So we finally talked today, and I think some of your predictions were wrong but heres what happened.
I decided to go into it and read her body language then decide whether to take preemptive action. I had her christmas presents from awhile ago that we hadnt exchanged yet all ready in a bag to make it look as thought this might be goodbye.
She came in all happy and i gave her her presents and she really liked them, then i got serious and was like look whats been going on. She told me she has been really depressed and that her job is horrible and shes trying to find a new one. She started saying she didnt know if she could handle a relationship right now being so depressed and that she was scared we were suddenly so serious just after she ended a 3 month relationship.
From this i was like ok obviously its coming, so i better make the first move and i tell her look i think your right im not sure its best for us to be together if you really dont wanna try and make this work. And i said i dunno if you want space or a break or what but im really not gonna put up with that. She
She started crying saying that the past two weeks have been awful for her.
and that she had been giving me the run around because she wanted to delay this talk past the weekend.
I didn't fall for the crying trap, as you all said here, and continued on talking. I said if you dont think u can commit to this than maybe we should end this.
Then i was like what do you want to do? and she said she didnt know and asked what i wanted to do, and i told her if she really was depressed that i understood cuzi have been there before and that we could continue to try this and that i would do everything i could to support her. And she said yeah thats what I want to do too. So then she stopped crying and we talked a little bit more and she said she would try to be less flakey and talk to me more but she said she has always had probs communicating. I then asked if she had been cheating on me and she said no but that she saw her ex bf( which she already told me) when she was out of town at her old school and they talked and it freaked her out that their 3 year relationship ended and she was suddenly in another one and thats why she had been acting weird. But she told me they didnt do anything.
Whether or not they did i have no way of knowing, but i do know shes never gonna see him again cuz its so far away. Anyway after all that we had sex. And she told me she loved me and that she was sorry to put me through this. We hung out a little longer then she left and i went to class. Got a text from her saying "Im happy we're ok
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I'm still skeptical about this whole thing, I gave her many chances to end it, and if she did cheat on me i have to give her the benefit of the doubt cuz i have no evidence.
Anyway i have already lined up some other girls because i dont really know which way this is gonna go since shes so emotionally unstable. She applying for new jobs and hopefully she'll get one.
I do really believe her which is why i went light on her but from now on im gonna be much more mysterious and not as available as i was before. She wants to go to this bar with me tomorrow night and out fridasy andsat night.
Let me know what you guys think.
