Girlfriend acting stange

[sasffl]

she called me today wasted asking me to come pick her up. I did and she apologized for last night and was all lovey dubby with me. Shes passed out at my place right now... I asked her if she wanted me to take her home and she keeps saying no.

Shes not the type of girl that would use a guy like this, shes way too nice and insecure which is what everyone tells me. She is always saying sorry for this and sorry for that.

Should i wake her up and be like listen *****, im taking you home?

Shes the kind of girl that when i get mad at her, she just gets really stressed out and doesnt talk to me.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

she called me today wasted asking me to come pick her up. I did and she apologized for last night and was all lovey dubby with me. Shes passed out at my place right now... I asked her if she wanted me to take her home and she keeps saying no.

Shes not the type of girl that would use a guy like this, shes way too nice and insecure which is what everyone tells me. She is always saying sorry for this and sorry for that.

Should i wake her up and be like listen *****, im taking you home?

Shes the kind of girl that when i get mad at her, she just gets really stressed out and doesnt talk to me.

I mean this in the nicest possible way, but your her B-I-T-C-H!!! Your her parent, your her advisor, your her elder, your her voice of reason.......


WTF do YOU get out of this relationship???


The whole root of this problem is your gf is NOT gf material. Your screening process is either entirely absent or is really bad. My guess is your the type of guy who was shy and introverted around girls when you were growing up. You spent so much time on your education (which is good), that your social life was stunted.

I know this girl is attractive, the weird ones always seem to be, but your settling for leftovers when you could be having a fresh kill.

Stop for one minute, look past her physical appearance and ask yourself

"What does my girlfriend add to my life???" Be honest with yourself and answer that question. Then you'll be able to understand our point of view, because your emotional investment is clearly clouding your better judgement here.



PIMP

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

I can't echo what others have said enough. This is over. You were her rebound (or one of them), and she got in over her head a bit, but thought she could deal with it. Then she saw her ex, who before was out of sight out of mind, and realized she still had strong feelings. She probably ended up getting drunk and hooking up with him, and that's why she cried so much and acted so distant. She was ignoring you because she didn't know what to tell you or how to approach this.

When she found out I was hanging out with this girl that one night she went out and didnt call me, she texted me sarcastically asking me about it. Then my friend told me that he heard that she thinks i cheated on her that night. I kept telling her I didnt and she said i never said you did

I'm surprised nobody else mentioned this. Her accusing you of cheating on her is textbook. She messed around with another guy (most likely the ex). That's the beginning and the end of it. Get out now.

 

[The_411]

projection, the defense of the guilty.

Unless you're grabbing ass and cheating in front of her she has no reason to accuse you of cheating unless she's deflecting onto you to cover up her cheating.

She's cheating no doubt.

Not to mention her behaviors suck.

 

[darkstarrr]

hey bro.

i went through a deranged version of this. break up with her now and be happy about it. read my thread (below) from beginning to end (minus the idiotic post at the end) paying close attention to the dates. you'll see there was about a 1 month gap between when i first posted and we were still together (similar to your post here in that she ran into an ex or something) and when shit hit the fucking fan. can you picture a huge wad of wet shit splatting next to a fan that is in front of you that otherwise keeps you cool and feeling nice?

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=150531&highlight=girlfriend+depressed

trust me you do not want to go through what i went through. reread every post on your thread again and again until it makes sense to you. i'm sorry for what you are going through. i understand the emotionality of it and how it can be so difficult. but trust me when i tell you that if you do not end this your way and on your terms you are risking it being a LOT worse. if you do this right she will be the one to regret it down the road and pine after you, not the other way around with you making a fool out of yourself. also read the post on MM forum called breaks. that should clarify things more for you. you're not alone. you'll be okay. you've come here for advice. don't be one of the MANY who heard the words but don't do anything about it and then months or even weeks later go back and read your old posts (like i did) wondering why the heck you didn't do something in the narrow window of time that you had the chance to jump through and out.

good luck.

