can't wait to have my own home is an understatement.

My temporary contract at Amazon is due to end in a matter of weeks and then I need to find another
income, which will likely be another gruelling warehouse job since that's all that's on offer that I can get
into and earning again quickly. Not that I'll miss the constant scrutiny of what is essentially a modern
day plantation. A very stressful environment in which to work and that's if you already have a settled home
life which I absolutely don't. Still, I am trying to convert to from temp to permanent staff at Amazon just so I
can have a steady income until the damned houses sell. I have a good reputation there and am well liked
it's just if they are hiring or not before my time is up there.

Still not divorced and with all of my stuff STILL in the house with my wife including my dearly missed motorcycles.
We are waiting until October which is when we can file a no fault divorce, there is a two year qualifying period
from the breakup before we can do this in UK law.

I'm looking down the final straight in a very long race to get out of the awful cramped bedsit I'm living in and
have been living in since splitting from my wife. The wife of my friend whose house it is is being an absolute cvnt
to me on a daily basis and makes sure I constantly know its HER house I'm living in. As such I sit in my room 99%
of the time I am at home as I don't feel very welcome here anymore. I can't have visitors, I'm not allowed and I have
to endure constant snide comments about everything from how loud my voice is to the amount of sound my cutlery
makes on my plate when I eat. With a daily insinuation or three about what a disgusting filthy human being I am in
general. I now also eat in my room to avoid her remarks. I pay to live here I hasten to add, but I'm rarely treated like
a paying customer. My mate is caught in the middle of this situation. I haven't spoken to his wife at all in three weeks
now. You can cut the atmosphere here with a knife. It comes to something when like last week I spent my day off sat in
Asda's car park in my van rather than be at 'home'.

I am in no place to entertain a woman amongst all this aggravation. In fact the vast majority of my BS has a woman at
the root of it, female tenant being a tw@, mates wife being an arsehole, soon to be ex wife champing at the bit to get my
sh1t out of her house so she can ride the carousel without reminders all around that she was once an honest married
woman.

Why on earth would I want to be dealing with another entitled, self serving, hypocritical harpie who takes
delight in tormenting men like the majority of them seem to these days...

Jesus i was feeling a bit sorry for myself yesterday with my life but actually after reading your story i am super grateful and actually have no problems

If you feel you need to chat or anything drop me a DM

i worked in amazon for 3 weeks many moons ago ..... one day i simply said no way and just didn't turn up for the shift
 

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Daygame is a better bet, but it can be very slow. Contrary to the grifters online, banging a girl from daygame isn't easy at all.
You can get lucky and bang the first girl you approach, you can be unlucky and not bang your next 50-100 approaches. There are many variables that are outside your control when it comes to daygame. You literally just don't know what's going on in her life, if she's available, if she's going to be attracted to you etc.

Some girls you have a natural chemistry with and it's easy. You're rolling the dice with each approach you make.

All you can control is your behavior - have a solid opener, good vibing and stacking, flirting, then closing (either number or insta-date). Everything else is outside your control.
Day game is not easy. There is a reason why most men don't do it. Most men don't have the ability to cold approach when sober. Additionally, day game involves a lot of lingering and looking for opportunities. More of day game is assessing your surroundings and looking for opportunities.
 

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What are you doing to change that?
Not a whole lot. I think after my last relationship and ideologies being so polarized in the real world, it makes me extremely leery who I want to get intimate with. Yeah, to most on here that's a cop out excuse but I'm not exchanging my beliefs for temporary access to who-ha.
 

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How have you not lost the plot? Thats too long for a dry spell
I'm not sure what you mean by "How have I not lost the plot" but it's not unusual for me to be on long dry spells. Before my first relationship after college, I had a dry spell that lasted four years. At the time, I was surrounded by women that I just didn't want to be around.
 
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Not a whole lot. I think after my last relationship and ideologies being so polarized in the real world, it makes me extremely leery who I want to get intimate with. Yeah, to most on here that's a cop out excuse but I'm not exchanging my beliefs for temporary access to who-ha.
This is called rationalizing your position to yourself.
 

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About once a week, with the same lady. I’ve never had any luck with ONSs. The only way I get action is by meeting a lady and putting some effort into it. It’s been worth the effort with my current lady.
 

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During lockdown it was easy to match bc they just wanted a penpal, but they found boyfriends now.
How did they find boyfriends? Just picked one of their hundreds of options.

It's better if you live in a target-rich area like a big metropolis. I can go downtown and have a huge amount of approach options. I have no shortage of opportunities. It's more of an energy and mind-state battle for me. It can be hard keeping a positive vibe and continue to push forward and do more approaches. But knowing that it does work makes it easier to push forward. A man needs to see that daygame does work for it to give him motivation to keep going. You can only fail for so long without having any success and being beaten down. This is why I think a lot of guys give up after their first 100 approaches lead to nowhere.
I like in a big U.S. metro area. I've spent most of the last ~15 years in Top 15 U.S. metro areas. There are only a few cities in the United States where London Daygame Model street game is viable. Most of them are the older, denser Northeast and Midwest cities like New York, Boston, Philadelphia, and Chicago.

In the high growth in recent decades, more automobile dependent Sun Belt cities, London Daygame Model street game isn't viable. In many of those cities, it would be more outdoor park/walking/hiking path approaches, grocery store approaches, and mall approaches. In those venues, you're often lingering and looking for approach targets more than approaching.
 

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In those venues, you're often lingering and looking for approach targets more than approaching.
That precisely is the problem. By the time there is an approach opportunity, so much time has been spent lingering, you just don't feel like doing anything since you are already in a comfort zone by the time the opportunity comes up. In fact, security can start eyeing you and think you are up to something.

Also, if there aren't allot of approach opportunities/targets, then if an approach goes bad, then you can't rub it off quick enough with another approach. That experience stays with you and, especially for outdoor venues, can potential ruin the overall experience. If you can volley and approach other women like nothing, then its a different story. Then you can build some momentum and then approaching becomes easier.
 

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In Leeds city
Cool, I love the UK, great history, people and music. I'm an Anglophile and I want to go to Cornwall next. I can probably name most of your Kings and Queens in order from William the Conqueror on.
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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