Girlfriend acting stange

[lalahaha]

ok you are way overthinking this situation which means you are too attached to her, just dump her don't get into a fakkin sappy speech of how your poor little heart can't handle her flakiness anymore (they want that!) and show her the way out, do nothing else

this is what happens, from reading this whole thread it seemed to me as if she was going to break up with you, so lets say that was the case, then boom you got her out of your life and she might even try to reel you in with more "baby im sorry stories" because women like the last word in and then she will dump you

ok lets say there is the tiny chance that you think that she does still like you. still go dump her and dont contact AND DO NOT EVER contact her even with wittle emails saying how sorry you are things couldnt work out or pointing out her flaws. just dont do anything, if she really did like you she will contact you persistently for a little while.... if she doesn't contact no prob you cut her out of your life right?

good luck with your situation bro..

 

[Igetit!]

Well,I'm going to have to go against the grain with all the advice that all the other posters here have already given....even though I completely agree with everything everyone has said.

I say to get back together with her. And I'm not joking,I'm serious.

I've seen the advice from DjDamage,Kontroller X,Pimp-sicle,and some of the other members here,and it's all spot on. And even after all of that knowledge and wisdom,here you are one month later still trying to figure out what to do. It'd be so much easier and simpler to just learn from the collective expierences of the more "seasoned" members here,but aparently you seem to want to learn the hard way. Well,so be it. Whether you learn from the forum,or you learn from being put through the ringer and wasting more of your time with the girl,doesn't matter really,as long as you learn.

The majority of the best advice was given to you on the same day you created this thread,or on a day or two after,with more gems trickling in along the way. So if all that info hasn't helped you with this thing yet,then I doubt that more people telling you to move on will do the trick. With that being the case.....then my advice is to start dating her again. You may complain about all the stuff she did while you two were together,but obviously it wasn't bad enough to make you want to part ways and move on.

She asked you if you're free tonight? Well,that's an IOI,right? Well,if she has an interest and you're still interested,then that's an opening for you right there. If you two do start dating again,of course she'll start all that nonsense up again,but who cares. You obviously don't.

Go ahead and take her out somewhere. In the end,anything as far as a possible steady relationship isn't going to happen,and she's going to punk and disrespect you even worse than before when she sees that you still don't get it,but whenever this thing finally does come to an end,at least you finally understand what it was that everyone here was trying to tell you.

 

[The Logical Player]

why do you have a girlfriend?

And I want a real answer, not something like "I don't know, it just happened" or "because she's hot"

why do you have a girlfriend?

 

[MisterMcGee]

LP, stop trying to turn people on this forum into double-standard players, and stop berating them for doing what they want to do. There's a difference between giving advice on how to be a better man, and trying to convert men into players.

 

[The Logical Player]

this guy does not, and never did want a girlfriend

he only has one because he's a nice guy and he did what he thinks is "right"

but really, having "a girlfriend" is catering to the rules of dating that were written by women, to favor women


and MisterMcGee, look at what having a girlfriend has gotten this kid into? If he played things by his own rules, he would be happy and dandy right now, and not posting "girlfriend acting strange" like an unhappy man

 

[sasffl]

we were supposed to meet around 9 and she hasnt called or anthing. Im guessing shes gonna say she got home and was so tired she just passed out. Bull****. I think i need to call her right now and end it over voicemail if i have to.

 

[The Logical Player]

are you reading advice here???

answer my question on my post above yours

 

[sasffl]

are you reading advice here???

answer my question on my post above yours

Because i was attracted to her, she was fun to be around, at the beginning she was really good to me, did everything for me. Thats why

 

[usscrum]

sounds like she wants to dump you but pusses out whenever she has the opportunity. trust me i have been there man it may seem like there's still a chance but she is stringing you along. dump her ass before she has a chance to say anything else.

 

[WaterTiger]

we were supposed to meet around 9 and she hasnt called or anthing. Im guessing shes gonna say she got home and was so tired she just passed out. Bull****. I think i need to call her right now and end it over voicemail if i have to.

You are right, this is bulldoodle. She is TRYING to make you break up with her. She wants OUT of the relationship! She keeps blowing you off (and not in a good way) and you keep coming back!

WHY??????

How many times do you put your hand on a hot stove before you realize "Hey that hurts!"

Dump this girl, let her cry to her friends that she's been abandon by you, that you're horrible...blah, blah, blah. She wants to be the victim...LET HER!

Go out TONIGHT and find a new girl, go to bars you've never been to, find new clubs even if you have to go to the next town. Do not think of this nutty chick one more second.

I don't even know the girl and I want to smack her!:trouble:

 

[sasffl]

So get this, we were supposed to talk at 3 today and i get no contact. Tnight i was drunk and i was texting one of my friends and i say, "I want to dump her over the phone but I know ill regret it."

Turns out, in my drunken state, i send the text to her...

She responds with this long text all upset saying ..

yeah i know me either sorry, i just almost got fired today, its been a rough 3 weeks i know its over w us but id like to talk ab it all since use to be one of my best friends.

I called her after that and we talked for a second then she hung up. Then she tried to call me back, didnt answer. Called me a few more times then i finally answered, and she was like lets talk about this tmrw im going to sleep. Then she sent me a text saying

I cant believe you accidently sent me that, ouch.

