How could he be this cold?

[Mr. Z]

Chill out man. First off you don't even know what kind of person she was. She could have been some stuck up snob, or possibly even a good person. The point is you didn't know her, who cares? I don't come on here about my friend Overdosing on oxycotin, you know why? He was a Fvcking moron! Just like somebody slipping to death in a bathtub is stupid. I mean c'mon man there is such a thing as stupid people, and evidently they die from it! I'm sure somewhere deep down you can find the humor in that. Imagine some girl whistling, waltzing into the bathroom and slipping on a rubber duckie. It is, what it is. Embarrassing.

 

[SilverSonnet]

No, as a matter of fact, I DONT find it amusing. ESPECIALLY, when you come on here, with a woman whose friend's just died, and you mock her friend. And it doesn't matter whether she was a stuck up snob or not, she died. Respect that fact. Fvcks sake.

 

[Mr. Z]

It is, what it is. I'm sure thats not the way anyone would want to go out, just stating the obvious. Just imagine her running back to the tub, to turn the water off, because she was on her cell phone for 10 mins. Then that bastard rubber duckie is awaiting her arrival, then BAM! she hits her head on porcelien, bringing down the shower curtains with her. Of course it would be funny if she only got hurt though, right?

 

[Mr. Z]

It is, what it is. I'm sure thats not the way anyone would want to go out, just stating the obvious. Just imagine her running back to the tub, to turn the water off, because she was on her cell phone for 10 mins. Then that bastard rubber duckie is awaiting her arrival, then BAM! She hits her head on porcelein, bringing down the shower curtains with her. Of course it would be funny if she only got hurt though, right?

 

[DavenJuan]

lsihy...

i wish i could have joined this before this got 4 pages long but i do want to add somethings..

first i am sorry for your loss. it is always a wake up call when soemthing like this happens..

as far as your bf. i remember the other post about him

he CLEARLY is not the type to wear his emotions on his sleeve. We cant pick and choose when we want him to be this way, and when we DONT want him to be this way.

WHY is he conditioned this way? who knows. but you do need to ask yourself if this is something YOU want.

I completely disagree with his actions, however its a very thin line between him simply trying to be cold, geniunely not caring about your feelings versus him just not being able to adapt to this type of situation.

IMO based on how he handled the "friend wanting to do you" scenerio is a prime example of his behaviour. he avoids conflict , maybe because he doesnt know HOW to handle it. so he simply ignores it and uses his "i dont give a sh*t" attitude as a shield.

you know better than anyone what type of person he is and everyone here is only trying to ASSUME WHAT this means.

so you have to ask yourself...

do you think he just doesnt care about how you feel or is he simply trying to avoid this situation because he doesnt know HOW to be there for you?

he didnt even call you back which seems real d*ckish.. but i think he was simply scared to do so.

IMO

 

[SilverSonnet]

It is, what it is. I'm sure thats not the way anyone would want to go out, just stating the obvious. Just imagine her running back to the tub, to turn the water off, because she was on her cell phone for 10 mins. Then that bastard rubber duckie is awaiting her arrival, then BAM! she hits her head on porcelien, bringing down the shower curtains with her. Of course it would be funny if she only got hurt though, right?

Hmm, it would be funny if it wasn't being posted on a thread where one of her friends is grieving, thats kinda insensitive. There is a humorous side to it, but now's not the time, nor the place.

 

[Mr. Z]

fair enough! but at least you can see where i'm coming from.

 

[DonGorgon]

No, as a matter of fact, I DONT find it amusing. ESPECIALLY, when you come on here, with a woman whose friend's just died, and you mock her friend. And it doesn't matter whether she was a stuck up snob or not, she died. Respect that fact. Fvcks sake.

Most people dont respect anything except money and power.. expecting more is very naive on your part.

 

[DonGorgon]

Chill out man. First off you don't even know what kind of person she was. She could have been some stuck up snob, or possibly even a good person. The point is you didn't know her, who cares? I don't come on here about my friend Overdosing on oxycotin, you know why? He was a Fvcking moron! Just like somebody slipping to death in a bathtub is stupid. I mean c'mon man there is such a thing as stupid people, and evidently they die from it! I'm sure somewhere deep down you can find the humor in that. Imagine some girl whistling, waltzing into the bathroom and slipping on a rubber duckie. It is, what it is. Embarrassing.

Damn thats COLd....

 

[Lishy]

fair enough! but at least you can see where i'm coming from.

Yes I see where you are coming from

You come from a pile of sh*t! You are pathetic and not one bit amusing!

You are 23 going on 4 and I bet your mum is well proud of you (not)

Now go away and go annoy someone else in the playground you pathetic piece of crap!

 

[DonGorgon]

WOW.......I love how everyone just attacks the dude without actually knowing the man and only knows him by what Lishy writes about him.....this is fvcking pathetic..

men often do this when women are angry at their boyfriend... I guess its that competitive instinct.. Maybe they think if she leaves him that they will have a chance...LOL:yes:

 

[scratch]

This thread cracks me up. Take note of how nobody, through 4 pages, has mentioned that this is not an appropriate topic for the DJ discussion board.