 

[Captain]

Leave her first, at least you might then leave with a little respect from her.

 

[penkitten]

even the "nicest of the nice" and the "sweetest of the sweet" go through their own share of hard times.
this chick is clearly going through her very own "me" time.

what is the "me" time?
it is the in between time in which you soul search.
this is a very selfish period, even when you try your best not to hurt others.

let her actions speak for her.
she is not showing signs of being interested unless she is drunk.

 

[eaglez1177]

she called me today wasted asking me to come pick her up. I did and she apologized for last night and was all lovey dubby with me. Shes passed out at my place right now... I asked her if she wanted me to take her home and she keeps saying no.

Shes not the type of girl that would use a guy like this, shes way too nice and insecure which is what everyone tells me. She is always saying sorry for this and sorry for that.

Should i wake her up and be like listen *****, im taking you home?

Shes the kind of girl that when i get mad at her, she just gets really stressed out and doesnt talk to me.

Bro pleaseeee fuking dump this girl. Shes making you her B*TCH!! I hate having to read your posts because im actually feeling sorry for you.

 

[sasffl]

Ok she's clearly playing head games with me and trying to avoid me while at the same time send me little texts and calls each day to reassure herself that im still on the back burner. Well, i found out form a friend that she was intentionall avoiding me last night so that did it for me. She texted me today acting like everything was ok, making up some excuse for not seeing me yesterday and how sorry she was but i didnt respond and she called and left a message so i sentt her back like a one word text message saying, " i got ur message whats up." I did that because i wanted to play dumb like i didnt know anything.

Now i could dump her, but i dunno know if i wanna give her that satisfaction. My sister is telling me to completely ignore her, (i did this for a day or two last week and she started really to ger nervous only after one night of ignoring her and sent me **** like "cant wait to see you!").

I'm thinking im gonna ignore her until she goes crazy and finally breaks down and demands to know why im not talking to her all of a sudden. In which case i will calmly tell her that i dont want to be in a long distance relationship with a girl who lives a few miles away and keeps tryng to avoid me. Then i will say goodbye.

The reason im not going to sit down and talk with her and dump her right now is for 2 reasons.

1. one is because as you all know, i did that before, and she delayed it for 5 days and it did no good.

2. Second is if we break up, she loses most of her friends and she knows that. Me calling her now and dumping her makes me look like the bad guy and puts her right where she wants to be im guessing.

Bottom line is i am tired of putting any more effort into this relationship. I dont care anymore to try and talk to her about things or anything else because everything she says is just manipulative and i have no idea whether to believe it or not. I feel like making her squirm as i have for the past few weeks because i am 100% sure she will. If she wants to talk things over and work things out shes gonna have to make the effort because im done dealing with this. ive already been hooking up with other girls and plan on just moving on.

What do you guys think of this idea of dumping someone without even talking to them?
Fvck her games. Im gonna throw her $hit right back at her...

 

[horaholic]

I for one, fully encourage the total ignore/silent treatment while hooking up other females. Let her get a taste of female medicine! Do it for all of us! Dont tell her shyt. When she calls, answer the phone, and immediately have an excuse to get off. Something like this: "Hey you, I miss you, but I need to call you right back. My friend Sally is on the other line, and she's pissed cuz I owe her a backrub, so let me call you back in a little while, OK?" Then dont call her back. HOw RAD would that be?

I think you should play HER for a while, not out of revenge, but to teach the bytch a lesson. Play her like chycks play guys: faking interest, and flaking out.

PLEASE do this! I think it would be AWESOME.

 

[russell]

Ok she's clearly playing head games with me and trying to avoid me while at the same time send me little texts and calls each day to reassure herself that im still on the back burner. Well, i found out form a friend that she was intentionall avoiding me last night so that did it for me. She texted me today acting like everything was ok, making up some excuse for not seeing me yesterday and how sorry she was but i didnt respond and she called and left a message so i sentt her back like a one word text message saying, " i got ur message whats up." I did that because i wanted to play dumb like i didnt know anything.

