mikedee
Master Don Juan
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Netflix and chill is not a date, I understand she rejected the idea. OP shot himself in the foot when he proposed that idea. But refusing to go for a drink and asking to go for diner is a trendy place is a major red flag. She is interested in a free lunch and cool IG stories.I agree with this. And if our OP was/is a foodie and enjoys dining out at high end restaurants himself and taking first or second dates there, then that's okay imo.
That's not what happened here. HE asked for drinks/Netflix and Chill. SHE didn't like that idea and proceeded to take charge and control the frame by demanding dinner.
I read a post last week from a poster asking how you check for compliance before the first date or during.
That is how. By observing her reaction to your date idea and if she's agreeable. NOT rejecting, taking charge and dictating the frame demanding dinner instead.
Am I the only one seeing this as a problem over and above her wanting dinner?
I invite my dates in basic places, cheap wine bars, pubs, etc. i dont spend more than 30$ most of the time. If they ask for something fancy instead I drop them. But it never happens, because they are truly interested in seeing me again, they dont care where.