I didnt respond to that...and that was it...

should i initiate tmrrw or let her do it? I feel like now I accidently have the highground even thought i didnt intend to. She's clearly really upset by the fact that she found out i intended on dumping her even though she was one who wanted to talk in the first place..

What should i do?????

 

[horaholic]

You didnt listen to anyone so far, why would that change now? I think it is pretty funny that you sent an accidental text. If I thought you would listen, I'd tell you to send her a text saying you can take a hint, and there's nothing more to talk about. Just meet up, exchange each others crap, say take care, and walk away. If you really need to talk about it, wait a full year before doing it. I can promise you no good will come from talking right now. There'll be too many emotions involved, and she wont be honest with you anyway. All she will do is feed you a bunch of bullshyt.

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

Man this girl has a rolodex of excuses.

 

[sasffl]

shes freaking out now, sending me all kinds of texts...it appears as though my accidental text may have given me the high ground here. Whether or not she wanted to dump me in the first place shes def changing her tune.

But im not gonna fall for it. She's playing the victim now saying shes no gonna put up an effort anymore and that if i want to talk, i have to come see her, or i can dump her over TM.

I didnt really care to say, "YOU PUT UP AN EFFORT???? HAHAHAHA" im gonna meet with her today by her work for lunch just to end it like a man.

Not gonna lie, part of me is saying no you can save this now, by letting her know u want to dump her she wants you back now. But im gonna try hard not to give in to that.

Im meeting at 1 so gimme any last minute advice. Thanks

 

[russell]

Because i was attracted to her, she was fun to be around, at the beginning she was really good to me, did everything for me. Thats why

okay, just put this into perspective. i have this girl who is really good to me, fun to be around, smoking hot HB8, and the sex is amazing, but i don't make her my girlfriend. i've said to her "why don't we have an open relationship?" and she said suurrrre, and so i've got the best of both worlds. no girl nagging me about this or that, no trust issues, i can mack on any chick i want, **** any chick i want (as long as i wrap it up).

so, again, why did you make her your girlfriend?

 

[Nutz]

Im meeting at 1 so gimme any last minute advice. Thanks

Don't get into some protracted argument. Just tell her, "Look, we're just not a good match and I think we should stop seeing each other. My friends are moving my stuff out and I'll call you later to pick up the rest next week."


That's it. Don't let her drone on, *****, complain, or any of it. You've said your peace and that's that. Say what I just wrote, get up, and leave.

And make sure you have any high value items removed from your place before she gets home and trashes it. Call up some friends and get them over there ASAP.

 

[horaholic]

Dude, you've momentarily gained a tiny bit of power. DONT think that means you can salvage the relationship. All this means is you can end it now, with your head held a little higher. You still caved in, by agreeing to meet her, in HER territory, on HER terms, so you just lost all that 'higher ground.' I already know what she's gonna do: She's gonna beat you to the punch and dump you first, and it will shatter your ego, and you'll end up pining over her, and depressed, and wanting her back. It's nothing but a power battle with you two now.

If you were smart you would just give her a quick call, and tell her there is nothing more to say, and you're done. You dont need to do it in person. You both know it's about to end, so you can do it however you want. It it was an out of the blue, breakup, then you should man up and do it face to face. I dont think it really matters how you break up, personally. I strongly suggest you keep any form of contact to an absolute minimum. You already know why you're breaking up, there's no need to talk about it. I know you feel like you need to, but its a lost cause, and will only bring hurt upon you. We've all been there, and we all know it hurts, and it sucks, but it makes it 100 times worse to see their face, and hear their voice, so save yourself the heartache, so you can move on. When MONTHS and MONTHS have passed, and you're both over the breakup and each other, THEN you can talk and be friends or whatever without emotions interferring and fvcking you up.

I wish I had this site around when I went through all my major breakups. I would be a LOT saner now. Its your choice though. Do it the easy way or the hard way that can take forever to move on from.

 

[DJDamage]

Good Post horaholic, but I think your advice will fall on deaf ears.

But im not gonna fall for it. She's playing the victim now saying shes no gonna put up an effort anymore and that if i want to talk, i have to come see her, or i can dump her over TM.

I didnt really care to say, "YOU PUT UP AN EFFORT???? HAHAHAHA" im gonna meet with her today by her work for lunch just to end it like a man.

I got a feeling it won't be like this, its going to end up that she either dumps you or you are going to cave to her whims as usual.

 

[The Logical Player]

let me rephrase my question, and I want a good solid logical answer:

If this girl was nice to you, hot, good to hang out with, ect ect ect.......(here is the big question) DID YOU NOT REALIZE THAT YOUR TIME WITH HER HAS A SHELF LIFE? that basically means, that you should know that her being nice to you isnt going to last forever, and the logical thing to do would have been to continue seeing her and having fun, but to NEVER limit yourself and put yourself in a box, by making her your 1 and only girlfriend.......so again, knowing that she wasn't going to marry you, why do you have a girlfriend?

Honestly, look at the mess that you having a girlfriend has gotten you into

you need some Leykis101 buddy, PRONTO

 

[speed dawg]

This is a TEXTBOOK break up between a low interest girl looking for a way out and a chump who is too wrapped in his emotions to think logically. The relationship is DONE. There's nothing for you and her to talk about. You haven't made a good decision over the life of this entire thread.

You want good advice? You want to know what you should do? Here it is: Forget about this girl. 5 months? You hardly knew her. Forget about her, lose her contact info and stick around this forum for awhile and learn some things.