Now i could dump her, but i dunno know if i wanna give her that satisfaction. My sister is telling me to completely ignore her, (i did this for a day or two last week and she started really to ger nervous only after one night of ignoring her and sent me **** like "cant wait to see you!").

I'm thinking im gonna ignore her until she goes crazy and finally breaks down and demands to know why im not talking to her all of a sudden. In which case i will calmly tell her that i dont want to be in a long distance relationship with a girl who lives a few miles away and keeps tryng to avoid me. Then i will say goodbye.

The reason im not going to sit down and talk with her and dump her right now is for 2 reasons.

1. one is because as you all know, i did that before, and she delayed it for 5 days and it did no good.

2. Second is if we break up, she loses most of her friends and she knows that. Me calling her now and dumping her makes me look like the bad guy and puts her right where she wants to be im guessing.

Bottom line is i am tired of putting any more effort into this relationship. I dont care anymore to try and talk to her about things or anything else because everything she says is just manipulative and i have no idea whether to believe it or not. I feel like making her squirm as i have for the past few weeks because i am 100% sure she will. If she wants to talk things over and work things out shes gonna have to make the effort because im done dealing with this. ive already been hooking up with other girls and plan on just moving on.

What do you guys think of this idea of dumping someone without even talking to them?
Fvck her games. Im gonna throw her $hit right back at her...

hey man you got my vote. it's pretty obviously to almost everyone here that she's only playing games.

i wouldn't resent her for it, though, it will only fvck up your game. just try to accept the fact that she is who she is and just let her be that way. don't be a d|ck to her, don't get angry, or anything like that, when you decide to break it off or she'll know you are still emotionally invested. you gotta stay calm and chill and alpha. don't let her know that it is affecting you.

 

[WaRpEd]

...Chill out.

Drunk and crying in a bar about a relationship....I hope your exargerating

Thats not Don Juan at all.


I need you to do something for me...don't think just do it. Go get a pitcher, a bucket, a cup, or a large container of some sort and fill it with Ice water. Now go somewhere you can make a mess...Pour the stuff on your head. Imagine that guy washing away with the water.

Whether you keep her or you dump her, or visa versa she dumps you, you need to work on yourself, thats a little extreme man.

 

[darkstarrr]

I for one, fully encourage the total ignore/silent treatment while hooking up other females. Let her get a taste of female medicine! Do it for all of us! Dont tell her shyt. When she calls, answer the phone, and immediately have an excuse to get off. Something like this: "Hey you, I miss you, but I need to call you right back. My friend Sally is on the other line, and she's pissed cuz I owe her a backrub, so let me call you back in a little while, OK?" Then dont call her back. HOw RAD would that be?

I think you should play HER for a while, not out of revenge, but to teach the bytch a lesson. Play her like chycks play guys: faking interest, and flaking out.

PLEASE do this! I think it would be AWESOME.

Perfect.

 

[russell]

I for one, fully encourage the total ignore/silent treatment while hooking up other females. Let her get a taste of female medicine! Do it for all of us! Dont tell her shyt. When she calls, answer the phone, and immediately have an excuse to get off. Something like this: "Hey you, I miss you, but I need to call you right back. My friend Sally is on the other line, and she's pissed cuz I owe her a backrub, so let me call you back in a little while, OK?" Then dont call her back. HOw RAD would that be?

I think you should play HER for a while, not out of revenge, but to teach the bytch a lesson. Play her like chycks play guys: faking interest, and flaking out.

PLEASE do this! I think it would be AWESOME.

this is good advice, but not if you do it out of spite. i suggest you do this so that you can see the power that YOU have over women. you sound like a decent guy, not someone who would take unbridled advantage of a woman, but i think it's very important for you to having a good understanding of the kind of power that you actually do posess, because after reading this thread it sounds like you don't quite understand what you are capable of accomplishing.

play her and learn from it.

