don't know, maybe i'm wrong and looking at all the wrong way. There must be a balance between frame control and making an effort.
Of course, absolutely. And from what I read most posters agree with that.
Netflix and Chill is
not effort
unless you're making dinner or ordering out but creating a nice vibe at home (making sure home is clean, soft lighting, a nice spread) = effort.
The OP's chick was not wrong for wanting dinner imo. The problem was she wasn't gracious. She was demanding and appeared entitled in how she conveyed her desire for dinner to the OP.
THAT's the problem, not that she preferred to be taken to dinner. Both men and women have their own standards and those standards should be respected on both sides.
That does NOT mean you have to continue dating such person if her/his standards don't match yours, however they should be respected regardless.
Again the problem here is that when expressing her disappointment that the OP didn't take her to dinner, and demanding that he should and at a 5-star restaurant no less, she came across as a demanding entitled b*tch.
A more gracious woman would have politely said no to Netflix and Chill and given HIM the opportunity to suggest another plan. That's feminine energy.
Not necessarily "dinner," but something fun, an activity they could do together outside the house and put some effort into planning and executing it.
Mini golf, bowling (my personal fave lol), or as
@Pierce.Manhammer said, a drink at a trendy brew club (another fave). If they're clicking they can always head back to his afterwards.
By doing so, YOU are controlling the frame while at the same time making effort. Once you start dating regularly, it's OK to decide what to do, where to go,
together.
But again, here she just came off as an entitled b*tch. She attempted to take complete control of the frame which is masculine energy and a complete turn off for most men including the OP.