You are all missing the key takeaway here FOR THIS FORUM. This girl isn't your friend, but the instant a girl reaches out to the populace here for emotional support, you scramble over like lemmings to a cliff. I bet she posted this thread here as soon as she felt like someone else posted a more popular topic on LS, and wasn't getting enough attention there.

Perhaps cynicism isn't the right tack for me to take here. I should be impressed how Available For Compassion you all are. Next time a girl is angry at her boyfriend for being cold and needs guys to serve as shoulders to cry on, I'll recommend this site.

Want a tip on how to attract women? Stop being posers and hypocrites.

 

[Lishy]

Oh and that was me being polite to you ok!

 

[Lishy]

This thread cracks me up. Take note of how nobody, through 4 pages, has mentioned that this is not an appropriate topic for the DJ discussion board.

You are all missing the key takeaway here FOR THIS FORUM. This girl isn't your friend, but the instant a girl reaches out to the populace here for emotional support, you scramble over like lemmings to a cliff. I bet she posted this thread here as soon as she felt like someone else posted a more popular topic on LS, and wasn't getting enough attention there.

Perhaps cynicism isn't the right tack for me to take here. I should be impressed how Available For Compassion you all are. Next time a girl is angry at her boyfriend for being cold and needs guys to serve as shoulders to cry on, I'll recommend this site.

Want a tip on how to attract women? Stop being posers and hypocrites.

I am glad you feel 'cracked up' SOME people know how to help others in need

If this thread is wrong for you then why are you posting in it?

Jesus I wanna be single for ever if some of you are anything to go by!

 

[DonGorgon]

1. NOONE on here BUT Lishy can deal with this and she shouldnt take advice from anyone on here but what she feels.

2.NOONE has a right to critisize someone WITHOUT knowing the person or at least not talking bad about him behind his back.

I feel sorry that everyone just attacks someone because of what he did or didnt do....damn. I have been around this sort of thing since my past has made me have to deal with this type of stuff first hand but attacking someone just because he doesnt want to talk about it is assinine. He was asleep and listened to her for awhile....I think he did what most people would do if they got woken up , they would listen for awhile and ask to talk about it later WHICH he did! NOW everyone is saying that the guy DOESNT love you because he hung up on you.......HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA WOW REALLY! First you never stated if the guy knew your friend or not and second if he didnt know then he isnt out of line....it's like going to with your husband or wife to a funeral on their side and going up to the casket......what's the point? You dont know the guy and you would feel embarassed wouldnt you? People on here have to face the facts......someone died get over it our lives are finite isnt that what the bible teaches you, to live your life like you would die tomorrow or is everything here just a crock?

I am sorry for your loss but saying your BF doesnt love you because he probably has no attachment to your friend is stupid and if you leave him just because of this your an IDIOT, I mean what you want him to do drive to your place and stay up all night watching you cry? Yes it would be nice and would work IF you lived 2gethor but would you have listend to him if it was the other way around? You can fool yourself and say yes to save face but you would probably have done the same thing .......haha people and there emotions.

Exactly.. brilliant post...:cheer:

 

[Lishy]

How invested was he in this relationship? How long have you guys been together? What are the dynamics of the relationship? Are you guys so close that you talk and support eachother on everything? Does he know the person that died? The reason I ask is because he may have interpreted your behavior in a way that you were using your friends death in a maniopulative way to draw him closer to you when you felt maybe he wasn't as close as you'd like him to be or felt him driftng away.

I am not like that SS,he knows I do not over react and like drama.

He was just thinking about himself and not me at all! That is the bottom line methinks!

 

[DonGorgon]

This thread cracks me up. Take note of how nobody, through 4 pages, has mentioned that this is not an appropriate topic for the DJ discussion board.s.

Come on man you know women get extra passes and special treatment as men get more and more desperate.. (which is why we men are so powerless in 2008) Many of these guys are what you would call "captain save-a-hos" or AFCs

 

[schttrj]

I am glad you feel 'cracked up' SOME people know how to help others in need

If this thread is wrong for you then why are you posting in it?

Jesus I wanna be single for ever if some of you are anything to go by!

well really astonishing how u ask for EMOTIONAL SUPPORT AND HELP in a DJ DISCUSSION BOARD. sure that is a sad thing and the majority of guys here are all trying to wipe your tears but thats not what this discussion board is supposed to be, what u can do instead is PM each one of this and ask for their support, that would be suitable or u should better have posted this thread in teh 'anything else' section.... when in rome, do as rome does, when in this site, follow the rules, dear!

and DON GORDON, u hit the point cuz methink most of the so called DJs here still need a huge dewussyfying from their AFC style.

 

[MacAvoy]

1. NOONE on here BUT Lishy can deal with this and she shouldnt take advice from anyone on here but what she feels.

2.NOONE has a right to critisize someone WITHOUT knowing the person or at least not talking bad about him behind his back.

Exactly.. brilliant post...:cheer:

Don,

If that was the case, then SS wouldn't exist. The whole point of the forums here at SS is for people to get advice. People, yourself included constantly critisize people without knowing that person.

So explain to me, how thats brilliant?

 

[Mr. Me]

Lishy, a guy who's not empathic to the tragedy of a person's sudden death - a person you were friends with, and to whom his own comfort is more important in that moment than to "be there" for his girlfriend... I wonder: does he display other narcissistic traits?