 

[sasffl]

I just got a text for her this morning saying "hey are you free tonight?"

A very odd thing for her to text, no "babe" or anything. This makes me think shes trying to either dump me or talk things over. Should i continue to give her the silent treatment or should i be like? "I'm not sure yet ill let you know, why?"

 

[eaglez1177]

I just got a text for her this morning saying "hey are you free tonight?"

A very odd thing for her to text, no "babe" or anything. This makes me think shes trying to either dump me or talk things over. Should i continue to give her the silent treatment or should i be like? "I'm not sure yet ill let you know, why?"

Give her the silent treatment and when shes on her knees asking whats wrong, throw all of the sh*t she gave you right back in her face. This b*tch deserves it.

 

[sasffl]

Well i finally was like yeah i could be free depending on when class gets out and asked why. She said she thinks we just need to get together and talk.

I figured im just delaying the inevitable here. So i said "yeah we def do, so im glad you brought it up." Then she was like im free at 3 tmrw if tnight is not convientent? and i was said no the sooner the better.

Anyway, im going to class now and that gets out at 8 and we are talking at 9 so ill have an hour to read your guys advice for how i should handle this talk after im done with class.

I'm thinking i have 3 options, let me know what u guys think

1. Let her start it and listen to her fake story about blah blah this isnt working right now and just say ok bye without showing emotion.

2. Pre-emptively dump her saying that in the beginning i really liked you but when you started to get flakey it became a huge turn off for me and that im really too old for that kind of stuff.

3. Come to some kind of agreement that we both think this is whats best right now and act like this is what i wanted all along and not be sad.

Thanks for the help guys. im gonna be going off ur game plan so let me know!

PS should i bring up that her friend told me she was trying to avoid me the other day?

 

[eaglez1177]

Well i finally was like yeah i could be free depending on when class gets out and asked why. She said she thinks we just need to get together and talk.

I figured im just delaying the inevitable here. So i said "yeah we def do, so im glad you brought it up." Then she was like im free at 3 tmrw if tnight is not convientent? and i was said no the sooner the better.

Anyway, im going to class now and that gets out at 8 and we are talking at 9 so ill have an hour to read your guys advice for how i should handle this talk after im done with class.

I'm thinking i have 3 options, let me know what u guys think

1. Let her start it and listen to her fake story about blah blah this isnt working right now and just say ok bye without showing emotion.

2. Pre-emptively dump her saying that in the beginning i really liked you but when you started to get flakey it became a huge turn off for me and that im really too old for that kind of stuff.

3. Come to some kind of agreement that we both think this is whats best right now and act like this is what i wanted all along and not be sad.

Thanks for the help guys. im gonna be going off ur game plan so let me know!

PS should i bring up that her friend told me she was trying to avoid me the other day?

Dont do number 1. Definitely do not do that because it will seem like SHE is the one dumping YOU. Don't do number 3, theres no "agreements" in this kind of situation.

Your going to do number 2. This is how it should go:

-You're gonna see her
-YOU are gonna be the first one to talk
-Then you're gonna dump her right there on the spot and then walk away showing absolutely ZERO emotion.

Chances are shes gonna ask questions like "what did I do wrong?" "how long have you been feeling this way?", etc. Be prepared for that.

And do not bring up the thing about her friend. You already know what her friend said and how she was trying to avoid you. Theres no denying that and there is NO explanation needed. Letting your gf explain will only cast doubt on your decision to break up with her!

 

[sasffl]

Ok its gonna be at my apt though, so i cant really walk away and i feel like showing her the door is kinda emotional. SHould i explain about how her flakiness was just a huge turn off, or just say

sorry this isnt working out... and not answer anything else she has to say.

 

[sasffl]

Also i feel like if i start to say this isnt working out shes just gonna start agreeing me with.